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A close friend asked me to have sex

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Sounds like he groomed you. Odd phrase to use here, but that's what it sounds like. If you are under the legal age of sexual consent I strongly suggest you don't meet him, especially seeing as you haven't mentioned that you have actually 'seen' what he looks like. Pictures don't count you need webcam or something.

Reply 21

Chief Wiggum

Original post by Anonymous

No the two things are different. I asked to get to know him more as who he was. I thought I could build a good relationship with him. He rejected it and I was fine after a while.

Asking for sex is not the same thing as asking to get to know someone more.

Did you not say you asked him on a date? So you were interested in him romantically?

So it's not like he was the only one interested in more than friendship. Obviously sex is "more" than just a date, but if you had asked him on a date, it's perhaps understandable why he asked for sex?

I don't really know what to advise in terms of meeting him or not though.

Reply 22

purplesmurf

Don't do it less u want to

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Reply 23

Ndella

If I were you wouldn't meet him at all. If he doesn't want a relationship, why does he want to have sex with you? Also that sex before love thing sounds completely illogical - it's pretty clear he only wants to sleep with you.

Reply 24

HopefulSoul

Haha just no. Don't go there. He has been trying to get close to you for that reason and now that your nearing the date he has revealed his true colours

Reply 25

zedaa

Original post by Steevee

He's been working hard on you for 9 months, a least give him a handjob for effort eh?

i've used up all my ratings, but this made me laugh out louddd :ahee:

Reply 26

Think89

Sounds fishy to me. If you do meet him at least make sure its in a public place or something. For all you know he could be anyone.

Reply 27

RemiMarcelle

If you have never met him before you can't really call him a close friend, and because you haven't met him, him asking you for sex is wrong, really wrong, and you should understand that.

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Reply 28

Anonymous #1

Original post by RemiMarcelle

Thank you I am trying hard to think so! He just sent me a message saying it got out of hand yesterday. He did not expect it at all... he said please don't think he is just interested in me for sex...

I really think he is scary... he knows what to say to make me forgive him...

Reply 29

Journeyzap

To be honest, sounds like he isn't interested in you romantically but thought he might try his hand to see if he can get some sex.

Not sure he is as great a friend as you hoped he was.

Reply 30

ThatPerson

Original post by Anonymous

Yeah, I wouldn't meet him or talk to him again. If you haven't met him or even properly spoken to him, he seems really dodgy. Especially with the whole asking for sex and the apologising when he senses that he's gone too far for now. Out of curiosity are you under 18? Because if so, then really don't consider meeting him.

Reply 31

CodeJack

Your first mistake was looking for a friend on a dating site...

Reply 32

Silver Arrow

Original post by eliza.anne

When you put it so charmingly how could anyone resist. :rolleyes:

I don't beat around the bush-well i do, if you catch my drift :wink:

I like getting straight to the point and down to business.

Reply 33

Truflais

Original post by Silver Arrow

I don't beat around the bush-well i do, if you catch my drift :wink:

I like getting straight to the point and down to business.

Rofl. The imagery...How crude. :rolleyes:

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Reply 34

username1060288

Sounds like he's been grooming you. Have you got someone you can talk things over with who you trust? It's sad when people we've invested time in turn out to not be who we thought :frown:

Reply 35

Solid.Snake

You haven't even met him in person and he wants to have sex with you? :lolwut:

If i were you OP, i'd stay away from him. If not at least meet him in person first and get to know him properly before committing to sex...

Reply 36

bahjat93

Original post by Anonymous

I met him on an online dating website 9 months ago. I told him I was only looing for a friend first. We got along really well and became really close friends. I first told him I thought he was a good person to date. He refused me and he did not want to meet me ( he expected me to travel to see him ).

After I figured my own emotions out we returned to be good friends again. I told him everything in my life. He helped me with many down points in my life. I thought it was a good ideal at least meeting him as a good friend of mine.

I will be meeting him in person in 3 day time ( I will travel to see him ) and he just asked me if I want to have sex with him. I was so shocked. I said no as I do not sleep with my close friends. He told me he believed sex comes before love. His excuse was because he got heartbroken.

After talking to him yesterday, he managed to make me feel I should not change my thoughts about him as a nice friend who helped me a lot despite what he had asked me about sex.

Should I carrying on being his friend and meeting him soon? Or should I not meet him at all?

That's the thing with meeting people online :/. You never know what kind of creeps they turn out to be in real life!
What if he has some kind of PENIS deformation!
Just meet people the normal way!!!!!!!!!!