Boyfriend dilemma

Right, let me explain my predicament to some random strangers on the internet. I am in a long term relationship with someone who is very special and important to me.

Long story short, we have both cheated on each other with different people. I found out about him cheating on me, (with another guy at a party, he's bisexual) accidentally and it did tear me apart at the time. At the same time I'd had feelings for a guy at work for some time and then stupidly acted on them after a couple of drinks, after thinking 'well what the hell he's done the same to me, does it make any difference'

Now I can't stop thinking about things, making it difficult to forget this other guy (we're not in touch any more) I think he doesn't want to know as I'm in a relationship with someone else which is fair enough . Thing is we were really good friends at the time seeing him everyday at work and all that so seeing as I don't see him anymore (new job) I actually feel like I miss him a lot which makes me feel bad .

My current boyfriend was my first love, first sex, first pretty much everything and occasionally i get that awful feeling (it is awful!) when I feel like I want to have experimented a bit more.

I live with my boyfriend, which somehow makes the feelings a whole lot worse because you don't escape the feeling too easily. I'm looking for some advice off anyone who's been in a similar situation...

I don't really want to talk about it with friends because some of our friends are mutual friends and the others I feel awful telling too many people that Ive cheated on him.

So any advice is welcome thank you TSR

I think you need to think about whether you see a happy future ahead with your current boyfriend. Besides for the cheating bit my relationship status is pretty much same as yours ie living together and he was my first bf etc and sometimes I do think I would have liked to experiment a bit more. Also there was a guy at work who I flirted with tho never took it further and I've moved jobs and haven't seen him but sometimes I think what could been etc and that's normal but my bf and I have a future together and I can't imagine a life without him tbh and while other guys or cheating could satisfy me temporarily I don't think anyone else could make me as happy as he does. Essentially what I'm saying is that you have to evaluate what is more important to you, your relationship with him or having some excitement and also whether long term you will be happy with him. If you think he is the one for you then stick with it tho you will have to learn to trust each other and not cheat obviously. Hope that makes sense


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You are no longer in love with your boyfriend. Break up before you cheat again or he does to you because the relationship is clearly over.

So does he also know you cheated on him?

I think you need to be open about your feelings to him and see how he feels.

However, don't throw something away that means so much to you. Regret is an awful thing

Good luck

I don't know whether things are that black and white - that is the problem. Have you been in a similar situation? x