Sensitive topic. Why?

Isn't it obvious?

He clearly still has some residual feelings, and the way you phrased the text seemed like a bit of a slap in the face to him.

Isn't it obvious?

He clearly still has some residual feelings, and the way you phrased the text seemed like a bit of a slap in the face to him.

Well clearly all his feelings for you aren't gone and the way you phrased it it probably did seem like you were just rubbing the fact you were going out with a guy in his face, even if you weren't.

But it was only an accident. I text him about some good news I had and he wished me well and I said I was going out with a friend to celebrate...I didn't expect such a reaction.

Now you have said it though, there is other things that point that way. I thinkI should try and be wary? I don't really know what to do now. I hoped it was just me over reacting to silly things

How is this a sensitive topic?

When you break up with someone, your feelings for them don't go away immediately; they definitely don't for me. After one break up, I thought plenty of times of contacting my ex and seeing if we could get back together. I resisted the temptation in the end. However, in that time, if I had heard from her that she was seeing someone else, it would have certainly affected me.

It sounds like his feelings for you are quite strong. Whilst staying as friends for now may work out best for you both, if you started dating someone and in particular you told him about it, I wouldn't be surprised if he got a bit upset or behaved a little bit funny. It's not an easy thing to move on from your girlfriend/boyfriend especially if you were very close and still care for them a lot.

For you it was a miscommunication, obviously he didn't know that at the time, so the fact it was an accident on your part doesn't change why he responded how he did. Obviously you're going to need to be a bit sensative for a while.

Yeah I think I will be. Asking this question I have realised there has been a few more warning signs so to speak, such as how he misses me and doesn't ever want to hurt me again. He also told me a little while back how he things would be different if we could do it all again and how he has never dated since. I think I have been a bit foolish, but I was hurt so I just shut myself off from all emotion and intuition.

It's easy to do, especially if one of you is more over it than the other. Did you have any time apart after the break-up, or did you go straight to 'just friends', because from experience, that can be a pretty difficult transition.

That's very honest advice. We have been broken up over a year now and throughout that time we have never been able to 'not speak'. We fight a lot and are both as bad as each other, so we have long periods (months even) where we do not communicate to calm down but one of us normally gives in haha.

This is why although it was poor communication by me, I didn't expect his reaction... Because of the length of time we have been apart.

Oh god, I feel awful but it wasn't intended to mean this way. He told me categorically he does not feel anything romantic towards me, so even if I had said it to get a reaction from him, I don't think I would have expected that reaction. I am going to be more careful

We stopped talking for a few months and then we met up as we both agreed on this. He ended up kissing me to which I didn't want and seemed hurt that I never kissed him back. We stopped talking again, as it stirred up some feelings I was trying to get over and since then we have had contact, had an argument over something ridiculous literally anything and so stopped talking for sometimes 2-3 months if not more, then one of us have broken contact. We have met up now and again, to which he normally asks for coffee and has offered to take me out, as friends, to the cinemas etc

You sound like a married couple lol

A year is a long time, but it sounds as though both of you still have strong feelings for each other. Since you're both talking to each other on good terms and you're both calm, maybe its a good time to give your relationship another go? I always think its a shame to throw away a long term relationship - I'm sure now that you're older, have had time away and he realises how he could have done things differently, it may work out a lot better the second time around. Best of luck

Oh, well he should probably be a bit less sensative by now then to be fair, but everyone works at different rates.