Guys, how do you keep your libidos in check?

Whack it, then think about it.

I'm a 23 year old male virgin (never kissed). My libido was all over the place between 17 and 21. It was very high. I didn't cope well. The worst thing about it was I never had anyone to confide in who was sharing the same problem of no sexual experience. You don't tell these things to people because it gives them ammunition to make fun of you and be generally dickish towards you. I had to cope with it on my own.

At 22 things calmed down a little. At 23 my libido is low. If you remain a virgin for the next few years, you might experience what I did. Namely your sex drive drops at a certain age. Unforunately you have to get through the tough years of 17-21 where your sex drive is huge but you can't get any

I'm a 21 year old male virgin (in every sense of the word), and unfortunately these days my thoughts are starting to revolve a bit too much around relationships and sex.

This is getting to me because I'm finding it difficult to just talk to girls like I'd talk to guys. Basically, I just want to make more friends, but whenever there's a girl in the group of people I'm sitting with, I want to go out of my way to talk to the girl - irrespective of how I get on with anyone else in the group. I'm not sure whether this is 100% a sexual thing or me wanting to add +1 to the (few) girls I know, but either way, I think it's affecting my ability to talk to girls and for this reason I think girls seem to try to avoid talking to me.

So I was just wondering how most guys manage to not want to sleep with (or at least get romantically involved with) most girls they see? I'm fortunate enough to be doing well in life in most areas about from, well, friendships and relationships, so I'd appreciate any sort of advice as to how I can stop thinking too much into these things.

Totally agree, can't think straight with the baby batter on the brain.

You could ask a medical practitioner for libido-suppressing medication but they are NOTORIOUSLY DIFFICULT to get hold of in England. I tried about a week ago but they are seriously unreasonable - in England you're not permitted to visit a sex worker/prostitute either so I can't understand why the medical authorities don't allow people to opt-in for libido-reducing medication.

They seem pretty happy to prescribe medication that increases libido, but not the other way for some reason.

I mean - either have a society which bans libido-suppressing medication but allows people to freely and legally visit prostitutes/sex workers with no implications for your career etc,..

OR have a society which criminalizes people who use the services of sex workers/prostitutes BUT allows such people free access to libido-reducing medication,

but NOT one where both visiting sex workers is criminalized AND where the authorities are notoriously intransigent/stubborn when it comes to prescribing people who wish to visit prostitutes libido-reducing drugs to reduce their desire to do so.

You could ask a medical practitioner for libido-suppressing medication but they are NOTORIOUSLY DIFFICULT to get hold of in England. I tried about a week ago but they are seriously unreasonable - in England you're not permitted to visit a sex worker/prostitute either so I can't understand why the medical authorities don't allow people to opt-in for libido-reducing medication.

They seem pretty happy to prescribe medication that increases libido, but not the other way for some reason.

I mean - either have a society which bans libido-suppressing medication but allows people to freely and legally visit prostitutes/sex workers with no implications for your career etc,..

OR have a society which criminalizes people who use the services of sex workers/prostitutes BUT allows such people free access to libido-reducing medication,

but NOT one where both visiting sex workers is criminalized AND where the authorities are notoriously intransigent/stubborn when it comes to prescribing people who wish to visit prostitutes libido-reducing drugs to reduce their desire to do so.

Elaborate?

You could ask a medical practitioner for libido-suppressing medication but they are NOTORIOUSLY DIFFICULT to get hold of in England. I tried about a week ago but they are seriously unreasonable - in England you're not permitted to visit a sex worker/prostitute either so I can't understand why the medical authorities don't allow people to opt-in for libido-reducing medication.

I was under the impression that prostitution itself was legal in the UK

If only

In the United Kingdom, prostitution itself (the exchange of sexual services for money) is legal,[2] but a number of related activities, including soliciting in a public place, kerb crawling, owning or managing a brothel, pimping and pandering, are crimes.

Do you think this is the reason why lots of sexually frustrated people go out binge drinking at the weekend (and students during the week) hoping to get laid? We are the biggest drinkers in Europe (possibly the world?).

Thanks for the responses. Quite happy with the advice and insightful posts.



Interesting you say this - I was under the impression that prostitution itself was legal in the UK, but brothels were not?