Ladies - what's the weirdest and worst way a guy has approached you?

I was in a taxi and, feeling happy and contented, waved at the guy who had been waving eagerly at me in the car behind, thinking nothing of it.

I paid for my taxi and walked into the reception area, waiting to see one of my best friends at their university. Five minutes later, whilst I was still waiting for her to arrive, the man from the car approached me (having followed me from the taxi) and just stood beside me, saying nothing. This happened for about two minutes until he says 'hi,' asking me if I was single etc.

Pretended that approaching friend was my girlfriend in order to get away as fast as possible.

He probably was shy, you know.

Imagine if you were a guy (guys generally dont have women approaching them) and are expected to make the first move. Would you act any differently?

You girls annoy me sometimes, when we dont try, we need to be more confident, when we do try, we are weirdos - homosexuality is the way forward for men.

He probably was shy, you know.

Imagine if you were a guy (guys generally dont have women approaching them) and are expected to make the first move. Would you act any differently?

You girls annoy me sometimes, when we dont try, we need to be more confident, when we do try, we are weirdos - homosexuality is the way forward for men.

So girls, what is the best way to approach you without seeming to be pervy, creepy or weird?

You gotta admire these guys efforts at least?

Ok, first of all: if the guy was shy, then why would he have followed a girl he didn't know (who was about ten years younger than him) out of a taxi into a reception area of a university that he wasn't a part of? (He eventually told me this).

To answer your rhetorical or otherwise question, I would not try and approach a girl by following her taxi. It was 10pm on a Sunday night. It was creepy. He stood beside me, having 'overcome' any form of shyness by following me in the first place, for two minutes.

I approach boys who I want to be friends with; either you're hanging out with the wrong people or you have a mistaken opinion of what 'roles' should be like for men and women. Either way, I wish you well - hopefully you'll come across someone with whom you feel no games are being played, but until then, please take this away: speaking for myself, I am not comfortable with just being randomly approached. I have a lot of confidence, but it irks me that guys feel it is acceptable to just go up to a woman and hope to strike up a relationship in the street/whatever.

So lets do a role reversal - if it was a girl who approached a guy would it be more acceptable.

And it does happen, seen it with my good looking friends. I also know of guys that do approach women on the street and have been successful.

How do you know that you misinterpreted it by thinking that he followed you - maybe, just maybe , he knew he would never see you again so took the opportunity to 'follow you' so that he could chat to you. Putting his ego on the line.

How is that any different from some lout approaching you in a bar?

And who cares if he's older, it's not like he is approaching an underage girl, is he? Fair play to the man.

Btw sorry for being like this, but you clearly have no idea how hard it is to approach a girl you fancy only for her to reject you.

Mods keep this anon please.

The obvious - don't touch what isn't yours (without fairly explicit permission). Don't leer. Don't intrude - you can sometimes interrupt someone who looks busy, but if they don't respond with any enthusiasm/continue to be busy, move on and leave them alone. Don't follow. Don't ask for weird/inappropriate personal details "tell me where you live", "what's your cup size" etc. Be respectful, imagine how you would want people to treat/view your sister or you mother (presuming you have a good relationship with them!) The obvious.

Then, for start - try approaching someone in a way that they might actually get something out of the interaction, not just you.

So - say a joke, talk about something interesting, do something courteous, break the ice whatever - be sociable as you might be to anyone.
Rather than demand information/priveleges (whether it's I want your number! Can I feel you!) out of the blue and without offering anything or differentiating yourself from any old creep.

My opinion: don't open with a comment on their appearance, however flattering, respectful or innocent you think it is. Most women have had too many negative experiences to not find this instantly uncomfortable/worrying.

Remember the situation you are in. Generally try to avoid romantically approaching women in places where they are alone (frightening, this one's probably a definitely avoid tbh), in personal spaces (if you come into their home/place of work/place of study for a professional reason for example), or trapped.

Just have a social sense for chemistry and reciprocity. If you find it hard, try to consciously identify clues as to whether she is reciprocating or not (does she initiate any conversation/questions? Is she changing the topic away from any flirting? Is she dulling/slowing/ending the conversation? Is she avoiding eye contact with you? Does she look uncomfortable?).