You don't to know this guy very well but are projecting all sorts of traits onto him and really analysing his behviour. I get it - when someone piques our interest and they seem to be interested, it's hard not to think about it a bit. But only for a short period is that ok. You then either decide that he's too much of a 'player' for you and move on, or your put your judgements aside, get to know him better and see where it leads. I know you gave your reasons to think like this, but I think your judgement about him being a player is, well... judgemental. You might see him in photos on Facebook with loads of girls, but think about it: a lot of people pose for photos with people they don't like and know. And the 'lad' comments are coming from his friends, not him - loads of guys comment with 'lad' when their mates simply speak to a girl. If he knows loads of girls and you seem to have held his attention over a period of time, that has to mean something. If you had loads of male friends (perhaps you do), how would you feel if you learned that he was put off making a move on you because he just assumed that you were a bit of a one for the guys? Maybe he does think that? Bottom line is that you have to work out whether he is worth the risk. Every guy carries risk. In some ways you are more likely to get hurt by a guy who is clueless about women and most definitely not a 'player' than one who is perhaps more experienced with women. You could be missing out on a really nice guy if you just go with your first impression and aren't willing to take a risk because you're too concerned about not getting hurt.