Does 'meeting up for coffee' mean a date?

Yeah she wants the datings. For your purposes, 'why don't we meet up for a few drinks tonight?' would work better.

Ahh it's just so scary, never been on a date before, don't think I really want to; surely if it's a date it means she's looking for a relationship whereas I am not. The whole thing would be a waste of time, right?

Recently a girl I have been texting every so often asked me to meet up for coffee. I met her at a club and got her number before I left. Thing is I don't really want a serious relationship right now, I would prefer something slightly more casual if that makes sense. If she wants to meet up for coffee does that mean that she wants a date or just a casual chat? She does seem like a nice girl and I would like to see her again and stuff; but, if she wants a relationship then this coffee is going to be incredibly awkward.

Shall I go?

It's just coffee mate, what you make of it is your own business.

It's not like having a coffee with her obligates you to marry her and fertilise her ovaries and take a blood oath to her father to take up arms against her families enemies should they be attacked and bind your two kin together ever after, and be buried in a shared coffin, where you are ritually murdered to join her in the afterlife for eternity.

coffee = a date

however

a date does not = a relationship

I hope it doesn't ALWAYS mean a date, I often ask friends to go for coffee. Hope they haven't gotten the wrong idea

I get she just wants to see if there is chemistry and if sustained conversation is possible. Something not in a club setting. Peronaly I cba with all this 'coffee' business. It is both lame and highly gay. You'd think we are living in Frasier Crane's Seattle. A first date should involve drink, and perhaps some caressing of the boobies.

Precisely this. She may be looking for something casual too; in which case, you can't just immediately say "lets book a room" lol If its as friends, or as a date, or as a potential fwb scenario, its just a nice, relaxed way to get to known someone and have a chat. Where it leads from there is up to the individuals!



I know exactly what you mean - recently, I met this girl, we were texting and I suggested going for a coffee over the easter weekend because we were both bored and the weather seemed nice for a change. She, however, thought I was asking her out and replied "I'm flattered but I'm not ready to start dating again blah blah ...." I was thinking ... ermm .... I wasn't actually asking you out .... lol awkward!

Precisely this. She may be looking for something casual too; in which case, you can't just immediately say "lets book a room" lol If its as friends, or as a date, or as a potential fwb scenario, its just a nice, relaxed way to get to known someone and have a chat. Where it leads from there is up to the individuals!



I know exactly what you mean - recently, I met this girl, we were texting and I suggested going for a coffee over the easter weekend because we were both bored and the weather seemed nice for a change. She, however, thought I was asking her out and replied "I'm flattered but I'm not ready to start dating again blah blah ...." I was thinking ... ermm .... I wasn't actually asking you out .... lol awkward!

Haha I know what you mean. I once asked a guy for coffee because he'd been kind enough to reserve a DVD for me as he worked at HMV and it was especially difficult to get at the time. He started texting me later asking what that meant and constantly complimenting me. It didn't even occur to me he would think of it as anything other than a friendly coffee at the time, especially since he had a girlfriend. Weird...


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