Original post by Collette94I'll even give you a list (applies to both sexes):
-If you are overweight/puny/too skinny/haven't exercised since God knows when and hate the thought of healthy eating, sort yourself out and get in shape. Physical attractiveness counts for both sexes. Take up a sport or two (join your local gym or run and train at home if you can't afford it), and eat healthily. A quick Google search will tell you how to do both. Even the NHS site has all the advice you need, there are no excuses. If you have a problem with binge drinking/smoking try to quit, that stuff will ruin your looks.
-Learn some decent social skills and get yourself a decent bunch of platonic friends. Once you have these, you won't need to learn any stupid Jedi mind tricks to get you THAT PERSON OF YOUR DREAMS 1111. Tip: ditch the "How To Get A Man And Keep Him" or "How To Pull 10000000 Hotty" books, and stop taking advice from magazines like Mens' Health or Cosmo, too (They contain some good advice, but the undiscerning eye probably won't be able to pick them out.) In fact, stop taking ANY advice (even from your friends) as to how to find a partner/pull, and focus solely on improving your general social skills. So how do you develop these?
Simple: go out and socialise. (Yes, this requires work.) You should actually WANT to be friends with people rather than just shag/date them. Don't know where to find friends? You must have hobbies (if not read below). Join local societies/clubs or those at your college/uni or Meetup or Work. Don't like interacting with people and would rather hide away at home fantasizing about the opposite sex? You don't deserve a partner till you man/woman the hell up. Be interested in other people, fun (i.e. up for trying anything new that's reasonable) and polite and well-mannered and you can't go far wrong.
-Become properly educated. Spend the time you would spend "learning" about the opposite sex from books (which is probably all bull**** anyway) learning about the real world. Not an essential in that obviously you don't need an A level in everything, but it's good to be able to talk about stuff. Live life to the full, don't be boring - this goes beyond making sure you know basic history and what's going on in the news. Travel, take up hobbies (because you want to and find them interesting - if you don't don't waste your time on them. If you are so unmotivated you don't find jack **** interesting, choose the least uninteresting one you can). Just generally don't hang around at home and have zero to talk about with other people.
-Learn how to style yourself. Now there is often a world of difference between styling yourself as to be attractive and doing it to follow fashion, ofc there's nothing wrong with the latter but it probably won't be so attractive. You can't go wrong with a decent haircut from a good hairdresser (no need to dye it - natural colour is fine), taking good care of your skin (moisturiser + sunscreen + drinking water and eating healthily), and dressing in a classic/generic way (even just hoodie, T-shirt, jeans and trainers are fine if you aren't scruffy looking and they fit well. Fit is key). Add a nice perfume and bingo.
-Develop a decent personality. Push yourself, figure out where you're going in life (uni, a job, wherever), set yourself goals, don't be a total slob. That's unattractive to most people. Learn morals. I'm not preaching be Mother Teresa here, but you should have a strong sense of self or you'll never be able to get into a decent relationship.