hes so experienced and i just feel stupid

Im in a relationship with this guy, both 3rd year Uni students. Im a virgin and he keeps telling me to wait till im ready, he wont rush me, hes never tried anything without my permission and he really is amazing.

The only problem is he is VERY experienced and its making me really feel crap. He mentions his sexual encounters ''ive taken quite a lot of girls virginities and they enjoyed themselves'' or he mentions his ex's (which he has a LOT of). Like i dont even wanna know what his sex number is because it would make me feel crap.

Its not really the sex that bothers me, but the fact hes had about 10 relationships and I just feel like Im going to be another girl whose virginity he takes and then means nothing to him.

I really like him and Ive spoken about this with him and he keeps telling me how important I am to him and he feels differently about me, but it feels like he probably said the same thing to the hundreds of other girls before.

How do I get over this stupid insecurity?

Every time he brings his ex's up or his sexual encounters it just makes me feel really crap.

It doesnt sound like a 'silly' insecurity to me, i think i would be a little insecure if he kept mentioning the amount of girls he's slept with. Firstly, ask him to stop mentioning all his ex's all the time - tell him his bragging makes you feel insecure and makes him appear like a user (and a bit of a man slut!). Its not right for him to be mentioning all his sexual encounters anyway :/
I'll be honest, he doesn't sound great. You really need to establish trust and security first in the relationship, before allowing him to take your virginity. How long have you been together?

I'm no psychologist but that sounds like he's trying to emotionally manipulate you. Either that or he is just boosting his ego by proclaiming himself a 'sexgod'

My first post may spund kinda wrong, but he really is nice, he hasnt tried to force me or even mention sex, hes said he will let me tell him when im ready.

He doesnt mention his ex's or sex all the time but just occasionally they come into conversation.

For example, a few days ago he was comparing me to his ex saying how much better i was....and i didnt see the need for it.

Im just feeling down because i like him a lot but dont want to be used.

Weve only been together a couple of weeks, but seeing each other a couple of months.

trust me stay away, i have friends that are like that. they say what they can to make them sound sweet, have it and then say bye and dont speak to them again. he will be patient as he knows he will get it

how do you know he wasnt doing things behind her back? Keeping her as a rebound?

Hes not that old? so how will he have been with someone several years but strill slept with people so many times

he lost his virginity in year 9 and has had a long line of girlfriends.

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If you ask for relationship advice you're going to be told to dump him and that he's evil and so on..


It sounds like he likes you, and if he's waiting until you're ready then keep him waiting. Say to him these things, and he might stop talking about it. I know that when I was younger I didn't realise how socially inept it was to talk about sexual exploits with ex's, until someone told me. And now I don't, and have been with the girl who told me for many years.




That said, it does sound like he's just compensating a bit to make himself sound more attractive to you. If you were to phrase the discussion along the lines of 'I find it really unattractive how many women you've been with' he'd probably come out and admit the times he's exaggerated.

Im in a relationship with this guy, both 3rd year Uni students. Im a virgin and he keeps telling me to wait till im ready, he wont rush me, hes never tried anything without my permission and he really is amazing.The only problem is he is VERY experienced and its making me really feel crap. He mentions his sexual encounters ''ive taken quite a lot of girls virginities and they enjoyed themselves'' or he mentions his ex's (which he has a LOT of). Like i dont even wanna know what his sex number is because it would make me feel crap. Its not really the sex that bothers me, but the fact hes had about 10 relationships and I just feel like Im going to be another girl whose virginity he takes and then means nothing to him.I really like him and Ive spoken about this with him and he keeps telling me how important I am to him and he feels differently about me, but it feels like he probably said the same thing to the hundreds of other girls before. How do I get over this stupid insecurity? Every time he brings his ex's up or his sexual encounters it just makes me feel really crap.