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Original post by IDukem
Ross's teeth 
I remember cringing when he said Rachel at the alter hahaaaaaaa. Do you remember his sandwich too? 
Friends is still great to this day 
I remember cringing when he said Rachel at the alter hahaaaaaaa. Do you remember his sandwich too? Friends is still great to this day Yeah, haha. That was also very funny. "Y-y-you threw my sandwich away? My sandwich? MYYYYY SANDWICH?!!!?"
Hope you're doing okay 
Original post by 08batee
I really hope you were okay last night.
I really hope you were okay last night.I fell asleep luckily,
Hope your ok
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Yeah, haha. That was also very funny. "Y-y-you threw my sandwich away? My sandwich? MYYYYY SANDWICH?!!!?" Hope you're doing okay
Hope you're doing okay I might watch that episode tonight!! I love(d) it
Aww yeah i'm feeling all right for now, I hope you are too 
Original post by Sultana yeah you can. You have any distractions you can use?
yeah you can. You have any distractions you can use?Thank you.
My internet was cut off. 
I managed to fall asleep in the end. 
Gah I have an appointment tomorrow.
I know he's going to ask me about stuff I don't want to talk about. 
Don't know how to get across to him just how bad things have been this past couple of weeks. I always play things down which doesn't help anything. Really don't want to go. 
Original post by tasha96
Thank you. My internet was cut off. I managed to fall asleep in the end.
Gah I have an appointment tomorrow. I know he's going to ask me about stuff I don't want to talk about. Don't know how to get across to him just how bad things have been this past couple of weeks. I always play things down which doesn't help anything. Really don't want to go.
My internet was cut off. I managed to fall asleep in the end. Gah I have an appointment tomorrow.
I know he's going to ask me about stuff I don't want to talk about. Don't know how to get across to him just how bad things have been this past couple of weeks. I always play things down which doesn't help anything. Really don't want to go. Could you write down how bad things are, being completely honest, then just hand it over? that way you can't back out so long as you give him it.
Original post by PonchoKid
Original post by IDukem
I might watch that episode tonight!! I love(d) it Aww yeah i'm feeling all right for now, I hope you are too
Aww yeah i'm feeling all right for now, I hope you are too Yeah, I bought that series on DVD, but they sent the wrong one by mistake, and I just couldn't be bothered to send it back, so I don't have that episode
I could probably watch it online somewhere though. Glad to hear you're okay Feeling constantly low is so tiring. Have a terrible headache and I really need to sleep but I can't. Just feel dead 
Original post by Sabertooth
Could you write down how bad things are, being completely honest, then just hand it over? that way you can't back out so long as you give him it.
I'm not sure.
I never really know how to put things into words to write it down if you know what I mean. I've written things down for doctors before but then never had the courage to hand it over when it came to it. I know that sounds pathetic. I really dont know how to put "things have been really really bad" into proper words. Eurgh this massive wall of hopelessness has hit me right in the face. My wife has an important presentation to do in a bit so I can't talk to her. The voices and walls are urging me on to do the bad things in my head, trying to resist but not so sure I'll be able to once she leaves and I'm left alone.
Original post by tasha96
I'm not sure. I never really know how to put things into words to write it down if you know what I mean. I've written things down for doctors before but then never had the courage to hand it over when it came to it. I know that sounds pathetic. I really dont know how to put "things have been really really bad" into proper words.
I never really know how to put things into words to write it down if you know what I mean. I've written things down for doctors before but then never had the courage to hand it over when it came to it. I know that sounds pathetic. I really dont know how to put "things have been really really bad" into proper words. When I do it, I sit down and write everything down in one massive splurge of words, it doesn't need to be perfect sentences with perfect grammar. It can even just be bullet points or random words. But yeah, I think it can be intimidating at first to give the doctor something so personal so it doesn't sound pathetic at all - but it gets easier the more you do it. I'd advise writing down what you can and taking it with you, if when it comes to it you can't hand it over don't worry, it might help even to just read over what you've written in the waiting room to help you get things straight in your head.
Original post by Sabertooth
When I do it, I sit down and write everything down in one massive splurge of words, it doesn't need to be perfect sentences with perfect grammar. It can even just be bullet points or random words. But yeah, I think it can be intimidating at first to give the doctor something so personal so it doesn't sound pathetic at all - but it gets easier the more you do it. I'd advise writing down what you can and taking it with you, if when it comes to it you can't hand it over don't worry, it might help even to just read over what you've written in the waiting room to help you get things straight in your head.
