Do you let your bf go to strip clubs?

Lol, that's actually kind of hot. Like pretending your gf/wife is a hooker and you meet at a bus stop or whatever. Except this time it's real, kind of. Oh, reading that back, I don't mean to say you're anything like a hooker, but just that's more common than a stripper I guess.

And yea, maybe if women were better at seeing things from a men's perspective, and vice versa, there would be better communication.

Whether he sees it as sexual stimuli is sort of obvious (unless he had the night arranged for him and had no say in it). Not just him, of course. Anyone. The only selling point a strip bar has over a regular bar or club, is the women/men who dance. So, whether the guy/girl is being faithful or not, they are meant to be choosing to celebrate their supposed satisfaction and unity with you, yet are spending that day staring at other naked people.

However, I do entirely agree that, as you said, in a lot of cases it's just considered tradition to do it, and there's no real thought gone into it. However, that's a tradition I'd be glad to lose lol.

Haha It's okay I get you!
I tried to make him get one from someone else instead!I was like 'Wuh?! You've seen it all before!!' lol
And yes definitely agree on the last point!

What? Why? He was probably thinking all the time "imna hit that later". So much hotter than with a stranger, no?

I'd have no issue with it... But I think I'm more interested in going to strip clubs than he is. Maybe we'll make it a date sometime...

what's the difference in a private dance?(if she only strips)

my ex got a lap dance once and i watched - had enough mental imagery stored to keep me VERY HAPPY for awhile.



Going in with your mates is one thing and watching the stage shows but getting a private dance, one on one is summat different to some i guess.

And if my gf actually tried to "forbid me" to do anything it would actually make me more determined to do it. Im not a child or a dog and she does not own me. She can explain her reasoning and her feelings on the matter and i would respect that - but she is not my master

Oh definitely, I'm not saying it's basically the same as going to a pub or whatever because obviously it isn't :P Just that it's unlikely that at least most of the guys I know would be in it for mainly that? I don't know what I mean. I just can't imagine any of my guy friends being like 'it'd be so hot' or whatever, they're more 'it'd be a laugh' or 'it'd be awesome' or whatever. The tradition aspect, & the fact that I also wouldn't have an issue with it as an occasional thing once we were married I guess means I don't see it as a huge deal. I don't think I'd feel threatened by it.

Strip clubs in Roscommon? Surely a good agricultural show is enough entertainment in those parts.

My boyfriend has gone once on a night out, and we were together at the time. I wasn't bothered in the slightest, because he told me he was going, and then told me about it afterwards (including the fact that he was bored the whole time). I think if he was going on a weekly basis, I might be bothered, just because it's a lot of money for something that he could get elsewhere for free... But who am I to counter human nature? Human beings are naturally voyeuristic. Trying to control your boyfriend's vision is a step to far, in my opinion. As long as he's not off ****ing someone else, I'm alright.

Anon as she's on here but knows.

I went and she wasn't happy. Didn't know it would be like that as it was my first private dance. But she let me kiss her everywhere from head to toe and touch anything.