I'm in my first year on a three year university course and I've been in an LDR since October. During term time I live in Exeter and he lives in my home town in the north-east of England. It's difficult - I never wanted to be in a long distance relationship and I definitely wouldn't put myself through it if we'd just met. But we'd already dated for the last year of sixth form, splitting up and not speaking for the duration of my gap year and I missed him so much that we ended up in an LDR a year after we first split up. My main difficulties are the cost of visits (last time he visited me it cost him £170 return when booking a month in advance. I get the coach which is affordable but takes 10 hours each way) and the fact that he works full time (often on night shifts) so even during university holidays I can't spend as much time with him as I want to. So far we've managed to stick to 5 weeks being the absolute maximum we can go without seeing each other. He visited once in my first term and I came back home for a weekend and he visited me for a week second term. Our main method of communication is text messaging every day. I go back to university on Saturday for a month and then we get the whole summer : ) - we've almost made it through first year.
I wondered if anyone could tell me how different second year will be compared to first year. Will my workload prevent me from being able to come home for the odd weekend or prevent me from being able to have him come up to stay for a week?
I also wonder how willing you guys are to make sacrifices for the sake of your relationship? For example, before I got together with my boyfriend I always imagined staying in Exeter for the Easter holidays to make the most of the city. But now spending that time with my boyfriend seemed more important. Likewise, I find myself going home as soon as term officially ends rather than staying for a few days like most of my friends do. It's just little things like that make me wonder how much I'm giving up for this relationship. Don't get me wrong, I love him and it's worth it. But... I don't know, I just feel like I'm missing out sometimes.