Thank you.
I'll definitely give it a go. 
Hope you're okay.
Sorry your voices are being loud. Is there anything that works as a distraction? Ok I really need help, I'm panicking so so much :'(
I've got a place to study Primary Education at Durham University starting at the end of September. Part of me is so excited, I've worked so hard for this. but there are multiple things that are really beginning to worry me.
The first is that Durham is such a high pressure university and I am already a perfectionist. I am scared that the pressure is going to make my mental health problems worse.
Secondly I am really not sure if I want uni entirely for the right reasons. One of the things that excites me the most is that I get to control my own food, which for me, being honest will probably equate to not buying any food at all. And this prospect really excites me, as does the fact that I will literally live next door to the gym so can go all the time, easily. Which is obviously really bad for my ED... but I do really want to be a teacher and make a difference to kids lives, and I dont want anything to jepordise that although I realise that if I indulge my ED that itself will jepordise it ... I just don't think I am anywhere near strong enough to ignore the ED at the minute. I've only had a few PWP sessions..
Which leads me to my 3rd worry. All my treatment will have to end, and it might take ages to get it again, and to be honest it took me so long to trust my doctor and the PWP that I've only just started being honest with them .. so all this will be messed up with a new doctor etc, and I dont really want anyone to know at my uni. I want a fresh start.
The last and biggest worry came today, all students on the primary ed course have to fill in an occupational health questionnaire, and it says at the top that you have to be honest, and that if the information is found to be untrue you can be terminated from training. There are a number of questions on this that are causing me problems. Because I dont want them to chuck me off the course before I've even started .. I need this. One is have you ever been treated in hospital, if yes please give reasons and dates .. about a month ago I ended up in hospital after doing a really bad thing we arent meant to talk about on here. I can hardly put that down can I... it also says have you seen a doctor and been treated for anything in the past year .. I have loads for ED and depression :/ It also says are you currently having any treatment which I guess is my PWP and referral to AN services. It also asks if you have ever suffered from mental health problems .. what and when .. im really scared if I put depression and ED down to present they wont let me on, but I cant lie, I just dont know what to do..
Please someone help.. any advice would be appreciated so much, I'm so panicky right now. Thanks
I've got a place to study Primary Education at Durham University starting at the end of September. Part of me is so excited, I've worked so hard for this. but there are multiple things that are really beginning to worry me.
The first is that Durham is such a high pressure university and I am already a perfectionist. I am scared that the pressure is going to make my mental health problems worse.
Secondly I am really not sure if I want uni entirely for the right reasons. One of the things that excites me the most is that I get to control my own food, which for me, being honest will probably equate to not buying any food at all. And this prospect really excites me, as does the fact that I will literally live next door to the gym so can go all the time, easily. Which is obviously really bad for my ED... but I do really want to be a teacher and make a difference to kids lives, and I dont want anything to jepordise that although I realise that if I indulge my ED that itself will jepordise it ... I just don't think I am anywhere near strong enough to ignore the ED at the minute. I've only had a few PWP sessions..
Which leads me to my 3rd worry. All my treatment will have to end, and it might take ages to get it again, and to be honest it took me so long to trust my doctor and the PWP that I've only just started being honest with them .. so all this will be messed up with a new doctor etc, and I dont really want anyone to know at my uni. I want a fresh start.
The last and biggest worry came today, all students on the primary ed course have to fill in an occupational health questionnaire, and it says at the top that you have to be honest, and that if the information is found to be untrue you can be terminated from training. There are a number of questions on this that are causing me problems. Because I dont want them to chuck me off the course before I've even started .. I need this. One is have you ever been treated in hospital, if yes please give reasons and dates .. about a month ago I ended up in hospital after doing a really bad thing we arent meant to talk about on here. I can hardly put that down can I... it also says have you seen a doctor and been treated for anything in the past year .. I have loads for ED and depression :/ It also says are you currently having any treatment which I guess is my PWP and referral to AN services. It also asks if you have ever suffered from mental health problems .. what and when .. im really scared if I put depression and ED down to present they wont let me on, but I cant lie, I just dont know what to do..
