Guys; Do you like it when women approach you first?

A lot of people on this thread seem to think that shy people choose to be shy, and that it's just a character trait that can be changed.

There's a difference between shyness and introversion
Shyness= scared to socialise
Introversion= not interested in socialising

Shy guys are cursed to live in a society where men are expected to make the move.

Shy men may need help to overcome their shyness, and having a girl make a move could be the thing that finally cures them.
Girls: you could save a life by making a move with a shy guy.

inb4 alpha male bull****

Shyness can be changed, you're not born with it. I used to be incredibly meek - like super, duper, weasel boy. Didn't help that I were quite attractive too during my early-mid teens. In fact being attractive and shy made things worse for me - because when girls did talk to me, it's like they're talking to a pretty wallpaper that has nothing to add to the conversation. I could barely say a word.

To be honest, both genders could do a world of good by displaying interest - but because girls are rarely if ever direct, I take the direct approach in asking them out simply because it works. I will admit it does show confidence and balls if a girl asks me out.

I have a question for the shy guys in this fred - would you be more willing to date a girl if she approached you, regardless of whether she's attractive or not?

Yes I agree. And to add something to that, it's not because you think that men should or that you don't want to make a move. Sometimes I do want to but I don't because it's not very difficult for a woman to come across as 'desperate' or 'easy'. Some men will see an approach as an action which elicits sexual attention.

More often than not, initiating contact with men is a watermark for promiscuous women. Men are more in control when responsible for making an approach - they face more (superficial) rejection, but they are able to choose the women they are interested in. Women have the luxury of not approaching, but are dependent on the men who choose to approach them.

Shyness can be changed, you're not born with it. I used to be incredibly meek - like super, duper, weasel boy. Didn't help that I were quite attractive too during my early-mid teens. In fact being attractive and shy made things worse for me - because when girls did talk to me, it's like they're talking to a pretty wallpaper that has nothing to add to the conversation. I could barely say a word.

Cheer up fella, you just need to pick yourself up and be more confident in yourself, accept yourself for who you are and be happy. It will work wonders.

Hahaha, thank you. I'm glad I'm not the only one who gives points if they support Arsenal.

You support Arsenal? you have good taste in football lol - Arsenal all the way!!

I definitely do! Haha thank you, you have good taste in football too.

Well hopefully they will do abit better next season

There's plenty of shy douchebags as well.

So I read these forums a lot and there always seems to be questions from guys asking how to approach a girl they like or what to say to let her know that he likes her.
Sometimes you'll find a thread from a girl saying she really likes this guy but he won't ask her out or whatever. Its pretty rare to see a thread where a girl is asking for advice about how to ask a guy out. Kinda interesting to me!

So really my question is; Guys, do you prefer to make the first move or do you like it when a girl is confident and asks you out first?