Why do so many people at university 'try too hard'

people don't have their own identity

I see it everywhere. People are always trying to fit in with the crowd and conform to some silly stereotypes. I know this happens in all walks of life but I notice it particularly so at university, more than I ever have done at school or anywhere else. The common stereotype which people try to live up to is this partying stereotype with people talking about banter, pre-lash, lads and so on. Other things where people 'try too hard' include girls cakeing their faces in makeup to impress guys and fit in with all the girls that do, guys joining up to the gym and getting sweeped up in all his bodybuilding/getting hench stuff, people buying iPads and iPhones to look cool. It's sickening and cringey. Why are there are so many people like this?

I see it everywhere. People are always trying to fit in with the crowd and conform to some silly stereotypes. I know this happens in all walks of life but I notice it particularly so at university, more than I ever have done at school or anywhere else. The common stereotype which people try to live up to is this partying stereotype with people talking about banter, pre-lash, lads and so on. Other things where people 'try too hard' include girls cakeing their faces in makeup to impress guys and fit in with all the girls that do, guys joining up to the gym and getting sweeped up in all his bodybuilding/getting hench stuff, people buying iPads and iPhones to look cool. It's sickening and cringey. Why are there are so many people like this?

What do you have against people taking care of themselves or having fun?

Yep this is true in some sense, I know a former friend who brought an Iphone 5 and grown an afro just to fit in and stop most of their hobbies and is now obsessed with nightclubbing by going out everyday. When I go uni in September, I will not start to go to the gym just look hench, will not buy an Iphone/Ipad and will not be partying everyday. I just be fine being socially awkward.

Thank-you for saying what I came to comment on. Any person joining a gym with the impression that they will, in the short-term, be able to get suddenly ripped and therefore attract the opposite sex and glance in every reflective surface at their toned body is sure to be disappointed within the first few months of going. It takes a long time and a lot of effort (as well as factors external to the gym, like healthy eating) to get that look, and if somebody joins the gym with the proper intention of achieving that, and understand that it will take a lot of hard work, then you can only applaud them no matter what their reason. Quite why anybody would make negative comments about people attempting to do what is naturally desirable for their health is beyond me.

Working out is not just about getting a 'ripped' body. It is about supplementing a healthy and productive lifestyle. When people say; "I do not want to join a gym for reason X", that is fine by me. But why on earth complain about those who do?

I see it everywhere. People are always trying to fit in with the crowd and conform to some silly stereotypes. I know this happens in all walks of life but I notice it particularly so at university, more than I ever have done at school or anywhere else. The common stereotype which people try to live up to is this partying stereotype with people talking about banter, pre-lash, lads and so on. Other things where people 'try too hard' include girls cakeing their faces in makeup to impress guys and fit in with all the girls that do, guys joining up to the gym and getting sweeped up in all his bodybuilding/getting hench stuff, people buying iPads and iPhones to look cool. It's sickening and cringey. Why are there are so many people like this?