Unsure about my girlfriends views on casual sex ?

Anon or delete.

I'm in my early twenties and more traditional in my views. Not religious in the slightest but I don't like casual sex because there's a huge emotional component involved for me - I tried it a few times after my last breakup as an ego boost but it just felt wrong. I've only had one previous relationship which was a long term one.

Before we met about a year back, she'd had alot of casual sex whilst growing up during her teenage years and being single with Uni etc.

Her past doesn't bother me so much, I mean obviously I dislike the thought of her with anyone else, but it's none of my business and that's not the issue.

What unsettles me is that she doesn't get as much emotionally out of sex as I do. For example (and sorry for being graphic) I'm more relaxed and loving in bed. I'm more the go slow and appreciate type, whereas she's more about getting pounded for pure sexual satisfaction - something which obviously has correlation with our previously different kind of sexual encounters (Put simply , imagine the stereotype of what a guy and girl wants from sex and then flip it around). She'll even admit that it's more an emotional act for me herself but can't appreciate it being an issue.

If anything were to happen and we broke up I doubt it would take very long for her to jump back in the sack. Where this once again would be none of my business.. it still suggests to me that sex isn't such an emotional big deal for her and that bothers me.

Can anyone relate and give me some advice on how I can get over this ?

How long have you been together?
All I can suggest is that the longer you are together, the more she may see sex as an emotional attachment.
In the meantime, express how you enjoy sex (slow etc.) and try to have a equal amount of sex which she enjoys, and what you enjoy. If that makes sense?
Also, if you manage to make her orgasm in the way that you enjoy sex, it might make her realise how much she does enjoy your way

Hey thanks for the reply. We've been together for almost a year now.

The problem is that because its been a year its come to a point where it just is the way its going to be. She always orgasms the way i do it and there is definitely an emotional element for her. There's just an insecurity on my part because I fail to believe if once can indulge in casual sex, then they are able to get as much out of it emotionally.

I cant seem to find any threads online similar to my issue. Only threads about a partners past which is not the issue here, its her morals that are the issue.

Hey thanks for the reply. We've been together for almost a year now.

The problem is that because its been a year its come to a point where it just is the way its going to be. She always orgasms the way i do it and there is definitely an emotional element for her. There's just an insecurity on my part because I fail to believe if once can indulge in casual sex, then they are able to get as much out of it emotionally.

I cant seem to find any threads online similar to my issue. Only threads about a partners past which is not the issue here, its her morals that are the issue.