Why abortion is wrong.

I concur with what you have written in bold, I have had two abortions and they were both very traumatising both physically and mentally. However due to my own mental health issues, carrying on with the pregnancy would, in my opinion, have been even more detrimental to my mental health and to the baby had I kept it and attempted to raise it. I can even go so far as to think that I probably would have abused or neglected the baby, because I was in no way able to take care of myself, let alone a small dependant child.

However, on both occasions, I was given counselling (regardless of my mental health problems as the counsellors were unaware of them until I brought them up) both before and after the abortions, and more than one doctor came to speak to me about the choice involved and whether I was sure of my decision.

At the end of the day, it's not like you can just swan into a clinic and get an abortion that same day. It's quite difficult to actually get one - I had to get the termination on Christmas Eve because it was the only day they had free before I went past the time limit. It was not an easy experience nor was it undertaken with any less sensitivity or tact by the staff involved than if I were keeping the baby. I think that the current system clearly works, and while for some individuals abortion can be and often is very traumatising, the professionals who are performing them are certainly not doing it willy nilly - they really talk to you and take time to find out that it's your choice and you are happy with the decision.

Just to let you know, you win over the vile opinions that are riddled within this thread. I've been in the same situation and I agree it is very emotionally draining and not a decision I took lightly! I think if half of the people attacking in the thread got pregnant tomorrow a majority of them would change their views on abortion or rely on mummy and daddy to bring their child up, or something along those lines. I still cry to this day about the whole issue and it was almost a year ago! Xx

Actually I did read. This is not what you said the first time.

And I disagree with the extrapolation. The differences could be due to a number of different reasons, not least the instability of the unmarried unit, but thats a different discussion.

**** off this isn't North Dakota, or republican america for that matter.

Having an abortion is better than bringing at child into life without loving parents or care, or nurturing or good living conditions etc

Does a foetus not have a right to its own body? Why should the woman have more rights? She chose to have sex...she knows the possible consequences.

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On behalf of every female who has miscarried a dearly wanted fetus... You're an offensive personage, with a disgusting lack of knowledge about pregnancy. HTH

I really don't know what to say... I wrote "You end a natural cycle before its definite end" the miscarriage isn't the mothers fault which is what you are implying and it is a natural end.

How about you stop twisting my words and use the tears of expectant mothers for your own gain.

When the embryo/foetus is little more than a cluster of cells, with no nervous system and entirely dependent on its mother's circulatory and digestive systems, it is basically just a part of the woman. It isn't a person at that stage in the pregnancy, and the mother's rights should come first.

Once the foetus is capable of feeling pain or surviving independently (whichever comes first, I believe it's a matter of contention among developmental biologists), then it probably shouldn't be aborted - but I don't have a uterus, so that's not my decision to make.

Since you insist on coming back to the "natural process" thing, isn't cancer a natural process? So is curing cancer wrong?

Cancer is a disease when untreated will kill, it doesn't lead to anywhere. An undeveloped baby on the other hand wont kill (and if situations where the mothers life is threatened an abortion can take place) and will develop in to you and me.

If you consider a baby on the same level as cancer then you really do need help.

Infanticide is better than letting a child grow up in an unloving home.

So the mothers right to do what exactly comes before the right for another to live?

Going by that logic we should have killed many coma patients who couldn't have survived without life support and couldn't feel pain. It doesn't matter even when there is a chance for some to wake up...

We do often pull the plug on patients who can't survive without life support, if we don't think their future quality of life will be particularly good. The next-of-kin is often asked to make that decision, even if they have no part in raising or caring for the patient. Plus, that patient has lived, made friends, and taken on responsibilities.

A pregnant woman will need to raise and care for a child once it is born, and may have to give up her own hopes and dreams to do so. And rather than being dependent on a machine, a foetus is dependent on her body - a body which she has total control over. If she wants to abort the foetus because she thinks its quality of life will be less than what she wants for her child, why shouldn't she be able to do so?

It isn't infanticide because it isn't yet an infant. It's a foetus. Make the distinction.

I really don't know what to say... I wrote "You end a natural cycle before its definite end" the miscarriage isn't the mothers fault which is what you are implying and it is a natural end.

How about you stop twisting my words and use the tears of expectant mothers for your own gain.

the miscarriage isn't the mothers fault which is what you are implying

you kill of the emotions, the experiences it was definitely going to have

How about you stop twisting my words and use the tears of expectant mothers for your own gain.

"We do often pull the plug on patients who can't survive without life support, if we don't think their future quality of life will be particularly good."

In this case the quality of life is living in a vegetative state. I don't agree with pulling the plug but in a babies case the quality of life is living, like you and I.

Giving up on hopes and dreams? Do you believe the propaganda you are uttering? No one gives up their hopes and dreams there are plenty of options and raising a kid is much easier than it was before the advent of modern technology. No one is asking you go to the nearest lake and pat away to wash your clothing.

I am going to be laying of for now, I am getting very agitated.

I find it worrying that a prospective midwife doesn't know the difference between a foetus and an infant. I'll have to make a note of her face and avoid her if I ever have the misfortune of getting her as my midwife in future.

Yes, in fact, she's skipped an entire step by not mentioning neonaticide!

It isn't infanticide because it isn't yet an infant. It's a foetus. Make the distinction.