Feel that my gf's going to 'inevitably' grow beyond me and leave me

This is again reassuring, cheers buddy

Things I need to improve:

1) My sleep pattern :P
2) My work ethic
3) Reducing the amount of time I spend on here

seriously, grow a pair.

Tell me why I lack balls then

Just take a look at your fitness blog on here... if you don't realise you have a few issues, take a step back and read your posts as if you were someone else.

Do you actually think she's a nice person? The fact you think she'd dump you for someone "of higher value" implies you think she's a bit of a bitch, I mean would you dump her if you had a chance with someone "of higher value"? Human feelings don't work like that, attraction isn't some empirical value, it's emotional. If you're in a happy and fulfilling relationship, you don't think "hmm, that person is a better mate than my current partner, I'll leave them for this new person".

I'll be honest, I got the idea 'if she gets in shape and you stay average, she will dump your ass' from the manosphere blogs again, Men's Health, AskMen etc. So my sources aren't biased at all

In reality, I know she doesn't feel much about herself even though she's awesome, so even though she has a lovely figure and I think she's really beautiful she'll still call herself 'fat' or 'ugly' or whatever, and it's heartbreaking. So I'd rather she got the chance to exercise when she wanted to, which would probably boost her self-esteem, as if she was a little more confident in who she is right now, she'd be so sexy. And chances are she thinks the same about me whenever I think I need to buff up. So probably her planning to lose weight then dump me, is a bit of a paranoid notion?

I spoke to my dad about this and he said it's about accepting who you are. Why is it always 'get a six pack'?
And are you implicitly saying I won't be good enough until I have a six-pack? Because I have a fun history with that mentality

why does it really matter if a partner goes to gym, gets a better job, has more friends. if you have been with someone and have a bond why does this stuff matter.

some kind of social hierarchy is just crap. i dont treat anybody any differently, and neither do i feel anybody else does.

My girlfriend has been ignoring me out of the blue for 2 days now.
On Wednesday morning she said 'are you free? I'm not feeling well, I'd love a cuddle', I had to respond [sic] 'I really can't at the moment honey, I have to get this work done, I'm sorry, but I miss you', started sending virtual cuddles and luvvy-duvvy stuff like that (I had coursework in the next day and I'm in third year).

Since then she's been ignoring me :/ I text her about 3 times a day, when I wake up, afternoon and just before bed, to check if she's alright and get a response, haven't had anything yet.

I know she's receiving the texts because it comes up as 'Sent' on my phone. I know for a fact she doesn't go out of nights because her family practically have her on curfew, and that's when she usually texts me the most. As perhaps has been explained our relationship's a secret from her family, so it's not as simple as just calling her, and she has a busy lecture schedule. I also know she is still around because I saw her post something random on Facebook the other day.
I don't know whether this is symptomatic of TOTM, she's lost her phone while it's on work stress (she has deadlines and a lot on atm) or something serious. But the day before she was talking about just how much she loves me etc.

I feel like I'm in the wrong for placing my studies over her for that day, when I really need to get a decent degree if I want job security. Should I feel guilty? She even said 'that;'s fine, aim to get your work done and let me know when you're coming in'. It's like that was code for 'don't do your coursework, come see me and suffer the penalties/zero mark'

I don't know what I've done wrong

edit: Apparently I 'should' have waited 3 days before making contact or it comes across as smothering. Why are there all these stupid rules?

No, you shouldn't feel guilty. When deadlines are approaching, you have to give your partner space, like you say this work affects your whole life. Don't go barging in making accusations, as she might have a genuine excuse, but if not you should call her out on ****ty behaviour. You said she knows you get anxious. Don't be a push over and let it go, she'll respect you less.

Three day rule is for meeting new girls, not texting your girlfriend.

Instead of texting her, why not try to uh... call her and see if you can see her?

Grass is always greener. You've got to change your attitude and build your confidence, the gym is a good place to start.

One of the texts explicitly said 'woo handed it in!', and that was a day ago, and still no response :/<br />
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See I don't know whether it <i>is</i> ****ty behaviour on her behalf. She does go quiet/have a change of mood but a) it's never been so bad she's ignored me, b) I don't like putting everything down to 'oh it's her hormones'.<br />
I'm not sure how to even raise the subject, since I've been saying 'hope you're OK' etc., which is an invitation to talk when she's ready, but there's only so much you can take.