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Do ALL guys watch p*rn?

IS it just assumed knowledge that all men and boys jerk off to p*rn these days? Do they all have such huge sexual appetites that being in a good relationship with a beautiful and affectionate woman isn't enough? Is it not good enough to be with and think about just one woman?
because honestly it makes me feel sick to think about my boyfriend watching p*rn. It hurts my feelings, i almost feel cheated on and i don't think it's at all necessary.

surely i'm no the only one who feels this way?

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It seems most do yes. However it shouldn't be the norm to do so and there is a growing concern over porn addiction. I personally no longer watch it and can say from experience if your bf is in any way addicted (even the tiniest bit) it's not that he doesn't find you attractive etc. it's just his brain reward circulatory system being rewired, for more info see websites like yourbrainonporn etc. hope this helps!
It's just a man thing don't take it personally - most guys I know have still watched in when in relationships
Reply 4
Up your game and he will watch it less and less.
Reply 5
I don't think you should feel slighted by it - it doesn't harm anyone and it satisfies a natural craving. It's not a statement about how your boyfriend does or doesn't feel about you.

Having said that, to answer your question, not all guys watch porn. The vast majority do I think, but personally I gave it up.
No, not all men do, like me for example.
Reply 7
It hurts me SO much. I know everyone says it's not a reflection on the girlfriend, but if it was normal and natural, it would be normal and natural for me to accept it and it shouldn't bother me. before porn was so so common and so easily accessible, i'm sure guys didn't die of sexual starvation. it's just because it's there that he watches it, not because he needs to. i don't understand why so many people see it as 'normal' and acceptable.
Original post by Anonymous
It hurts me SO much. I know everyone says it's not a reflection on the girlfriend, but if it was normal and natural, it would be normal and natural for me to accept it and it shouldn't bother me. before porn was so so common and so easily accessible, i'm sure guys didn't die of sexual starvation. it's just because it's there that he watches it, not because he needs to. i don't understand why so many people see it as 'normal' and acceptable.

Because it is..
It helps low labido, using a harmless and pleasurable method, I mean you could do it without p*rn but I personally find it better with.
It's better than having him texting or meeting up with other girls, it's hardly comparable with cheating, no feelings are involved and you shouldn't feel like you do. But if you feel so strongly talk to him? :colondollar:
Original post by Bubzeh
Up your game and he will watch it less and less.


I think he won't and that the comment is unjust for its implying that the porn (or p*rn) is somehow making good on a deficiency in the girlfriend. These are differences in kind and not in degree and there is no "upping her game" that is going to make her a saucy milf, or randily Chinese, and still less two blonde 'twins'.

In my own case, and while I've somewhere mislaid the spreadsheet, porn consumption has accompanied periods of relative feast as well as famine. The appetite grows on what it feeds on and I'm only made the hornier for getting some.
Can't speak for myself but I can only assume it's a lot more common among young guys nowadays anyway due to growing up with the internet - I personally didn't see porn until I was 14/15 xD
Original post by Anonymous
It hurts me SO much. I know everyone says it's not a reflection on the girlfriend, but if it was normal and natural, it would be normal and natural for me to accept it and it shouldn't bother me. before porn was so so common and so easily accessible, i'm sure guys didn't die of sexual starvation. it's just because it's there that he watches it, not because he needs to. i don't understand why so many people see it as 'normal' and acceptable.


But you're looking at it from the outside in. No, you probably can't see why he watches it, nor would anyone really expect you to unless you were a fan of porn yourself. But it's up to him what he does in his spare time.

You could go psycho and try to force him not to watch it, but that won't work. All it will mean is he watches it without telling you instead. The vast majority of men do watch porn and will continue to. You can't force someone not to.

If you can't deal with that you'll have to end the relationship and struggle to find someone who feels the same way as you about porn.
Original post by Get_Lucky_606
I can only assume it's a lot more common among young guys nowadays anyway due to growing up with the internet - I personally didn't see porn until I was 14/15 xD


kids these days eh? The lucky bastards. I didn't have a banana before I was nine, nor shaving foam 'til I was 14.
Original post by Anonymous
It hurts me SO much. I know everyone says it's not a reflection on the girlfriend, but if it was normal and natural, it would be normal and natural for me to accept it and it shouldn't bother me. before porn was so so common and so easily accessible, i'm sure guys didn't die of sexual starvation. it's just because it's there that he watches it, not because he needs to. i don't understand why so many people see it as 'normal' and acceptable.


What's the problem? You sound terribly insecure.

My boyfriend doesn't watch porn. I do. And no it's not cheating.
glad im not dating you frankly.

My gf knows i watches porn but she watches it herself so its all good - should i feel like shes cheating on me cos shes watching it?

the fact that you feel almost cheated on is more an indication of your mental state than it is his
Original post by cambio wechsel
kids these days eh? The lucky bastards. I didn't have a banana before I was nine, nor shaving foam 'til I was 14.


No streaming sites either back in the day, was all about Limewire xD
I could see why you'd feel like this. When I'm in a relationship I don't really watch porn, but mostly because I talk openly about sex and we both get what we want in the relationship.

I would say a determining factor would be whether you feel he has sex with you less as a result or if he watches porn because you don't have the sex together that he fantasises about. In both of these cases it's something you should talk with him about.

But to answer your original question, it would seem most guys watch porn, yeah.
Original post by Get_Lucky_606
No streaming sites either back in the day, was all about Limewire xD


Lordy, that takes me back. The whole family huddled 'round the gas burner, nan trying to fix the modem so we could all watch "Beverley Hills Cock". Great days.
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Original post by DavidYorkshireFTW
Because it is..
It helps low labido, using a harmless and pleasurable method, I mean you could do it without p*rn but I personally find it better with.
It's better than having him texting or meeting up with other girls, it's hardly comparable with cheating, no feelings are involved and you shouldn't feel like you do. But if you feel so strongly talk to him? :colondollar:


Um so if he doesn't watch porn he will cheat instead? what you are actually confirming is that i am not enough for him. That he HAS to get his kicks elsewhere, and if he doesn't watch porn then he will cheat on me. You're saying it is comparable with cheating, so how is what i am feeling at all irrational?
I don't.

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