Just to clarify first of all, I don't think there's a problem with being geeky at all. When I started uni, I was the sort of girl who played video games regularly, read loads of fantasy and sci-fi novels, listened to alternative rock and whatnot (though I realise that isn't necessarily geeky) and dressed in a very casual, laid-back wayy. As a consequence most the friends I have from first year are really intellectual (not so much regarding their degrees but they're into that kind of stuff too).
It's now my third year, however, and I feel really lonely and left out by my old friends for some reason. I've made new ones, obviously, but we aren't as close as we haven't known each other for as long. I've changed as a person, and I feel like my "geekier" friends despise me because of it.I haven't become meaner or more selfish, I've always been really nice to all my friends and always will, but I've become more assertive as I was really shy in first year and everyone seemed to assume I would be like that forever. I've made decisions that go against what most of them agree with, and that really seems to have annoyed them.
For example, one of my friends from the chess society wanted me to go out with another of my friends whom he'd known since he was about three. I said no because I didn't find him that physically attractive, although he's a nice person, and he started spreading the word I was stuck-up and and had bad taste in guys (I told him I fancied the captain of the rugby club which he said was shallow).
I'm also quite health-conscious and was picked for the uni netball team, a group of people who are quite well-known around campus and were described by my geekier friends as a "bunch of pretentious posers." I got a gilet as I was elected onto the committee and was made fun of by my old friends when I wore it. I wasn't trying to exactly flash it in their face but it was like they really resented me. I told them I couldn't drink so much on nights out due to my sporting commitments and they made fun of me for ages. If I make one mention of "girly" things to my geeky friends (even the female ones) like "I got my hair done last week" they roll their eyes or something. I like wearing stuff like Jack Wills and so on (but don't flaunt it) which they make me feel bad about, even though I earned it by part time work (I don't have rich parents).
I like these guys and want to stay friends with them, but how do I get them to accept the new me? It's like they only want to be friends with the quiet shy girl who played video games, but that's just not me any more.