No friends at uni

I have family commitments so I can't be getting uni accommodation.



I did join the Econ society. Absolutely horrible. All their events had to do with drinking alcohol, lots of it. I guess I could join the ULU Harry Potter Society, that will be a start.

I do make small talk but those people don't want to get to know me beyond that.

At school, it was so much easier to socialise. Anywhere I go, even if I didn't want to, I always made friends. My luck apparently ran out when I started to go to uni.

Sorry, you can't just give up because of the horrid alcoholic Economic society. There are societies out there which don't rely on alcohol. Trust me. I just haven't quite joined them yet.

You have to make more effort than you did in school, then, You can no longer just go anywhere and automatically make friends. Did you go to a big or small school?

I go to a different uni and struggled to make friends the first year as well, none of the societies really interest me and im not a big drinker which a lot of the freshers did of course aha but im determined to try and make more effort this year, especially means a lot of the modules involves group work so I guess people will get less shy and more sociable... or at least I hope so!

I'm not a big drinker myself but I loved going to that clubbing event in freshers. I just never had time because of commitments and my inability to balance everything together. From the middle of September, I will go to a clubbing event once a week from start to finish (I will try first if I actually will like it the second time round).

somehow I knew when I read the start of this that it would be a QMUL issue!! About training for national championships, check again because there's no rule im aware of that you have to compete and for my club at least, we don't leave london except for the actual competitions (1 in february, 1 in march, a day or two each).

I went to QMUL for 6 weeks in 2011 and felt the exact same way that you do now, and I interrupted for a year, came back and joined a few societies - found one a loved and stuck with it and now the vast majority of my uni friends are from this club. So really do try and give a sports team a go because it's probably the one kind that you KNOW isn't going to be reliant on alcohol!!!

And of course I'm biased but, join cheer


Also btw i have MANY family commitments and live at home in east london and work so no excuse you can do it

I don't think thats the ideal route really. I've never in my life made an actual new friend via clubbing. It's loud, a bit awkward, fun if you're with your mates but how are you going to make friends there?

I won't have any friends at uni either. You are not alone

I won't have any friends at uni either. You are not alone

QMUL. Really feeling lonely

somehow I knew when I read the start of this that it would be a QMUL issue!! About training for national championships, check again because there's no rule im aware of that you have to compete and for my club at least, we don't leave london except for the actual competitions (1 in february, 1 in march, a day or two each).

I went to QMUL for 6 weeks in 2011 and felt the exact same way that you do now, and I interrupted for a year, came back and joined a few societies - found one a loved and stuck with it and now the vast majority of my uni friends are from this club. So really do try and give a sports team a go because it's probably the one kind that you KNOW isn't going to be reliant on alcohol!!!

And of course I'm biased but, join cheer


Also btw i have MANY family commitments and live at home in east london and work so no excuse you can do it

Your depressing posts are really annoying. I seem to come across these on almost every thread I see. OK, we get you are quite a sad person but you come across as attention seeking if you keep making posts like these as if you keep wanting someone to reply "It's ok". Which I have seen people do for you yet here we go back again to the depressive posts. I'm sure there are a lot of people on this website who have a harder life then you yet they don't feel the need to always post repeatedly negativity and putting themselves down.

Nobody on this website is uglier than me, therefore they do not have a harder life.
I don't care if people find my posts annoying. And I don't want people to say "it's ok".

Hi, sorry this post won't be helpful at all, but I'm thinking of applying to go to QMUL this year and I'm quite a shy person (I don't usually have trouble making friends, I'm just quiet really) but the idea of moving from Manchester down to London and ending up with no friends is pretty scary!

Do you think it's the uni that's the problem? Sorry if I'm not articulating myself very well, I just don't want to go somewhere that I'll struggle to make friends.

Sure you have a database of what everyone on tsr looks like more than $\dfrac{2}{3}$rds of the posters have avatars - e.g. me.

inb4 she says she surveyed every girl on tsr because being ugly as a guy isn't half as bad as being ugly as girl *in her opinion*

QMUL. Really feeling lonely

Not opinion, this is pure truth. An ugly guy will not receive the same brutal condemnation from society as an ugly girl will.

I was enquiring about some events and me being stupid, I thought that a house party was a party that only played house music, not being exclusive to halls. Naturally, I was laughed at for being an idiot. Pinkfloydfacepalm