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Do opposite personalities attract?

To clarify, I mean opposite personality types: for example, I am quite forward and sociable, and I often find myself attracted to guys who are more laid-back and introverted.

Do you think people tend to be attracted to those with different personalities, who probably bring out a different side to them? Or is it more of a turn off, because they're less likely to have shared values/interests?

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Reply 1

James Flahey

I'm somewhat laid back and introverted, I like it when people are somewhat similar, however by introverted I mean within social groups, not always pushing to be center of attention etc, people that just sit at home bore me, you've gotta like human company.

Reply 2

Get_Lucky_606

I think they do in a way - I've always been attracted to more outgoing girls because I'm reasonably laid back but I also like when they are motivated to do fun things /share similar interests with me guess you can't have it all though :tongue:

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Get_Lucky_606

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Reply 4

lizlaz350

I can't imagine being in a successful relationship with someone who was the complete opposite to me.

Obviously nobody is exactly the same and there are some factors that you and your partner are bound to disagree on and there'll be differences between you but how can you connect with someone and get on with them if you have absolutely nothing in common? What would you talk about?

Reply 5

RalphsDisciple

It's hard to say, really. My boyfriend and I are opposites in terms of the fact that I'm very shy and introverted and he's far more sociable and outgoing, I was very good at school and got very good grades, whereas he was the loveable troublemaker who kind of skated through exams. So we're opposites there. But in terms of our sense of humour, our likes and dislikes, our beliefs and backgrounds, the way we were raised, we're very similar. So I think the ideal really is for two people to be similar enough to get along, but different enough to make it interesting :smile:

Reply 6

Lord Frieza

If you get the south pole of a magnet and the north pole of a magnet, they do attract yes.

Reply 7

RoyalBlue7

In the material word opposite attract.
In the spiritual word opposite repels.

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Reply 8

Maid Marian

I voted no, purely because I couldn't imagine being with someone who was the opposite of me. There's no way it would work. They would find me SO boring :teehee:

Reply 9

James Flahey

Original post by Maid Marian

I voted no, purely because I couldn't imagine being with someone who was the opposite of me. There's no way it would work. They would find me SO boring :teehee:

What do you fill your time with?

Reply 10

Maid Marian

Original post by James Flahey

What do you fill your time with?

The internet and television... :erm:

Reply 11

Sloaney Pony

Original post by Maid Marian

The internet and television... :erm:

You could try taking up new hobbies? Not to impress new partners necessarily, but even if you're more of an introvert doing new stuff can be fun :tongue:

Reply 12

Maid Marian

Original post by Sloaney Pony

You could try taking up new hobbies? Not to impress new partners necessarily, but even if you're more of an introvert doing new stuff can be fun :tongue:

I have no interest in other hobbies :sigh:

I can't help it...

Reply 13

Sloaney Pony

Original post by Maid Marian

I have no interest in other hobbies :sigh:

I can't help it...

Maybe you're just stuck in a rut?

You don't have to socialise to take up a hobby... do drawing or read books or join the gym or something? :s-smilie:

Reply 14

Sloaney Pony

Original post by StUdEnTIGCSE

In the material word opposite attract.
In the spiritual word opposite repels.

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Eh?

Reply 15

Treeroy

I wouldn't say it doesn't matter per se, but I have definitely been attracted to guys who are like me and unlike me. The guy I like at the moment is the polar opposite of me, and we get on really well together - there's definitely something there. I'd say it's a turn on. But it varies from person to person.

Original post by Bixiylix

It does not matter

The man should lead and control and protect the woman

No sex before marriage

He can decide whether abortions can be carried out

What about gay relationships? What rules must we follow? :wink:

Original post by StUdEnTIGCSE

In the material word opposite attract.
In the spiritual word opposite repels.

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Are you high? (Or religious?)

Reply 16

Id and Ego seek

In an ideal world I'd like to date someone strong-minded and willed, dominant and confident. While those are opposite qualities to my own, I wouldn't say "opposites attract": more so, "you deep down want to date someone with qualities you wish you had".

Reply 17

Millie228

Yes, absolutely. It's as true as feminine attracts masculine. Looking at all the successful, long term couples I know there is such a balance. Masculine - feminine, passive - active, extroverted - introverted, adventurous - home-oriented, analytical - intuitive etc.

There is a saying "birds of a feather..:" but I think that is regarding background and values. You're more likely to hit it off with someone of similar socio-economic background, similar religion (if you have one), political beliefs etc.

So for me the right guy is masculine, extroverted, ambitious, active, analytical, not very emotional and is of a similar background to mine, educated, either Christian or agnostic and conservative.

This holds true with every guy I've been attracted to who's also been attracted to me - even if I don't know any of these things, the immadiate attraction we feel is a result of polarity between us. That polarity is necessary not just to fall in love, but to have sexual attraction and keep that attraction. I see some people with very similar partners to themselves, but their relationships are always more friendship-based than they are passionate.

Reply 18

deedee123

To an extent. You want someone thats a bit different to you but you're not going to like someone that is the complete opposite of everything about you.