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Why are girls so picky and why do so many dislike black men?

This is about the girls in my area and not a generalisation of girls.

I'm so sick and tired of girls my age! I hate them so much!

I'm 19 in South East and have been single for years and I honestly don't know what's wrong with me. I consider myself reasonably attractive and above all I have a really good personality; I'm kind, generous, considerate, thoughtful, a good listener, caring, affectionate - just to name a few but I live in a world where my peers are so ****ing judgemental and superficial that it's rage-inducing.

I try so hard to befriend people but to no avail and I honestly have no idea what I'm doing wrong. I put myself out there to make friends only to be crushed so I decided to just be myself which is more withdrawn and considered as my peers as "anti-social" and of course I'm crushed.

If I don't think going ouy and getting drunk is my idea of fun then does that make me a terrible person!? If I hate Facebook does that make me unsociable? Right now I'm tired of my idiotic peers who are so damn picky and unsurprisingly can't sustain relationships because they don't consider the people who could genuinely make them happy.

What makes me so mad is that you have the jerks and the morons who don't know how to think, dress or talk always getting the girl and then they treat those girls like crap! My friend is cheating on his girlfriend with a married woman for crying out loud! Meanwhile here's me - a nice guy who can't get anyone and I don't know why.

I try to befriend black women but they don't care for me because I'm literally not "black" enough; meaning that they'd probably like me more if I called them b***h more and dropped my trousers so you can see my bum and then the white girls I know don't even like black men. I can't win and I just don't know what to do.

I'm a mature boy for my age - I always have been and I've been told this by adults. I want a meaningful relationship NOW; a relationship I can work on and move into the future with. But of course being so young older women won't look at me, and by the time I'm 30 or so I'll still be around my idiot peers only they will be the same age but they still will have the same feelings.

This is partly a rant but mostly it's my cry for help as I simply don't have a place in the world at all.

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Reply 1
You sound like a bitch, maybe the problem isn't people your age. Maybe it's you.
you will find someone, i understand your frustration, but your just not meeting the right people
Reply 4
Stop being a beta phaggot and start being alpha, son!

chicks dig the bbc, fact.
you just gotta make 'em realize it. Be confident and remove the stick that's jammed up your as$
Reply 5
Are you a student or are you on here to bitch?
Reply 6
Try to befriend people who are some years older


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Reply 7
You sound like a stiff guy. Go romford on a night out ull be alright
Reply 8
Original post by TheWorldEndsWithYou
This is about the girls in my area and not a generalisation of girls.

I'm so sick and tired of girls my age! I hate them so much!

I'm 19 in South East and have been single for years and I honestly don't know what's wrong with me. I consider myself reasonably attractive and above all I have a really good personality; I'm kind, generous, considerate, thoughtful, a good listener, caring, affectionate - just to name a few but I live in a world where my peers are so ****ing judgemental and superficial that it's rage-inducing.

I try so hard to befriend people but to no avail and I honestly have no idea what I'm doing wrong. I put myself out there to make friends only to be crushed so I decided to just be myself which is more withdrawn and considered as my peers as "anti-social" and of course I'm crushed.

If I don't think going ouy and getting drunk is my idea of fun then does that make me a terrible person!? If I hate Facebook does that make me unsociable? Right now I'm tired of my idiotic peers who are so damn picky and unsurprisingly can't sustain relationships because they don't consider the people who could genuinely make them happy.

What makes me so mad is that you have the jerks and the morons who don't know how to think, dress or talk always getting the girl and then they treat those girls like crap! My friend is cheating on his girlfriend with a married woman for crying out loud! Meanwhile here's me - a nice guy who can't get anyone and I don't know why.

I try to befriend black women but they don't care for me because I'm literally not "black" enough; meaning that they'd probably like me more if I called them b***h more and dropped my trousers so you can see my bum and then the white girls I know don't even like black men. I can't win and I just don't know what to do.

I'm a mature boy for my age - I always have been and I've been told this by adults. I want a meaningful relationship NOW; a relationship I can work on and move into the future with. But of course being so young older women won't look at me, and by the time I'm 30 or so I'll still be around my idiot peers only they will be the same age but they still will have the same feelings.

This is partly a rant but mostly it's my cry for help as I simply don't have a place in the world at all.


No, you are not.
Another "nice guy" on here...
Lol the irony, "I'm a mature boy". :rofl:
"This is partly a rant" he said...
Reply 12
Original post by Muckoz
You sound like a stiff guy. Go romford on a night out ull be alright


:rofl:
Im just not attracted to black men don't know why, I suppose you either feel attraction or you don't.
Reply 14
Original post by civilstudent
Im just not attracted to black men don't know why, I suppose you either feel attraction or you don't.


Not all women dislike us. Some women like us for "our smooth and sensitive souls yet rugged chocolate exterior."
Original post by Blutooth
Not all women dislike us. Some women like us for "our smooth and sensitive souls yet rugged chocolate exterior."


Dont get me wrong, if I had to generalise I would say I think a lot are real gentleman! What Ive found though (and i dont know why this is) is that black dudes tend to either want relationships with women or nothing at all. Like ive really got on with some men through work etc but then they have wanted to take things further. After hinting that I didnt want a relationship they have cut all contact and have said stuff like 'what happened between us'. It happened again last year. Nothing happened except we had been chatting and honestly im the most quiet/reserved female I dont flirt ive never even had a proper relationship so i wasnt leading him on.

I think I found the reason out off a black guy. He found it odd that certain guys at uni were hanging around with/going for lunch with the girls. He said that in his culture men hung around with the men or else they were looked down upon. Im not exactly sure if this applies to most cultures but yea from this i gathered thats probably why the other guys didnt want to be just friends.
(edited 11 years ago)
online dating??
Reply 17
You seem alright tbh :smile:
& I love black guys..always have :tongue:
Have you considered going outside the confines of your own friendship circles..... just like your friend did with the married women???
Why not go tell them?

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