Girl refuses to talk to me for almost a year for no apparent reason

Hi all,

For this problem to be in context I'll have to start from the beginning of our friendship.

We've known each other for about 5/6 years, and we first met on a popular MMO. We grew friendly and stayed in regular contact meeting other people, and we kept a similar online friend-base.

We lost contact for a year or so but then I found her on facebook and we got talking again. We didn't stop talking (I have chatlogs of over 6000 messages) and spent evenings texting and chatting to each other and got on really really well.

We and a few others from the same group met up in London and had a great time.

She ended up having problems about her ex that I won't talk about but I helped her through it. Her sisters even messaged me, thanking me for being a great friend. It was partly because of this that I then grew feelings for her. I'd always found her attractive, but started viewing her differently - I don't think she ever knew this.

I got an invite to go to her birthday party last May at a restaurant with a group of girls I'd never met. I'm a little awkward meeting new people, so this was a huge thing for me. The night went well and I went home feeling like I had a good time. And, as you'd expect, my feelings grew.

Enter June, and we had only spoken sporadically - partly because it was exam period (I'm at university) and she was preparing to go in the autumn. "Fair enough", I thought, "summer's here soon".

I login one day on Facebook, and she's offline. This is odd as I knew she always had her phone or her laptop on. So I looked her up - no luck. I left it a few days - maybe she'd deactivated her facebook? Then nothing. She'd blocked and deleted me from Facebook, and blocked me on Twitter.

I became distraught. I wondered what I had done. I was frantically looking through the chat logs to see if I buggered up. Nothing. Not a sausage.

Mid-june I thought enough was enough and contacted her father to try and get some answers. He was extremely understanding, but apparently her message was "he knows what he did". I thought well, if she's going to be like this, I won't bother with her anymore.

Fast forward to a few days ago and still no word. I decided to make a second Twitter and tweeted her, asking if she was still mad at me - no response. I login today on my emails and find that she had followed me - I got so excited. I logged onto Twitter, tried to follow her, couldn't because I was blocked. I checked my followers list - she wasn't on there. Maybe this was her way of saying "go away"? If it is, it's a stupid way of doing it. Maybe Twitter imposes a time-delay if you unblock accounts? She still could have tweeted my second twitter.

I'm at a loss of what to do now. Any more messages and I'll feel I'm harassing her. But I want to know what I did wrong to make her feel like this about me. I have no enemies, I'm the kind of guy nobody has any problems with. I had/have very strong feelings for this girl, and it feels like I'm banging my head against a brick wall.

Thank you for taking the time to read this, and well done if you've made it this far. If you have any suggestions, I'm absolutely willing to listen. Thank you.

Im sorry to say this but you have been friendzoned. No getting out

Im sorry to say this but you have been friendzoned. No getting out

OP I have been there before - its ****. You waste all that time validating her ego only to get nothing worthwhile back.

This happened to me on my first ever real crush. It changed my life. Its character building if anything.

How did you change things around?

Will help OP to know.

Just stopped treating girls like demi-gods and spoke to them in a very nonchalant manner. I also stopped coming across as so desperate and I prioritized having fun and my friends more than trying to get a girl. Once I started being happy and enjoying life the girls came to me. This was around 9 years ago and I've not changed ever since.

Hi all,

For this problem to be in context I'll have to start from the beginning of our friendship.

We've known each other for about 5/6 years, and we first met on a popular MMO. We grew friendly and stayed in regular contact meeting other people, and we kept a similar online friend-base.

We lost contact for a year or so but then I found her on facebook and we got talking again. We didn't stop talking (I have chatlogs of over 6000 messages) and spent evenings texting and chatting to each other and got on really really well.

We and a few others from the same group met up in London and had a great time.

She ended up having problems about her ex that I won't talk about but I helped her through it. Her sisters even messaged me, thanking me for being a great friend. It was partly because of this that I then grew feelings for her. I'd always found her attractive, but started viewing her differently - I don't think she ever knew this.

I got an invite to go to her birthday party last May at a restaurant with a group of girls I'd never met. I'm a little awkward meeting new people, so this was a huge thing for me. The night went well and I went home feeling like I had a good time. And, as you'd expect, my feelings grew.

Enter June, and we had only spoken sporadically - partly because it was exam period (I'm at university) and she was preparing to go in the autumn. "Fair enough", I thought, "summer's here soon".

