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No because he's not the father of my child and u feel she is my responsibility! He gets stressed our with her and then i t stresses me out more! It's not worth it!

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Reply 3501

kmcgowan13

I wish I could do that, but I feel guilty if I go out :-( plus I just worry if I'll come back to world war three as my daughter is being so trying atm! I've completed burnt out! If I sit down I feel that my partner has been at work all day so I need to do something but realistically I can't, I just feel Luke I want it all to go away, my daughter, my stress, my life, everything, to be left with nothing

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Reply 3502

kmcgowan13

He's back now and come in and Saud 'd you think your life is 'that' bad and I said yes, now he's not talking to me :-( he doesn't understand, no one does

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Reply 3503

avhhs

Original post by PonchoKid

bloody need cake :tongue:

hahaha

face is burnt, and my legs above my knees, but not below :facepalm:

yeah, was nice to get away, just need a proper holiday :tongue:

Same

Oops

Yep I need a proper holiday too :sad:

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Reply 3504

08batee

Original post by kmcgowan13

Plus if I don't cook tea no one gets fed and if I don't tidy the house is a mess :-( I've tidied the house so
Many times and got it perfect and look at it now you wouldn't know! :-( just no one understands in bad days how exhausting it us, my whole body is screaming to sleep :-(

I honestly feel Like giving my daughter up I feel so rubbish atm, I can't look after her properly I know I've got through it before but my life can't keep going on like this, I can't cope! Being off work us helping but then I'm so broke that is stressing me out!

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It really sounds as though you need some support. Do you have any support groups for mothers around? Is there anyone that could maybe look after your daughter for a few hours a week, just so you can have some time off? I'm not sure how old your daughter is, but do you have any friends who have children of a similar age, that you could go out with, to the park or something like that? Just so you have time to socialise as well as looking after your daughter. I'm sure you're doing a great job at looking after her! :hugs:

Reply 3505

PonchoKid

Original post by 08batee

So glad it was okay for you hun!

cheers hun, just knackered now :frown:

and feel sick, mostly due to lack of sleep, and possibly lack of food, but my step dads gonna go get chinese for our tea :smile:

hope your ok :hugs:

Original post by kmcgowan13

He's back now and come in and Saud 'd you think your life is 'that' bad and I said yes, now he's not talking to me :-( he doesn't understand, no one does

maybe try talk to him, or write him a letter explaining,
have you got someone IRL you can talk it all through hun?
prehaps go for a bath, im sure he will be ok for half an hour, and its not as if your leaving the house, but it just gives you a break so dont feel guilty, i know my mum used to do it to get time to herself! read a book in the bath!

Reply 3506

PonchoKid

Original post by avhhs

Same

Oops

Yep I need a proper holiday too :sad:

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getting chinese for tea, so i shouldnt complain :tongue:

really painful, especially my knees :frown:

im going away on thursday, but its not a holiday holiday, its just to my boyfriends, so itll be awesome, but its not away :tongue:

Reply 3507

HmMusic

OK I'm not going into too much detail about everything that has happened in the past few days, but it has resulted in yet another one-sided "conversation" with my boyfriend about my depression and anxiety issues. I'm going to spoiler this in case any of it is triggering.

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Basically I need to be able to explain to him rationally exactly what depression is and how he can help me, in a way that won't make him bored. He is not interested in what I have to say, and I can guarantee that he won't read any resources I can give him. He said "I'll just read Wikipedia when I'm at work" but I don't think that's enough. He will only learn what he chooses to learn and dismiss the rest.

I'm still feeling so fragile from the past few days, and I can't shake the anger, sadness and numbness.

How the hell can I help him understand and support me in the way that I need to be supported?

Reply 3508

avhhs

Original post by PonchoKid

getting chinese for tea, so i shouldnt complain :tongue:

really painful, especially my knees :frown:

im going away on thursday, but its not a holiday holiday, its just to my boyfriends, so itll be awesome, but its not away :tongue:

That's good :smile:

Oh no

sorry I don't have any idea what to do when you get sunburnt :colondollar:

You're lucky, it is better than nothing :yep:

I've got nothing planned for a very long time and I'm always very bored.

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Reply 3509

08batee

Original post by PonchoKid

cheers hun, just knackered now :frown:

and feel sick, mostly due to lack of sleep, and possibly lack of food, but my step dads gonna go get chinese for our tea :smile:

hope your ok :hugs:

Ah no! Hopefully you'll get a great night's sleep tonight in your own bed! And Chinese is :coma:

Thanks hun, felt okay this morning but not so great right now :facepalm:

Reply 3510

PonchoKid

Original post by 08batee

Ah no! Hopefully you'll get a great night's sleep tonight in your own bed! And Chinese is :coma:

Thanks hun, felt okay this morning but not so great right now :facepalm:

im hoping so or ill cry i think :s-smilie:

the chinese was scrummy :drool:

so im happy, and iv spoken to Rory which was nice :smile:

AND i didnt cry :tongue:

just keep yourself distracted as possible, youl be ok hun :jumphug:

Original post by avhhs

That's good :smile:

Oh no

sorry I don't have any idea what to do when you get sunburnt :colondollar:

You're lucky, it is better than nothing :yep:

I've got nothing planned for a very long time and I'm always very bored.

be in alot of pain and put moisturiser on it as much as possible :yep:

im used to it, i always get burnt :sad:

im excited i must admit :smile:

youll find something to do, dont worry, i never used to do anything in summer!

Reply 3511

avhhs

Original post by PonchoKid

be in alot of pain and put moisturiser on it as much as possible :yep:

im used to it, i always get burnt :sad:

im excited i must admit :smile:

youll find something to do, dont worry, i never used to do anything in summer!

