guys, do you only want sex?

In my opinion, it equals only wanting sex when they ask for it unreasonably early on (i.e. a month), and get annoyed when you won't comply. Also, asking for it when you are drunk doesn't seem like something that someone who actually cared about the person would do! I also want sex - it's not that I don't - it's just that I want it with someone for whom it's a plus, rather than the only motivation for being with someone

Nope, I honestly don't place that much importance on sex, I find those boys who constantly post threads/questions about how to 'get' sex quite pathetic. Although sex is enjoyable, I see it as a very primitive need and find guys/girls that believe they will die if they don't have sex/masturbate any time soon as repulsive. If had with the right people and in the right situations sex can be amazing.

I do understand the importance sex has in a relationship though. Other than sex there are many things I would rank higher, this includes having someone who:

1. Is compatible with me, ie having similar political beliefs
2. Have goals in life (career)
3. Is good looking
3. Want similar things in life.
4. Have a sense of humour
5. Adventurous
6. Someone with whom no silent moments would be 'awkward'
7. Have meaningful conversations
6. Intelligent
7. Respectful
8. Likes my family
9. Likes dogs!
10. Many other things basically, someone with whom I can imagine having a future with <3

I feel as if every guy I've been out with has only wanted me for sex. I dumped my last boyfriend after he tried to make me have sex with him whilst I was drunk; I can;t seem to kiss a boy without him asking me for a blow job. Even when I was fourteen, in my first relationship, I was dumped after refusing to go further.

I don't really know what I do that gives off this vibe. I'm intelligent and, although I wouldn't call myself prudish, I don't have loose morals with regards to sex. I'm currently 17 and have never had sex - I'm so glad that I reject these guys' advances but I'm becoming exasperated and worried that it's something I'm doing??

thanks for any advice in advance

I feel as if every guy I've been out with has only wanted me for sex. I dumped my last boyfriend after he tried to make me have sex with him whilst I was drunk; I can;t seem to kiss a boy without him asking me for a blow job. Even when I was fourteen, in my first relationship, I was dumped after refusing to go further.

I don't really know what I do that gives off this vibe. I'm intelligent and, although I wouldn't call myself prudish, I don't have loose morals with regards to sex. I'm currently 17 and have never had sex - I'm so glad that I reject these guys' advances but I'm becoming exasperated and worried that it's something I'm doing??

thanks for any advice in advance

Personally, sex doesn't really mean much to me, I'ld rather leave that to whomever to take control of. There are some of us out there that have other interests, like being able to spend time with said person...

The only thing is, we aren't easy to find, because we're generally quite shy and to ourselves.

I feel as if every guy I've been out with has only wanted me for sex. I dumped my last boyfriend after he tried to make me have sex with him whilst I was drunk; I can;t seem to kiss a boy without him asking me for a blow job. Even when I was fourteen, in my first relationship, I was dumped after refusing to go further.

I don't really know what I do that gives off this vibe. I'm intelligent and, although I wouldn't call myself prudish, I don't have loose morals with regards to sex. I'm currently 17 and have never had sex - I'm so glad that I reject these guys' advances but I'm becoming exasperated and worried that it's something I'm doing??

thanks for any advice in advance

Go for the nerd at the back of the class, and see if that happens again. Blame your taste in men, not men.

I am funny, intelligent both academically and generally, and popular, and I've never known a girl to have a crush on me or my friends, the nerds. Pretty much all the guys with girlfriends are in the lowest academic sets and are gangster wannabes. Do you expect these boys to act sensible?

I know you can't deny physical attraction, but that alone shouldn't tempt you to engage in a relationship.

Just try it. Go for a nerd who spend their spare time revising and listens to classical music (if they'll accept you, that is; won't get a Romeo if you ain't a Juliet). And then see if it happens again. I hate to flip the nice-guys-finish-last card, but it couldn't be more true.

Yeah... that's bull****.

Men ARE men. Some men are better at hiding what they want than others, but if you gave a nerd a hot girlfriend, chances are he's going to want to get lucky, no matter how much Mozart and Bach he listens to. That might not be the ONLY thing he wants, but if you're honestly going to sit there and tell me that the only thing you'd EVER want to do is sit there and brush her hair and go shopping with her, etc, then your lying you're proverbial rocks off. In fact, give a nerd a girlfriend, and they're more likely than others to think they're entitled to it because they've 'earned' it by being super nice all the time. The world doesn't work that way.

I feel as if every guy I've been out with has only wanted me for sex. I dumped my last boyfriend after he tried to make me have sex with him whilst I was drunk; I can;t seem to kiss a boy without him asking me for a blow job. Even when I was fourteen, in my first relationship, I was dumped after refusing to go further.

I don't really know what I do that gives off this vibe. I'm intelligent and, although I wouldn't call myself prudish, I don't have loose morals with regards to sex. I'm currently 17 and have never had sex - I'm so glad that I reject these guys' advances but I'm becoming exasperated and worried that it's something I'm doing??

thanks for any advice in advance

Yeah... that's bull****.

Men ARE men. Some men are better at hiding what they want than others, but if you gave a nerd a hot girlfriend, chances are he's going to want to get lucky, no matter how much Mozart and Bach he listens to. That might not be the ONLY thing he wants, but if you're honestly going to sit there and tell me that the only thing you'd EVER want to do is sit there and brush her hair and go shopping with her, etc, then your lying you're proverbial rocks off. In fact, give a nerd a girlfriend, and they're more likely than others to think they're entitled to it because they've 'earned' it by being super nice all the time. The world doesn't work that way.

Typical, hackneyed tactic, making a positive correlation out to be a cause and effect.
Uh, I'm nerdy, and my friends more so, and I think I know my friends well enough to assure myself they're more decent than that. I think maybe you're bringing up the stereotypical 'nerd', which I'm also at fault for, but I'm referring to someone intelligent, not necessarily academically but generally, who would have the decency not to chose their partner based on, at least not solely, physical attraction.