Liking someone else while in a relationship...

This happened to me literally about a month ago, I ended up breaking up with my boyfriend because it isn't fair on him, in my opinion liking somebody else is emotionally cheating, and now me and the new guy are seeing each other. Best of luck!

Honestly, it sounds like you just don't want to be in your current relationship. Maybe put some time apart to truly think about what it is that you want - are you seriously committed to the relationship now? You say that you doubt it'll last much longer, so that could just be that you know it's time to end it. If you know wholeheartedly that you don't want to be with your boyfriend then I suggest ending it. It's better to do that now rather than two years down the line when he finds out you've cheated (or vice versa, of course). Then again, having doubts and this crush on the new guy could just simply be because of insecurities or slight boredom. Either way, think about it, talk to your boyfriend, and hopefully everything sorts itself out.

Make sure you're not just seeing the best in this new guy because of the issues going on with your boyfriend. You need to take a step back and think to yourself, are you going to throw away your year and a half relationship for a crush that may or may not be interested, and my or may not actually be a really great person after first impressions.

Of course, if you start wanting to act on your feelings for this new guy then it's probably time to end it with your guy. Don't drag him along if you're interested in someone else, I'm sure you'd hate for him to do the same.

Good luck x

That is what I'm worried about, pinning any hope on getting with the new guy cos it's not likely to happen! But I know either way that I do want to be alone and single for a while, and the fact that I felt this way before meeting the guy too I'm just quite conflicted atm, don't want to make a mistake breaking up but then again I'm obviously not happy with this relationship... it just makes me sad that my boyfriend's changed, he used to be so different to the way he is now. I wish I could go back to when we were really happy together.

I think you should focus on just being friends with this guy until your sort things out with your boyfriend. It may be tempting but you can't have them both! It's always a worry to people that breakups will be a mistake, but you have to put it into perspective - are you going to be happy in the long run with somebody you're already having doubts about?

People do change, and it's very difficult to adapt yourself to them when they do, and sometimes you just can't. Sit him down and talk to him about how you feel, see if he has any similar feelings, and sort out what you're going to do next. Make sure you're happy whatever you decide.

That's what I keep thinking, that if it's this bad now then am I really going to feel any differently in a week, a month's time? I feel so bad though, he clearly wants to continue the relationship... but I think the best thing for us to do is go on a 'break' so I can see how I feel and see whether I'm any happier, but that's so selfish of me to basically ask if we can temporarily break up maybe forever. I want to do right by him as well as make myself happy but it's so hard

When myself and my ex were arguing a lot we took a break, and it opened my eyes so how much happier I was without him. It could work either way for you, but in the long run could help you see how you are both with and without him. Although, be prepared for your boyfriend to take you wanting a break the wrong way, it's a lot to ask in a relationship.

Personally if you feel like this, I really think you should break up with your boyfriend, it is not fair if you are not into him.

When myself and my ex were arguing a lot we took a break, and it opened my eyes so how much happier I was without him. It could work either way for you, but in the long run could help you see how you are both with and without him. Although, be prepared for your boyfriend to take you wanting a break the wrong way, it's a lot to ask in a relationship.

You know if you truly loved your boyfriend you wouldn't have fallen in love with this new guy.....
you mentioned that your bf has changed...well remind him of those things that he used to do.....let him know that he has changed now and he'll probably explain why. What is it about this new guy that u like? His looks? His personality?

My boyfriend and I recently took a week apart (it wasn't labelled 'break', however...) - we had been fighting a lot and had a long-standing issue that was going nowhere, and resurfacing. Around the same time, I had hardly seen my boyfriend (because he was travelling for work a lot) while I saw this new guy a lot, and started to develop feelings for him.

When my bf and I met up again, we still weren't sure what to do because we knew we couldn't continue being unhappy - but decided to give it a try. For a couple of weeks after, things were still tense. But more recently, things have been really happy again - we started dating again, and just having lots of fun - it's been exactly what we needed! But while keeping in mind what we need to do differently and making an effort with each other - not taking one another for granted.

I think you need to think: what did you first love about your boyfriend? Do you think if you didn't have feelings for this other guy, you might have a chance to rekindle the spark with your boyfriend. I've realised that in the past I would've been more likely to just give up on a relationship, and move on to a new guy - but I don't think people you 'love' should be that easily expendable. I also think when you are in love with a person you have to make a concentrated effort not to fall for someone else - don't get me wrong, I think there is a good chance, I could fall for this other guy - there will be more than one guy out there I could be with - but for now, I choose to be happy with this one and make the relationship work.