Please someone help.. any advice would be appreciated so much, I'm so panicky right now. Thanks
Original post by PonchoKid
well you shouldnt be proud of my, i was a quivering shakey wreck trying to tell strangers there was an accident, i didnt even know if the man was alive urghhhhh, horrible.
BUT your here now
iv missed you too much
well you shouldnt be proud of my, i was a quivering shakey wreck trying to tell strangers there was an accident, i didnt even know if the man was alive
urghhhhh, horrible.BUT your here now
iv missed you too much
Well deal with it, because I am proud!
Yeahhh, I am
. I've missed you too hun! Original post by 08batee
How are you doing hun?
How are you doing hun? Hey!
. I'm actually in a fairly good place... The bad days seem to be getting more manageable, and the good days are really good . How are you lovely? Original post by IDukem
Sarah!!!!
IDUKEM!!!!!
hey you 
Original post by 05autyt
The first is that Durham is such a high pressure university and I am already a perfectionist. I am scared that the pressure is going to make my mental health problems worse.
The first is that Durham is such a high pressure university and I am already a perfectionist. I am scared that the pressure is going to make my mental health problems worse.
I'm afraid I can't help on your other points, but would like to say this.
Durham is not as high pressure as you perhaps think it is. I see no reason why it ought to be more high pressure than any other Russell Group university. Primary Education, as a course, may be high pressure. I can't comment on that.
I would hope that Queen's Campus is more supportive, and less up its arse, that Durham itself is, although I can't say for certain, What I've heard from people doing other courses at QC has been positive, though. Not that I'm saying Durham itself isn't support, just that there is a variation in departments, but there have been improvements made in recent years - partly thanks to people like me
The Disability Service are great and do will do all they can.Universities do have support in place. You are entitled to reasonable adjustments, which may include things like flexible deadlines.
Moreoever, if you do have history of depression and an eating disorder I advise you to apply for Disabled Students Allowance. This will be able to cover additional costs associated with disability or health conditions including equipment, books/photocopying, and non-medical helper support (including support worker/mentor).
So much pain
This is why i hide from the sun because i burn so bad in stupid places
Gotta be at my nannas for 8am tomorrow as BT are coming round and all i want to so is hide in bed because i have to socialise tomorrow night aswell
Did it ALL day today at a local country fair thing and had loads of people asking what im doing next
Even had to see my cousin and aunty and uncle from my dads side and act all happy when i know they think im a failure
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This is why i hide from the sun because i burn so bad in stupid places
Gotta be at my nannas for 8am tomorrow as BT are coming round and all i want to so is hide in bed because i have to socialise tomorrow night aswell
Did it ALL day today at a local country fair thing and had loads of people asking what im doing next
Even had to see my cousin and aunty and uncle from my dads side and act all happy when i know they think im a failure
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Original post by River85
I'm afraid I can't help on your other points, but would like to say this.
Durham is not as high pressure as you perhaps think it is. I see no reason why it ought to be more high pressure than any other Russell Group university. Primary Education, as a course, may be high pressure. I can't comment on that.
I would hope that Queen's Campus is more supportive, and less up its arse, that Durham itself is, although I can't say for certain, What I've heard from people doing other courses at QC has been positive, though. Not that I'm saying Durham itself isn't support, just that there is a variation in departments, but there have been improvements made in recent years - partly thanks to people like me The Disability Service are great and do will do all they can.
Universities do have support in place. You are entitled to reasonable adjustments, which may include things like flexible deadlines.
Moreoever, if you do have history of depression and an eating disorder I advise you to apply for Disabled Students Allowance. This will be able to cover additional costs associated with disability or health conditions including equipment, books/photocopying, and non-medical helper support (including support worker/mentor).
Durham is not as high pressure as you perhaps think it is. I see no reason why it ought to be more high pressure than any other Russell Group university. Primary Education, as a course, may be high pressure. I can't comment on that.
I would hope that Queen's Campus is more supportive, and less up its arse, that Durham itself is, although I can't say for certain, What I've heard from people doing other courses at QC has been positive, though. Not that I'm saying Durham itself isn't support, just that there is a variation in departments, but there have been improvements made in recent years - partly thanks to people like me
The Disability Service are great and do will do all they can.Universities do have support in place. You are entitled to reasonable adjustments, which may include things like flexible deadlines.
