And at the same time, your goal isn't just "eat more", and that's the issue. It's "being more flippant", and by nature, we are not a flippant people.
"Ach, just have the beer I bought you, you're out now."
POSSIBLE RESPONSES:
A) "...er, sorry, I can't, you drink it, haha. You know I'm busy tomorrow..."
B) "...That pint is actually 229 calories. I'm afraid that's not been accounted for in my specific requirement diary."
C) "You ***stard, you know I have to get YOU one, now eh?"
D) "Dude, you know if I drink any more, I'm going to show you all I've drunk tonight, eh?"
Of course, both A and B are the same, Anorexic, Body Dysmorphic, ED-response. B might sound far more obvious than A, but they're both pertaining to the same notion. Getting out of it. Getting AWAY from the calories, from the intake, from the excess. C is what a fun-loving chap would say - sure, he might be rotund, or careless or whatever. But he is happy. D is probably the only truly descriptive and honest answer and sadly, it's often followed by vomit.
Of course, I'm focusing on the A and B answers here. The way we as ED-sufferers handle dilemmas other people would take as "oh, cool bro" situations.
"You were at the toilet and we're all starving so we just ordered you a burger and beer."
Does that statement make you freak the hell out? Even now, it shivers my timbers, and though I'm clearly not in the same state I was, that sends me alarm bells. I am not healed, I am not ready, I am not alive. But a half-life is better than a bubble of NO-life that the ED created for me.
It's all baby steps. It's all fight. X