Eating Disorders and life with one - Discussions, Opinions, Advice.

Really beautiful and inspiring words...


Yup!!! It moved me too!!



Let Toto's words inspire you. You deserve to be inspired. You deserve to be everything that you can be

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Sweetpea, I am writing this to help you understand that your train of thought, no matter how much you oppose it, is inevitable. You will end you existence this way.

The difference here is that you have a person that adores you as a partner. And you are in a mindset that you want to improve. For some reason you believe that improvement is emaciation.

I want you to do the following: Actually ask your betrothed how you could improve.

Go on, ask them!

I betcha anything they'll say "I wish they weren't so neurotic/obsessive" etc before they say "I wish she weighed less". I will literally give your ten pounds if this is not the case.

This person that found you was so lucky. They found Snowyowl. The girl. The YOU. When they found you, they didn't say, "man, this girl is... reasonably awesome, but if only she was skeletal. Then I'd be attracted to her!"

You're you, and that alone is awesome enough to be attractive beyond words!

Let Toto's words inspire you. You deserve to be inspired. You deserve to be everything that you can be

Most of all, you deserve to be happy, that's something nobody has the right to take from you.

I promise you, you're worth so much more than you think you are.

I've asked him something similar the other day, and he said to me "you're perfect as you are" and "I'm so glad you have curves".

So why can't I believe it? your words are very kind and moving, as always, and I am trying my absolute best to eat properly today I just hope this gets easier!






I've never believed I'm worth anything so thank you for your kindness

It's brilliant to see a guy opening up about an eating disorder. My boyfriend suffered with annorexia nervosa and bullimia when we first met and he has (thankfully) got through it. (Well, as much as he can, it's always still there slightly but he's learnt to overcome his thoughts). Whenever he told anyone (except me) or any doctors they basically laughed him out of the room, saying how 'boys don't get eating disorders, only girls do'. It took him so long to get help just because of his gender. (And some people think men have it so easy with everything?!) So all I can say is you are an inspiration and don't let anyone tell you otherwise x

I echo these sentiments. I'm 20, male and despite only suffering for less than a year, I too have found GPs less than helpful/empathetic.

There really should be more done about the stigma surrounding gender and eating disorders. Toto kind of resembles what I hope to become once I've recovered.

That was something a lot of ED sufferers need to read toto.

It's been good to read some of the older members posting and seeming to be getting on so well recently, and want to say to the newer ones it is an uphill battle that often feels two step forwards one step back.

As for me.. I'm feeling the healthiest I've been in about 18 months and I have a happy face again, by no means easy and by no means always a happy face but every so often that happy Beth reappears and I like it.

It's the same for me. Who are your favourite artists/bands?

Since starting my eating plan and being completely banned from exercise of any kind, I've found myself listening to music and writing articles quite a lot - so that's a positive. Anybody got any non-exercise ways of passing the time? I've almost exhausted my Breaking Bad box-set. My mum suggested learning a language in my free time.

Hello all, some very eye opening stories have come about these past few days and I can only commend those who constantly share their thoughts and feelings on this thread - you're all wonderful individuals. I'm the anon from a month or so ago who was fretting about starting uni and relapsing and well it's...getting ugly again. Spoilering for rambling...