Actually, it's because the black girls I was talking to literally said that "well you're not "black"" when they found about a black guy joined the halls.
Maybe that's because you don't identify with you- or think you're selling out somehow. I've met plenty of intelligent and well-cultured black men (lawyers, bankers etc) who could still relate well to lower class black people. So I'm not totally convinced they were ousting you because you didnt conform to the low-class stereotypes. Maybe you just weren't cool enough then.. I won't apologise for sounding like a child at the beginning of the thread because when I wrote it I was frustrated and still am.It's not as simple as people like making things out to be; saying "go out, join a club, do this and that" isn't always the magic wand that solves people's problems.
I've had this problem for a long time because I simply don't choose to be like the people around me.They say it's not having a problem that is a test of true character but how you respond to it. You are responding to your problems like a whiny bitch. And that's accordingly how people will respond to you, I'm afraid.
You think it's because you don't choose to be like the people around you. Again, I'm not totally convinced. Ok, I have met a few black people who will try to make your life hell because they see you as a well-to-do black man, but the vast majority (especially girls) don't mind and probably fancy a bit of culture. I think you just feel you are personally better than those around you. The aloofness coupled with the superiority complex is probably what is harming your relationships.There's a huge difference between having friends and acquaintances. I mostly have the latter - people who forget about me when I left college, people I get along with in class but never speak to when class is over.
Well, youve got to ask yourself why you only have shallow friendships. Is this a personality issue on your part? I find it easier to make more lasting friends than more shallow ones as the true friends don't judge you by your skin colour. So I wonder why you find it the other way round..seems odd. During secondary school I hated how my class developed the same dim-witted sense of humour that drove not just me but my teachers crazy because as the top group in our year we were too immature. I had one girlfriend during this time and she said I was the best boyfriend she had ever had but this didn't stop her from cheating on me when she realised she could be with the "coolest guy in the class".
Break-ups are hard, but happen. Sorry about that. I join clubs, I participate in events and I go out of my way to talk to people because I'm naturally a friendly guy. In the end however,
people simply don't want to reciprocate the effort I put into them.
Maybe you give off the desperate vibe like you are in this thread. I do feel for you though...Maybe if you stop focusing on the people and just do the things you love a girl will come. My girlfriend is on my course, and whilst I was trying to get a gf elsewhere things just happened nturally with her And it's even better because we have a mutual interest.You want to call me desperate and insecure? Fine, I don't care for your opinion of me because you don't know a thing about my personality to make such a judgement. What's your excuse for when I'm trying to meet people online and when I request to talk to people they decline without even reading my profile? Is it because I'm desperate and insecure? What are people's reasons for being turned down by people I try to befriend because like me they are into art or anime or movies or writing?
Superiority complex again.When I write on my profile that I'm creative, I draw etc and add someone who has written then only to be turned down with the message "we don't share the same interests"
, are you honestly surprised that I came here angry and frustrated?People don't owe you anything.Not everyone wants to take the bars and clubs to meet people. That is not my scene. I know there are other ways to meet people and I have the confidence to talk to these people, be it a girl I meet while browsing for books in a charity shop or someone who catches a glimpse of my drawings when I'm sketching in public.
What are peoples' reasons for my just not being able to get into a relationship?