Help my boyfriends friend is in love with me.

I am in need of some advice, as the title of the thread suggests I have a big dilemma on my hands. Basically I am worried that my boyfriends friend is in love with me. The three of us are all good friends but now I find myself thinking that my friend is in love with me.


This could all be in my head and it is entirely possible that I could be mistaking his general friendliness for something that doesnt even exist. He has never made a pass at me or told me that he thinks of me in a romantic sense. In fact he has said on a couple of occasions that he doesnt think of me in 'that way' and he thinks of me as one of his dearest, if not dearest friends. But I am still unsure after all I couldnt blame him for being madly in love with me.


I am unsure if I should say something and risk ruining our friendship or making things awkward between us. Should I carry on being mean to him and pushing him away for what could be no reason? I know that I could be considered a terrible person for punishing him in this way. It is beginning to ruin our friendship. We used to be great friends but now I am somewhat worried that with me pushing him away sooner or later I will lose my friend. Over the past year we have drifted further and further apart and I no longer take the time to speak to him or meet up. I have even gone as far as not replying to him, or speaking at all for weeks at a time. I now completely blank him on social occasions and avoid having a conversation at all costs. He has mentioned a few times to me that he thinks we arent as close as we once were and expressed his worry. He has even gone as far as trying to repair our friendship which makes me think even more that he is crazily in love with me.

My friend is a real sweetheart and deep down I know he would not do anything to compromise our friendship or my relationship for that matter. I dont want things to be awkward or drive a wedge between us but I feel that we can no longer be friends. I cant imagine my life without either my boyfriend or friend however I feel the only way to resolve this is to completely ignore my friend pushing him away until we are no longer friends without discussing the matter.

Can a girl and a boy really be friends? Do any of you girls have male friends who you speak with regularly? I was wondering if anyone, preferably someone who has a close male friend and boyfriend could offer any advice on the matter.

Steph.