don't really want to be with him

I went on a couple of dates with this guy, he seemed really nice, last week we kissed. It wasn't brilliant but I thought that first kisses mostly aren't. Then met up again this Monday and he's getting more and more involved, I on the other hand am getting more and more turned off. I can't imagine sleeping with him (he's already invited me to sleep over this weekend), to be honest I don't think I shall ever want to be with him long-term, I just don't feel that my heart is in it and I don't even want to be physically close to him in any way. Do you think I am being narrow-minded and I should give it more time? But seriously, the very thought of having to kiss him again makes me go ugh... So what do I do/how do I break up with him so as not to hurt him?

Just tell him.

A break up is never going to not hurt someone so just hope he mans up..

tell him how though? and is it that you forewarn them in advance (i dont think he suspects anything)? and that day when you meet up, you still greet with a kiss? how do these things work?

If you want, just text him which will save you meeting up with him. It's not as if he's a long term boyfriend so you shouldn't feel the need to 'dump' him face to face.

If you do meet up with him, get straight to the point, don't greet with a kiss. Just tell him you need to talk and say how you feel.

You dont owe this guy anything. You have been on a few dates, in no way does that mean you cant change your mind.

The whole point of dating is in a way to 'try before you buy'.

If I was you I would give him a call or facebook or text (depending how long youve know him) and explain you dont feel its working as there isnt a spark for you but you would like to stay friends.

I actually use kissing as a bit of a guide...I always find theres some guys I just really click with...mine and my boyfriends first kiss was great

You dont owe this guy anything. You have been on a few dates, in no way does that mean you cant change your mind.

The whole point of dating is in a way to 'try before you buy'.

If I was you I would give him a call or facebook or text (depending how long youve know him) and explain you dont feel its working as there isnt a spark for you but you would like to stay friends.

I actually use kissing as a bit of a guide...I always find theres some guys I just really click with...mine and my boyfriends first kiss was great

btw yes, even that first kiss didn't feel right. should i have told him after that? does that not make me expect too much too soon?

i can just imagine him saying that he really likes me and how can i know after such a short time etc, making me out as though i was really narrow minded. do you think I am? could my feelings change? could he grow on me?

btw yes, even that first kiss didn't feel right. should i have told him after that? does that not make me expect too much too soon?

i can just imagine him saying that he really likes me and how can i know after such a short time etc, making me out as though i was really narrow minded. do you think I am? could my feelings change? could he grow on me?

Honestly, yes he could grow on you. But Ive done that before and in the end the relationship failed.

If you are not feeling the spark or chemistry right now then chances are it wont come.

I think its fine to say it over text, at the end of the day you are just 'dating' you arent a couple yet. Just explain there isnt anything there for you more than friendship.

Obviously, I dont mean judge someone by their kiss, but Im saying for me, I know if im going to click with someone if we click on our kiss.

we've already kissed. so this is still dating. when do you become a couple? by sleeping together? if i slept with him this weekend and said no afterwards, I couldn't do that in text?

I'd just like to know when it is appropriate to do things in text rather than in person and also what's the best way of going about things. one of my friends was in a similar situation, then the guy started pleading with her , saying how he really likes her and how can she know already?

you become a couple when you both discuss it and decide to go exclusive.

seriously?

so even when I've kissed someone I can still go on other dates with other guys?

one guy once told me that kissing is the beginning of a relationship and from then on people should be exclusive.

I have so little experience of what's acceptable or not...