Casual sex with a jerk

The men on here will say yes, the women on here will say no...

This is you..

wtf even is that?!

Well, I'm a man who has said 'no', although I can't see any posts from women who have said 'yes'.

Go for it, you can always call it off if you dont like it.

The only time I would say dont do it, is if you would loose your virginity to him, then it might be a bad idea. Dont know why, I just know if I was single and had casual relationships, it wouldnt be great to take a girls innocence just for sex.

It is definitely a bad idea to have casual sex with someone who you have/had quite strong feelings for.
Clearly, he doesn't want a relationship. What if you find out that this guy isn't actually the jerk that you think he is and you fall for him again? Sounds like another heartbreak to me.

Obviously its your choice but i would think very seriously about it because it could end in you getting hurt again.
Good luck!

I don't think you should loose your virginity to someone who you say is a jerk.


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Hmm I'd leave it. You'd just be another girl to him, whereas for you it would be your first time!

Bad, bad idea. It is probable that all kinds of feelings and strong emotions would develop, and you would end up feeling seriously down.

Lmao i got negged too, got some coochie ass bitches on here i swear...

Give your virginity to somebody who deserves it, and deserves you.

It sounds to me as if you're setting yourself up to get really hurt

You obviously care about this guy and have feelings for him which are stronger than just sexual.

A relationship based purely on sex will not last forever, at some point or another it will die out and one of you will move on to another partner.
If it's him who moves on, seeing as you are emotionally attached it more than likely will be him, then you will end up feeling used, silly, upset, angry and probably disappointed.

The horrible emotions you will feel after really aren't worth the sex.

Find someone who genuinely cares about you/how you feel, I'm not saying wait for 'the one' but at least somebody who seems to have an ounce of respect for you!

You have strong feelings for him.

He obviously doesn't have them for you. He just wants a shag.

If all you want is a bit of casual sex (emphasis on casual), I'd suggest go for it, but I bet you won't be able to leave it at that.

If you don't accept it will only ever be casual, it will end in tears for you. You will get with him, I'm pretty sure of it, and when you try to take it to the next level, he'll refuse, and you'll come back here and whine as if you weren't warned here and that you didn't see it coming.

"All guy's are the same..." I can hear you saying it now...

I suggest against it girl, but I doubt you'll listen. Setting yourself up for a fall.

just consider that whoever you loose your virginity too you will remeber forever so dont think your be able to just 'cut him off' having sex causes feelings to develop if its more than a one night stand

If you know what you're getting yourself into then there's no reason why not.
If you think it will hurt you in the long run, experiencing part of what you would have in a relationship and then not getting the whole hog, I would walk away.

The men on here will say yes, the women on here will say no...

Big NO!
save the special first time for someone who deserves you, and may have a future With u!!

Thanks everyone for giving me advice!
I am really now sure if I should do it!
To be honest, I am pretty tired with the whole serious dating thing as the most guys I had serious feelings for, did not want to commit in a serious relationship. I felt like I wasted my time and invested emotions in a relationship.
Is it the general issue with really busy people/ heartbroken people? I meant I started thinking if friend for benefits is the better way to get your sexual experience without putting a lot of emotions in someone...? I started to think it might be for me.
I think I knew someone like him would never worth investing time in after I used to like him. I meant he is quite attractive.He's very experienced with those kind of friend for benefits things and he's pretty good at keeping a low profile. I meant I am 19 and I would want to have the 1st sexual experience rather than keep masturbating.
Would you say I should go for someone else for the friend for benefits relationship rather than him?

Thanks everyone for giving me advice!
I am really now sure if I should do it!
To be honest, I am pretty tired with the whole serious dating thing as the most guys I had serious feelings for, did not want to commit in a serious relationship. I felt like I wasted my time and invested emotions in a relationship.
Is it the general issue with really busy people/ heartbroken people? I meant I started thinking if friend for benefits is the better way to get your sexual experience without putting a lot of emotions in someone...? I started to think it might be for me.
I think I knew someone like him would never worth investing time in after I used to like him. I meant he is quite attractive.He's very experienced with those kind of friend for benefits things and he's pretty good at keeping a low profile. I meant I am 19 and I would want to have the 1st sexual experience rather than keep masturbating.
Would you say I should go for someone else for the friend for benefits relationship rather than him?

This guy has casual sex relationships at the moment and he asked me to have sex with him. At the time I said no and got so disappointed because I thought I liked him! My heart got broken badly as I realised he is a jerk/ is not whom I am looking for in the long run/ serious dating. I am pretty sure about that!
I realised he isn't even the sort of person I would hang out with.
However, I have to be honest that I am attracted to him physically. I think it's pretty safe to have sex with him. He lives far away ( he's in London and I am not ). He wouldn't be able to cause many issues in my life.
Shall I ask him to be my casual sex partner like once first? Is it a bad idea?

I want to get ****ed over by a dickhead because I'm tired of being a virgin and misguidedly thought this would be a good way of finding self-esteem and respect from my peers

Don't do it!

You're risking getting too emotionally involved which I would say is likely considering your past feelings for him.

Also, do you really want to have sex with someone who casually sleeps around? Even condoms don't give you full protection against STIs. It's not worth it really.

Don't do it!

You're risking getting too emotionally involved which I would say is likely considering your past feelings for him.

Also, do you really want to have sex with someone who casually sleeps around? Even condoms don't give you full protection against STIs. It's not worth it really.