Oh ok, yeah it sounds really horrible :hugs:

I never really get sunburnt, but I often get spots on my nose and beard :ninja:

I spent the prom with a nice spot on my nose :sad:

Anyone in a stable, loving relationship would be excited to meet their partner :yep:

Yeah I'm sure I will :smile:

just need to be careful with Twitter and when people talk about going out with friends :colondollar:

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Reply 3512

Sabertooth

Does anyone here ever feel really afraid without being able to pinpoint the source?

The past few days I've gone to bed at 10 like normal, I've then dragged my pillow, blanket and teddy into the living room so I could sleep with my wife in the room while she's still on the computer as I'm too scared to be alone. It makes me feel pathetic. Even more so as she keeps asking me what I'm scared of and I can't answer. Why am I such a wimp? During the day it's not much better, I feel constantly on edge and like I'm being watched, I can't relax at all.

Reply 3513

Nut.

Original post by HmMusic

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Sorry to hear all that.

Would he consider coming along to a medical appointment with you to see your GP or psychiatrist and listen a bit to what they have to say about mental illness?

Or alternatively you could try using a mental health charity. You can use http://www.mind.org.uk/help/mind_in_your_area to locate a Mind near you, and they have good online leaflets too, which are fairly brief but informative. I know you said he won't read things about it, but they're specially designed to engage and educate the reader, so would be better than nothing.

If he prefers video to reading there are some great resources on youtube from the Royal College of Psychiatrists and other charities, and personally I think Stephen Fry does a great job of articulating how it feels.

He needs to understand that you need his support and that you will continue to need it once the baby is here. It's important that he understands that these are real symptoms and not attention-seeking.

The most important thing in all of this is to look after yourself. Try to remain calm, even though it's diffcult. Getting angry and stressed never helps the situation and can make some mental health symptoms worse. Make sure that you're doing things that you enjoy to help you relax, whether that's reading, playing/listening to some music, singing, taking a bath etc.

Hope it all works out. :hugs:

Reply 3514

kmcgowan13

Hi thanks for replying, just managed a snooze so feeling a tad more normal, I've got very few friends around me as they all moved away, my partner is brilliant most the time but when I'm having a bad day I resent him for not having to worry about popping out etc, my daughter is 4 so goes to preschool but never get to relax as I have to pop up to My parents to save petrol and they don't let me sleep! This week I've tried to be normal.., had appointments people over, did a face painting stall and whilst I'm doing it I'm
Fine but afterwards its zapped all ny energy concentrating and not being anxious! I am feeling more normal now, but I've got a long 2 week's ahead of me :-s

Reply 3515

The_Lonely_Goatherd

Original post by Sabertooth

I get this from time to time. I tell my mum I feel "on edge" and she'll be like "why?" and I'll be like :dontknow:

or say something that sounds really trivial to her but isn't to me.

Not sure what to suggest to help you feel safer but please know that you're not a wimp AT ALL :hugs:

Reply 3516

sadpanda123

Still feeling rubbish. :s-smilie:

Seeing my therapist tomorrow but still too worried to talk to her about some of my thoughts-triggering for most

Spoiler

I wondered whether I should go back and speak to GP again but I'm working too much at the moment so couldn't make it until the end of next week. :frown:

Ugh

I hate myself, I don't want to be me any more

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Reply 3517

HmMusic

Original post by Nut.

I have sent a bunch of articles on the MIND website to his work email address. He says he will read them tomorrow at work so hopefully he actually will.

I'm feeling so crisis-y tonight, just as much as yesterday. I wanted to go to the hospital last night but my boyfriend said it would be a waste of resources which made me feel even worse I texted my midwife last night about it and she told me to go to Out Of Hours but I haven't build up the courage until this evening, so I phoned 111 and they made me an appointment at 10pm so I'll be going later with him. I feel so utterly hopeless, but I don't think I should be going even though the lady at 111 said I needed to. I don't think my stuff is important or severe enough for them to do anything about it.

Reply 3518

08batee

Original post by kmcgowan13

I'm glad you're feeling slightly better after some sleep - I think lack of sleep and feeling really tired makes things so much worse :frown:

Ah okay, have you spoken to your parents about how run down you're feeling? Maybe they could be of support to you? I really hope you feel better soon, you can PM me any time if you need to rant or anything - I can't promise I'll be able to understand but I'll definitely listen :smile:

Original post by PonchoKid

im hoping so or ill cry i think :s-smilie:

the chinese was scrummy :drool:

so im happy, and iv spoken to Rory which was nice :smile:

AND i didnt cry :tongue:

just keep yourself distracted as possible, youl be ok hun :jumphug:

be in alot of pain and put moisturiser on it as much as possible :yep:

im used to it, i always get burnt :sad:

im excited i must admit :smile:

youll find something to do, dont worry, i never used to do anything in summer!

I'm sure you will! Ahh I'm jealous :lol:

for not crying! :jumphug:

Thanks hun, feeling a little better at the moment I guess. Things are very up and down at the moment :sad:

Reply 3519

08batee

Original post by sadpanda123

Still feeling rubbish. :s-smilie:

Seeing my therapist tomorrow but still too worried to talk to her about some of my thoughts-triggering for most

Spoiler

I wondered whether I should go back and speak to GP again but I'm working too much at the moment so couldn't make it until the end of this week. :frown:

Ugh

I hate myself, I don't want to be me any more

So sorry you're feeling so rubbish. I can understand why it's difficult to talk about things like that :console:

I think going back to the GP is a very good idea though. :yep:

Do you have anyone (friends/family) who you can talk to about this? I hope you feel better soon, sorry I can't give much advice, but hang on in there, things most definitely can get better :hugs: