Should I run, or does he care?

So I’ve been seeing this guy for around 3 months, we’ve been on dates, and have done everything except sex. The reason for this is he always says he’s just looking for fun and I know once I sleep with him I’ll just get attached and I will want more than just fun. I have had a few sexual partners before and this has happened. I thought things would fizzle out when I left the city that we both went to uni in, but we still carried on texting. I wanted to end things because every time we meet up he always bangs on about other girls he’s going to pursue and that all he wants from me is fun. That’s fair enough, and its kind of what I want, but I cant have sex without getting attached. Last week I met him at a party, and he tried to play hard to get by talking to all my friends and not me. I ended up talking to this hot guy, which later the guy that I had been seeing told me he wasn't hot. He also told me it wouldn’t bother him if I got with other people, but to me that seems like he’s jealous. One of his friends told me that he was smitten with me at the party. We ended up going back to his house and hanging out for a couple of days, still not having sex. He was really affectionate, we cuddled a lot and he kissed my head when I was asleep. I told him I was leaving so I thought that was the end but then he texted me starting the conversations up again. A part of me can’t help but feel he cares a bit, but then again the other part is telling me to run and not look back. He always goes on about other girls and plays play ground tactics. Do you think he cares about me, or am I a nobody he just wants to sleep with and move on?

So I’ve been seeing this guy for around 3 months, we’ve been on dates, and have done everything except sex. The reason for this is he always says he’s just looking for fun and I know once I sleep with him I’ll just get attached and I will want more than just fun. I have had a few sexual partners before and this has happened. I thought things would fizzle out when I left the city that we both went to uni in, but we still carried on texting. I wanted to end things because every time we meet up he always bangs on about other girls he’s going to pursue and that all he wants from me is fun. That’s fair enough, and its kind of what I want, but I cant have sex without getting attached. Last week I met him at a party, and he tried to play hard to get by talking to all my friends and not me. I ended up talking to this hot guy, which later the guy that I had been seeing told me he wasn't hot. He also told me it wouldn’t bother him if I got with other people, but to me that seems like he’s jealous. One of his friends told me that he was smitten with me at the party. We ended up going back to his house and hanging out for a couple of days, still not having sex. He was really affectionate, we cuddled a lot and he kissed my head when I was asleep. I told him I was leaving so I thought that was the end but then he texted me starting the conversations up again. A part of me can’t help but feel he cares a bit, but then again the other part is telling me to run and not look back. He always goes on about other girls and plays play ground tactics. Do you think he cares about me, or am I a nobody he just wants to sleep with and move on?

You say that fun is 'kind of all you want', but I think you need to be honest with yourself. You've made a thread about this and it's obviously bothering you. It's quite clear that you want more from him. You also say that having sex will make you become attached and that's why you've just stuck to everything but, but I'd say you're already attached. Kissing, touching and oral sex are still intimate (especially the latter). There's less of a distinction between these acts and sex than you think. If you don't enjoy hearing about him pursuing other women then stop hanging out with him. I think when women get into these situations they will convince themselves that they are not attached and not bothered by a lack of monogamy and affection, and will ignore any signs that they are becoming emotionally involved. Until you can spot these signs and act accordingly (i.e. stop having sex) then it's best to stay away from these sorts of situations.

I guess theres a big part of me that does care and the other part feels like I'm not good enough, because then he would want more than just this whole friends with benefits thing. The worst feeling is putting all this effort into something and to never make an impact, I'll just be forgotten, its just hard to realise.