Worried about going overseas/LDR

If you have a history of mental instability do you think it's wise to go now? I say this as someone who has anxiety disorder and made the stupid decision to move away for uni and it Didnt end well and I moved back home. Maybe stay here until things get established and then pursue your career further? Your health comes first.

Normally i would say no don't even bother with LDR, I've tried them before and they do not work. 99.9% of others who have tried will say the same thing. But you have been with this girl for 7 years which, I think, means you are relatively likely to be in that top 0.1%. I say give it a shot! As long as you two have some definite plans to visit each other and to permanently close that gap after a set period of time, then it is definitely worth carrying on! However, if neither of you will be willing to permanently close that gap after some time, it will not work. You must talk about that first.

This is very true. However, my depression is a lot to with my career messing up and also having a physical disability as a result of an accident. Therefore, sitting at home won't help me. I must be brave I guess. But yeah losing her would be like the final thing imo. Thanks.

I personally think that instead of pursuing this thing you should address why you have been depressed because of your career and disability. Yes your career is important , but there are more things important like family, friends, hobbies, lifestyle, your health. If you load all of your happiness onto one thing and it lets you down it will crush you. But then again this is just my opinion that I've come to through experiences .

Is there any reason why she can't go abroad with you?

I'm currently in an LDR and it is difficult as hell. Everyday I'm just thinking about how I'll save up and move to his city one day.

Initially she was going to come but sadly she has very valid reasons that stop her. If it was further down the line she may have.

I have trouble handling change and this is major for me.

Ok, fair enough. You say you'll be back in 2 years, so at least you have that clear end date in sight. You don't know yet what the LDR will be like until you try it, so stop worrying so much and just go with the flow. It's very easy to keep in touch with people anywhere in the world these days with emails, social networking, video calling, phone calls, texts, letters, etc. There are a couple of LDR threads on this website if you want to chat to other people in the same situation as you

Thanks hun. Hope it goes well for you. Your ldr is within the uk though right? I will definitely find that thread. I will have to try and establish guaranteed contact with my gf in some way. What's the best for overseas? Someone mentioned skype. Is there anything free where you can see them, hear them e.t.c rather than typing. Sorry I am not clued up on this and really don't want to just use facebook to keep in contact.

Doesn't sound encouraging Will try to visit each other. Yeah I should be back in 2 years permanently. Other than that I will be back here maybe for certain holidays.

Yeah it is a long time but I am worried there is only so much she can take of my issues. Me being away she may forget me. She said she can't forget me/move on ever but naturally I am very anxious regarding this.

Nahhhh. Dude you've been together for 7 years! 7!!!!! None of the LDR people I know of were together for 7 years! I was with my LDR gf for 1 year before I left the country (a minimum 5 years plus), it lasted a year and a half. You will only be gone for 2. Your relationship has already stood the test of time, I know married couples who have been together for less time than you two have! I think your chances are good! Just stay positive and DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT get emotional all the time. After the initial week or two, you MUST keep the conversation light and easy 90% of the time. And of course, keep up the trust!

7 years is a long time, you know each other well - there is no reason why you shouldn't go on strong.

Anyway, there are many resources on the internet for ideas of long distance relationships and to keep the spark up.
also, you are 'just' across Europe (ie, not across oceans), so you may be able to find the occasional affordable flight for a weekend, and you know you will have holidays together.

Try sending letters to each other as well as Skype/phoning often (switch things up to prevent a routine from becoming a chore). Sending handmade gifts and letters is also much more personal than merely Skype and will help up.
Also, think that absence makes the heart grow fonder, so you will treasure your encounters for those 2 years, and afterwards you will be permanently together again. Either way, do not fear and have faith - 7 years is a long time, you are both in it for the long run.

For a bit of extra motivation - I know a lovely couple who've been together for 8-9 years, 4 of those years they have spent in an LDR across Europe (and not from the beginning of the relationship). They have regular contact with each other and love each other like the first day.

Add-on - there is also a sticky topic which has advice and support for TSR members in an LDR Relationship - I would recommend checking it out!