I login one day on Facebook, and she's offline. This is odd as I knew she always had her phone or her laptop on. So I looked her up - no luck. I left it a few days - maybe she'd deactivated her facebook? Then nothing. She'd blocked and deleted me from Facebook, and blocked me on Twitter.

I became distraught. I wondered what I had done. I was frantically looking through the chat logs to see if I buggered up. Nothing. Not a sausage.

Mid-june I thought enough was enough and contacted her father to try and get some answers. He was extremely understanding, but apparently her message was "he knows what he did". I thought well, if she's going to be like this, I won't bother with her anymore.

Fast forward to a few days ago and still no word. I decided to make a second Twitter and tweeted her, asking if she was still mad at me - no response. I login today on my emails and find that she had followed me - I got so excited. I logged onto Twitter, tried to follow her, couldn't because I was blocked. I checked my followers list - she wasn't on there. Maybe this was her way of saying "go away"? If it is, it's a stupid way of doing it. Maybe Twitter imposes a time-delay if you unblock accounts? She still could have tweeted my second twitter.

I'm at a loss of what to do now. Any more messages and I'll feel I'm harassing her. But I want to know what I did wrong to make her feel like this about me. I have no enemies, I'm the kind of guy nobody has any problems with. I had/have very strong feelings for this girl, and it feels like I'm banging my head against a brick wall.

Thank you for taking the time to read this, and well done if you've made it this far. If you have any suggestions, I'm absolutely willing to listen. Thank you.

Hi all,

For this problem to be in context I'll have to start from the beginning of our friendship.

We've known each other for about 5/6 years, and we first met on a popular MMO. We grew friendly and stayed in regular contact meeting other people, and we kept a similar online friend-base.

We lost contact for a year or so but then I found her on facebook and we got talking again. We didn't stop talking (I have chatlogs of over 6000 messages) and spent evenings texting and chatting to each other and got on really really well.

We and a few others from the same group met up in London and had a great time.

She ended up having problems about her ex that I won't talk about but I helped her through it. Her sisters even messaged me, thanking me for being a great friend. It was partly because of this that I then grew feelings for her. I'd always found her attractive, but started viewing her differently - I don't think she ever knew this.

I got an invite to go to her birthday party last May at a restaurant with a group of girls I'd never met. I'm a little awkward meeting new people, so this was a huge thing for me. The night went well and I went home feeling like I had a good time. And, as you'd expect, my feelings grew.

Enter June, and we had only spoken sporadically - partly because it was exam period (I'm at university) and she was preparing to go in the autumn. "Fair enough", I thought, "summer's here soon".

I login one day on Facebook, and she's offline. This is odd as I knew she always had her phone or her laptop on. So I looked her up - no luck. I left it a few days - maybe she'd deactivated her facebook? Then nothing. She'd blocked and deleted me from Facebook, and blocked me on Twitter.

I became distraught. I wondered what I had done. I was frantically looking through the chat logs to see if I buggered up. Nothing. Not a sausage.

Mid-june I thought enough was enough and contacted her father to try and get some answers. He was extremely understanding, but apparently her message was "he knows what he did". I thought well, if she's going to be like this, I won't bother with her anymore.

Fast forward to a few days ago and still no word. I decided to make a second Twitter and tweeted her, asking if she was still mad at me - no response. I login today on my emails and find that she had followed me - I got so excited. I logged onto Twitter, tried to follow her, couldn't because I was blocked. I checked my followers list - she wasn't on there. Maybe this was her way of saying "go away"? If it is, it's a stupid way of doing it. Maybe Twitter imposes a time-delay if you unblock accounts? She still could have tweeted my second twitter.

I'm at a loss of what to do now. Any more messages and I'll feel I'm harassing her. But I want to know what I did wrong to make her feel like this about me. I have no enemies, I'm the kind of guy nobody has any problems with. I had/have very strong feelings for this girl, and it feels like I'm banging my head against a brick wall.

Thank you for taking the time to read this, and well done if you've made it this far. If you have any suggestions, I'm absolutely willing to listen. Thank you.

listen OP, i know its hard, but you just need to forget about her, move on, its done. You said it yourself, you tried finding out, you asked her father, and even made a 2nd twitter account. I mean what else are you gonna do? keep suffering like this everday and waste the days thinking about her when she's already moving on? dont be stupid, be smart. There are other girls out there. Keep your head up.