He says I broke his trust

Anon please.


I've been with my bf almost a year. He's my first proper real relationship and guy that I've ever really cared about.

He rang me last night to say he didn't want to see me anymore because I had lost his trust. I went skiing with my uni a while back and spoke to him drunk a few times. I also kissed a gay friend when drunk on this trip.
Bf was unhappy about this and gave me a warning, I immediately apologised, he then took it back and said he was being over sensitive.

I've had insecurities in out relationship since it began - he didn't want a relationship but changed his mind when I walked away from us.
He also is not very open or forward about any feelings for me - he can't say I love you (not something he says apparently)

I really love him so much. But I act stupid because I'm so paranoid about losing him. I was really stupid at the weekend - he never lets me hang out with his friends and he was going out, I told him I felt separated from his life so he said I could come. I drank too much and ended up dancing with a different guy after wandering off to find the toilets. I was so drunk but I know I did it to see if he cares (that logic is messed up right) His friend saw and told him. He was very mad and asked me why and told me he does care and I'm silly if I can't see it.

We went back to normal for a few days but he called me to end it. We talked for 3 hours and he says he doesn't know what to do or think...maybe he should end it now rather than prolong breaking up. He said he might give me a second chance. We haven't talk since then. I don't know what to do other than give him space.

I would be mad at my bf if he got upset with my dancing with other guys, but kissing someone else is off the table!

We go clubbing together quite a lot and you need some 'separate time' just dancing with other friends, if you're just gonna dance together or kiss or whatever, why go out?

Depends what you call dancing, especially in a night club.

I would be mad at my bf if he got upset with my dancing with other guys, but kissing someone else is off the table!

We go clubbing together quite a lot and you need some 'separate time' just dancing with other friends, if you're just gonna dance together or kiss or whatever, why go out?

Anon please.


I've been with my bf almost a year. He's my first proper real relationship and guy that I've ever really cared about.

He rang me last night to say he didn't want to see me anymore because I had lost his trust. I went skiing with my uni a while back and spoke to him drunk a few times. I also kissed a gay friend when drunk on this trip.
Bf was unhappy about this and gave me a warning, I immediately apologised, he then took it back and said he was being over sensitive.

I've had insecurities in out relationship since it began - he didn't want a relationship but changed his mind when I walked away from us.
He also is not very open or forward about any feelings for me - he can't say I love you (not something he says apparently)

I really love him so much. But I act stupid because I'm so paranoid about losing him. I was really stupid at the weekend - he never lets me hang out with his friends and he was going out, I told him I felt separated from his life so he said I could come. I drank too much and ended up dancing with a different guy after wandering off to find the toilets. I was so drunk but I know I did it to see if he cares (that logic is messed up right) His friend saw and told him. He was very mad and asked me why and told me he does care and I'm silly if I can't see it.

We went back to normal for a few days but he called me to end it. We talked for 3 hours and he says he doesn't know what to do or think...maybe he should end it now rather than prolong breaking up. He said he might give me a second chance. We haven't talk since then. I don't know what to do other than give him space.

I'm confused as to whether the OP is a guy or a girl!

I'm guessing girl but not 100% certain.

I really don't want to break up.

I know I need to drink less and have more faith in our relationship..

The question is what do I need to do to make it work?

There's nothing you can do to force him to trust you again. Even if he forgives you there's a massive difference between forgiving and forgetting, I know that I could never trust my OH if he acted like you did.

I really don't want to break up.

I know I need to drink less and have more faith in our relationship..

The question is what do I need to do to make it work?

Do you think I should just give up hope its going to work out okay?