Moreoever, if you do have history of depression and an eating disorder I advise you to apply for Disabled Students Allowance. This will be able to cover additional costs associated with disability or health conditions including equipment, books/photocopying, and non-medical helper support (including support worker/mentor).
Thank you for replying, I am so stressed right now. Yeah I've heard a lot about Durhams reputation thats made me panic a bit. I really hope they are supportive too. I want uni so much, but I'm really scared its going to make everything worse. Hmm I'm not sure about disabled students allowance. I have looked into it because a few people have mentioned it, but I dont know, I'm not sure I feel like I deserve it, like I feel people could better use it than me .. thanks again for replying!
Original post by PonchoKid
So much pain
This is why i hide from the sun because i burn so bad in stupid places
Gotta be at my nannas for 8am tomorrow as BT are coming round and all i want to so is hide in bed because i have to socialise tomorrow night aswell
Did it ALL day today at a local country fair thing and had loads of people asking what im doing next
Even had to see my cousin and aunty and uncle from my dads side and act all happy when i know they think im a failure
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This is why i hide from the sun because i burn so bad in stupid places
Gotta be at my nannas for 8am tomorrow as BT are coming round and all i want to so is hide in bed because i have to socialise tomorrow night aswell
Did it ALL day today at a local country fair thing and had loads of people asking what im doing next
Even had to see my cousin and aunty and uncle from my dads side and act all happy when i know they think im a failure
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You can allways PN me, if you like. I don't think they see you as failure and even if, they surely want to see you just for you, not for your educational standard. You can give your family so much more, than success. A highly successful person who is never around and doesn't care of their family is useless. A caring person isn't.
Original post by NathanielleYou can allways PN me, if you like.
I don't think they see you as failure and even if, they surely want to see you just for you, not for your educational standard. You can give your family so much more, than success. A highly successful person who is never around and doesn't care of their family is useless. A caring person isn't.
You can allways PN me, if you like. I don't think they see you as failure and even if, they surely want to see you just for you, not for your educational standard. You can give your family so much more, than success. A highly successful person who is never around and doesn't care of their family is useless. A caring person isn't.
Oh no i am a failure.
I didnt even pass my degree but one cousin got a 1st
I went to a **** uni that when i was there was a university college my other cousin went to edinburgh or something...
I dont even get acknowledged by my own father and i hate it. Im nothing to him yet my brother and sister and even step siblings are always top of his list. Im a peice of **** on his shoe that shouldnt even exist in his eyes.
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Original post by PonchoKid
Oh no i am a failure.
I didnt even pass my degree but one cousin got a 1st
I didnt even pass my degree but one cousin got a 1st
The important part is to accept, that you are not per se a failure. I mean, there will be reasons you failed the course and there will be things you are totaly able to do. At what point have you failed at university? There are a lot of people dropping out in the first two years, just look around, especially over the borders.
I went to a **** uni that when i was there was a university college my other cousin went to edinburgh or something...
Hm, depending on the course and career you want to end up, the university does not need to be in the top 10.
I dont even get acknowledged by my own father and i hate it. Im nothing to him yet my brother and sister and even step siblings are always top of his list. Im a peice of **** on his shoe that shouldnt even exist in his eyes.
I understand, that is just no help and holds someone down.
Have you any distraction? I mean, I would take some time out, of this vicious circle and maybe just do something for you.
Original post by Nathanielle
The important part is to accept, that you are not per se a failure. I mean, there will be reasons you failed the course and there will be things you are totaly able to do. At what point have you failed at university? There are a lot of people dropping out in the first two years, just look around, especially over the borders.
Hm, depending on the course and career you want to end up, the university does not need to be in the top 10.
I understand, that is just no help and holds someone down.
Have you any distraction? I mean, I would take some time out, of this vicious circle and maybe just do something for you.
Hm, depending on the course and career you want to end up, the university does not need to be in the top 10.
I understand, that is just no help and holds someone down.
Have you any distraction? I mean, I would take some time out, of this vicious circle and maybe just do something for you.
Oh i am a failure lets be honest. I failed my dissertation which is the most important part... And i know i nearly dropped out at xmas in first year because it got too much.
Well considering i didnt even get the grades for the ****test of the unis that do my degree im pretty screwed!
Nope its always on my mind and being talked about how much i dont exist and my dad not acknowledging me its fine im not wanted i get it.
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