Okay, your views on your family are totally skewed. I thought the way you do at one point, and my father in particular said some utterly abhorrent things to me about my illness, but it was all through frustration.
For example, he shouted into my face, "Fine, kill yourself then, my son's dead anyway now" when he was drunk. That one statement crushed my soul, but simultaneously it gave me strength to realise just how far I'd pushed them. Now, many many moons have elapsed since then, and now I'm in strong recovery he continuously tells me how proud he is of me that I attempted to really battle this full-on. He reminds me every day that he tried everything from pussyfooting around me, to tough love, to full-on soul-destroying insults, to try to get me moving.
Ever heard the phrase, "You never remember a decent day"? It refers to the phenomenon where humans are unable to be happy with being contented. Some people have varying degrees of it - unless it's absolute elation or utter turmoil, some people thrive on the extremes alone. They never hear, never care about anything that isn't an extreme. This is why we only tend to remember the truly extreme measures people take.
So remember what they said to you because they did it out of extreme love, because you pushed them to a point of frustration where they could do nothing else, just as I did. I never remember them trying the OTHER measures because, as I said, none of those were quite as extreme - but they had been trying the entire time.