Original post by SteeveeI disagree. And I think we're going to stay disagreed. Around sexual issues there is so much stigma, so much blame and victim making it's astonishing to me. 'Oh, what he did was bad! You were abused! You're damaged! It must have been horrible! You poor, poor thing!' If that person didn't already feel bad, damaged and like a victim, they sure as hell will now.
And you all assumed he used force, you all assumed he was a rapist, you all assumed he willing sexually assaulted his GF. I'm pretty sure I'm not the one making the worst assumptions here. Like I said, it was aparantly a one time incident, she continued to have a relationship with him afterwards and there is no mention of force beyond 'He made me carry on,' I've been made to do dishes, made to do homework, made to pcik things up from the shop for a GF, none of them involved physical force or anything that would constitute force. You assume 'made' is something that would turn the BF into a criminal. You are making all the worst assumptions here, not I.
Except making someone continue a sexual act after they have said no is a criminal offence which you seem to have forgotten, even if it didnt involve physical force it then very likely comes under sexual coercion
As for my situation, yes she knew I wanted to stop, could I have stopped? Yes, as I imagine the OP could have. Without definition or clarification of 'made' assuming force is just that, assuming. As everyone who called the BF of the OP a rapist did.
And I have to totally disagree with your last paragraph. During sex, I've been a bit rough, afterwards the girl said something, and I apologised, at the time I didn't realise, it wasn't made clear. It could have been made clear, it wasn't, everyone is at fault. I've had GFs do things both sexually, and just generally that were wrong, that they should or could have known were not wanted, but once they realised, they apologised. To imply that it makes them criminal an awful person etc is madness, and it's highly symptomatic of the highly reactionary, overly emotional bias you get from certain kinds of people over sexual issues.
Taking a little responsibility goes a long way.