found out GF kissed one of my friends

Basically I just found out that she kissed one of my friends a year ago. This was before we got together so I might be overreacting but I just cant continue the relationship knowing that happened because it will always be in the back of my mind. If it was someone I didn't know I wouldn't care but the fact its someone I know makes it way worse.

How do I let her down gently? I still want to remain friends.

Reply 1

fogplaya

I really, really don't think you should break up with her. Talk it out perhaps? But if you're adamant, tell her straight, but not in an overtly blunt way; say something like "Look, I really don't think I can get past this, I'm sorry, but can we just be friends?" ???

Reply 2

aims890

2

It was before you got together. She chose you to be with longterm.

Reply 3

tengentoppa

18

You're going to dump him because she kissed someone you know before dating you? Flawed logic. Don't break up.

Reply 4

REASON_Lighters

Oh so you're jealous that you didn't kiss your friend first.

OP don't worry your time will come <><

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Reply 5

pandabird

That's a ridiculous reason to break up with her, you weren't even together!

Reply 6

1219269

3

Dont break up considering it was before the pair of you got together :smile:

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Reply 7

desdemonata

19

Seriously. Over a kiss from a year ago. Not even sex? :lolwut:

Reply 8

DarkWhite

17

Everyone has a past.

At the end of the day, she's chosen you, not the other person.

Talk to her about it if you can't put it aside, but I doubt you have anything to worry about :smile:

Reply 9

Tai Ga

18

lol get over it. If you're getting pissy over this you're probably not mature enough to be in a relationship.

Reply 10

matt_g96

10

grow some balls (jk dont worry about it; its fine)

Reply 11

lNurl

19

Haha like u were virgin and never kissed anyone before her? It doesn't matter who she chose to kiss BEFORE you.
But I think you just wanted reason to break up, and here you go, nice tactic to start a fight and break up.

And I hate "let's be friends" thingy, why she should be your friend after u dump her for no reason?

Reply 12

Coral Reafs

12

Original post by After7

Basically I just found out that she kissed one of my friends a year ago. This was before we got together so I might be overreacting but I just cant continue the relationship knowing that happened because it will always be in the back of my mind. If it was someone I didn't know I wouldn't care but the fact its someone I know makes it way worse.

How do I let her down gently? I still want to remain friends.

naw man, dis is b4 ur time, let it go.

Reply 13

LightBlueSoldier

14

Original post by After7

Basically I just found out that she kissed one of my friends a year ago. This was before we got together so I might be overreacting but I just cant continue the relationship knowing that happened because it will always be in the back of my mind. If it was someone I didn't know I wouldn't care but the fact its someone I know makes it way worse.

How do I let her down gently? I still want to remain friends.

I don't get what the problem is? It was before you got together...

Reply 14

Lollyage

14

You're an idiot and have no logical reason to break up with her. She could maybe do with putting you behind her though.

Reply 15

Damsel in distress

15

Original post by lNurl

Haha like u were virgin and never kissed anyone before her? It doesn't matter who she chose to kiss BEFORE you.
But I think you just wanted reason to break up, and here you go, nice tactic to start a fight and break up.

And I hate "let's be friends" thingy, why she should be your friend after u dump her for no reason?

I'm not agreeing with OP but you totally misunderstood; it's just really awkward for him to know that a friend of his, who I assume he's close to, and his girlfriend kissed. He isn't looking for a tactic.. Nobody really wants to imagine that and it can be a bit awkward although it is still not a sensible reason to breakup with someone you like.

Reply 16

LightBlueSoldier

14

Original post by Damsel in distress

I'm not agreeing with OP but you totally misunderstood; it's just really awkward for him to know that a friend of his, who I assume he's close to, and his girlfriend kissed. He isn't looking for a tactic.. Nobody really wants to imagine that and it can be a bit awkward although it is still not a sensible reason to breakup with someone you like.

I don't get how it's even slightly awkward...kissing is really not a big deal at all. My ex had slept with 2 of my mates before we got together and I've slept with one of my mates' fiancé. It's not a big deal and it never really comes up, only ever as a joke.

Reply 17

Damsel in distress

15

Original post by LightBlueSoldier

I don't get how it's even slightly awkward...kissing is really not a big deal at all. My ex had slept with 2 of my mates before we got together and I've slept with one of my mates' fiancé. It's not a big deal and it never really comes up, only ever as a joke.

I see your point and that's very mature of you and your mate and ex but.. not everyone feels the same way about everything. Perhaps it is a big deal for OP?

Reply 18

lNurl

19

Original post by Damsel in distress

I'm not agreeing with OP but you totally misunderstood; it's just really awkward for him to know that a friend of his, who I assume he's close to, and his girlfriend kissed. He isn't looking for a tactic.. Nobody really wants to imagine that and it can be a bit awkward although it is still not a sensible reason to breakup with someone you like.

I agree with LightBlueSoldier, It is not like you give out questionnaire to future bf/gf asking:

1. Have you ever slept/kissed/touch to any of my friends (Not knowing all of my friends is not a excuse)
2. Have you ever slept/kissed touch to a person who might be my future friend?

I don't think relationship should be like that to be honest :confused:

I also see how you think it is awkward to imagine, but he can somehow stop imagine that "scene". I really feel bad for the girl. Why she should be punished for no reason? :s-smilie: