Is public transport REALLY a no-go place to approach women?

Yeah, because I for one am in no way creeped out by random guy spilling his drink all over my brand new bag.

Is it really the worst place to approach women? Is there a way of ever doing it without feeling awkward and making her feel very awkward? It's frustrating because everyday you have to use this and you're surrounded by women you find attractive all the time, though its the most depressing place ever (just look at the drivers and conductors - they're miserable as hell)

I find that the only way people ever talk on public transport is if something bad happens (e.g. An accident), but you can't go causing them haha...



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Precisely what whatsername said! It's quite a difficult scenario in which to approach a girl. More often than not, they're not expecting to be chatted up when travelling on buses or trains. They may be also in a rush to get to work/uni/college or be really tired after a long hard day!

There are some girls, however, who are quite happy to start chatting. I find it comes down to a bit of luck. In another thread, I wrote that girls who do want train romances should make themselves more approachable by smiling, eye contact, right body language etc. Before I approach a girl, I would look for these tell tale signs before saying those all important first few words! You can often gauge from eye contact and the response you get when you smile at a girl if she would welcome a conversation.

I find that its easier to approach a girl who is a regular on the same train journey as you. This has happened to me once; this girl used to get the same train as me pretty much every day. After a few days of smiling, eye contact and pleasantries, I was able to say "how was work today .... what do you do" and it just went from there. That was a relatively smooth route to striking a conversation because I had seen her a few times. So personally, I tend to approach girls I have seen a couple of times, otherwise chatting up someone on a train that you've just come across is a bit too random, unless they're drop dead gorgeous!

You do get some pretty ladies on the underground, not that I have made an attempt to talk to one!

Obviously I'd make it look like an accident, and avoid spilling it over parts of your body that would piss you off, like your face. Furthermore, unless you a buy new bag every week it's not a "brand new bag" What's creepy about an apparent accident? Nothing.

You remember that guy on the news that punched a girl in the back of the head? He said he did it because she gave him a bad look.

On the bus in London, there was a guy who kept looking at me in a weird way so I smiled at him out of fear in case he thought I was giving him a dirty look. The rest of the journey he approached me and asked me many personal questions that I felt uncomfortable answering until eventually I apologised and told him I had to get off, and then I walked all the way home from there.

I would usually say that smiling is a good indication that she's comfortable/wants to be approached, but this guy ruined this notion for me too.

Yeah, because I for one am in no way creeped out by random guy spilling his drink all over my brand new bag.

You do get some pretty ladies on the underground, not that I have made an attempt to talk to one!

You would be surprised, our culture is very different to that in other countries if you have noticed. In other places its quite normal to start up a conversation in a public place with a stranger. London is of course probably the worst place to do that, everyone is in a foul mood and just wanting to get to where they need to.

Yeah, also Londoners are the type to walk past an injured person on a platform without helping, although you will get the one or two that will help

I'm a Londoner myself

True say, its good to have a social conscience towards others, but as you say the genuine consensus is to just casually walk on.

Having said that, if you consider long/short haul flights.....fantastic place to strike up a conversation with someone...you be surprised the kind of people you meet.....yeah you meet some incredibly good looking women ....good to carry a business card....

Business card loool, make sure you keep at least 10 on you

Haha, its a good way though, especially in public without going to do a whole massive intro, because soon as someone sees a corporate logo etc. Its natural to find out like on facebook who this person is.....you again be surprised how people just add you etc and start up a conversation that way again....its creating a "cold lead" into a "warm" one.

Is it really the worst place to approach women?

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Really? So have you had ladies add you after giving them the business card?

haha, legend, I need to try that.

So how do you approach the girl, do you talk about something like, 'how long you been waiting for a train'? (even though tube trains are like every minute).