Worried what he'll think of my body

You need to get over the image in your head that you obviously think of the 'perfect' figure. There is no perfect figure - there is a sexy, comfortable body of whatever size you happen to be. If he is anyone you should want to be sleeping with, he will find the female body - the female body who is about to have sex with him, particularly - unbelievably sexy. An hourglass figure with a tiny waist is not the only thing that will get a guy hard and turned on, and I know many guys who prefer everything but that.

I wouldn't worry about it being 'too soon'. If you want to have sex, you have sex (safely)! Don't wonder about social convention telling you it's too soon, don't worry about him wondering if you're 'easy' etc. You want to have sex so freaking do! (:

It's great you got new underwear though; pick the one that makes you feel most confident and comfortable. Thick, wide sexy hips are especially wonderful - wear the high legs if they're comfy! If you want to be sober for the first time (a very very good idea, although one little drink might help make you more comfortable) then do be so. Chances are he'll also be happier without lots of alcohol in him too, even if he won't admit to it. Remember there is also the possibility of morning sex if you don't want to do it drunk. The best wake up is a sexy wake up.

Please don't worry about how you look. Think about what you are gonna do to him, what he might do to you! He knows you're a virgin, so hint that you want to try foreplay first; it will make you more comfortable and confident too. Smile, keep eye-contact, be light-hearted. Just throw any worries away and enjoy yourself. You will love your first time so, so much more if you just accept yourself and go with the 'flow'! Have fun.

Honestly, he's going to be happy he's actually getting some. He won't care if your body is a little bit chubby.

Contrary to what the media shove down our throats, it's women who have the picky requirements for a man's body, not the other way round. It's women who put pressure on other women for their bodies, not men.

Honestly, he's going to be happy he's actually getting some. He won't care if your body is a little bit chubby.

Contrary to what the media shove down our throats, it's women who have the picky requirements for a man's body, not the other way round. It's women who put pressure on other women for their bodies, not men.

Thanks for all your advice. I really don't know if anything will happen - I guess I'll have to wait and see. I'm just worried that since I haven't known him for very long that if I sleep with him now he'll go off the boil. I was going to wait at least a month (one of my friends even suggested waiting three months because I'm a virgin but I thought that was too long!) but because of going out for my birthday and sleeping over at his, I guess a situation in which we could sleep together has come about a bit sooner than I anticipated.

May I just ask your personal opinion of the picture of Kelly Osbourne? Obviously I know appearance is subjective, but would you say her stomach is unattractive?

I feel the same way. The guy I'm kinda dating is ripped. He's very much in shape with a six pack and works out regularly. And then there's me, I'm not fat or anything but i'm not toned. I'm skinny-fat. It'll be embarrassing when we actually have sex because I feel like he'll judge

I really just say - if you want sex, have it. Men always do! There's a social convention that the men can seemingly just have it when they want for whatever reason without worrying, but girls have to think about why they're doing it early or late, what he will think, what others will think, whether or not it's 'sexy' to do it before a certain amount of time, whether it will turn them off afterwards... just stop worrying about what others think. You want to have it - so have it for yourself, not because it's a good time etc.

I think Kelly looks great, and I bet regardless of how she looks, her partner absolutely relishes their time in bed together for many reasons. :P Remember celebrities fluctuate all the time which gives them 'unnatural' figures, and also that the paps will wait until they do anything remotely unflattering to get a shot of it...
My partner is a big belly, which I adore. He also has many stretch marks and scars from severe acne, over much of his back and arms. I don't give a crap. I think they're genuinely interesting and add character to his body, he wouldn't be 'mine' without them. There is nothing negative about them or his body shape to me - and I'm sure I'm the same with all my flaws, but I know he loves me not regardless of them, but for them. And we can show that love in bed! Give your possible partner chance to do the same. Once you are more experienced, you will realise how little these visual things matter. But I definitely remember feeling the same way before I slept with my boyfriend.

There's really nothing wrong with the way Kelly Osborne looks in that picture at all.

You'll be fine, he really will just be happy enough that he's having sex, he won't care and to be honest, it really doesn't sound like you should care either.

If you're ready then you'll know you're ready and if you have any doubts then just wait a bit. However, if you're only doubting it because your mum and sister disapprove then don't worry, they don't know a thing.
I had only been known my boyfriend for 3 and a half weeks when I lost my virginity to him and it was only the second time we'd met. But we'd spoken every day and gotten on so well that I didn't care that we hadn't known each other long because I liked him and I knew I was ready, I didn't doubt it at all. Other people told me I made a mistake but I don't really care because they don't know the situation like I did and now 20 months later, I still know I made the right decision.