Computer gaming addiction?

Or any of the TES games

Agreed. Morrowind pretty much took away my entire life between 15 and 19 and now I'm back on it again at 24 The shame...

I'd recommend instigating a number of interesting activities each week that he can't resist wanting to go to. E.g. concerts, shopping, theme parks, short holidays etc. That way you're not telling him not to do something, instead positively showing him there is more interesting stuff out there.

I used to play video games all the time and can still happily spend a day doing nothing else. I have no problem with it. It was interests in other things that eventually helped me limit my time.

Does he have other interests?

Crap advice!!!!!!!...

OP should help his ikkle bro study, it is good he's worried and concerned though which is sweet. Make learning fun for him when revising. Show him an e.g of how to balance working hard then playing... I never had my old sister there for me in life, instead I helped HER in every schoolwork etc to make sure she did well, not the other way around. He's lucky he has you!

I don't disagree with you on helping him to study, of course that's what I want in the long term. So I totally agree with what you're saying. My suggestion was mainly to help show him that there is more interesting stuff to do than play video games. I know from experience it can be hard to ween yourself off of Playstation.

Hi there, I am just looking for some advice really.

I live with my mum, dad and 15 year old brother. He is currently in his first year of GCSE's. I am 20.

Almost 2 years ago, my brother was given a PS3 as a gift for Christmas. He used to be limited to one hour a day.

He has a PS3 Tv, laptop for coursework ONLY and a phone. His phone is to be left out of his room as is his laptop and PS3 controller.

Now he is 15 and I fear he is becoming addicted. My reasons for this are:
1. He is struggling to get off to sleep. He used to be so good at it.
2. He is becoming aggressive. Yes, he is a teen and yes his hormones must be going mad but I mean more than normal. Not just with his mouth but he is physically aggressive sometimes too.
3. His school work is suffering.
4. He doesn't follow any instructions and always seems to bring people down.


My parents are great parents.

At night, there is always an argument about coming off the pS3 and this sometimes lasts for 2 hour though.
When he is beyond control we take EVERYTHING off of him but for some reason this no longer works. He still manages to get around the ban and then we are back to square one.

I guess what I am trying to say is that every waking minute that he is in the house, he is on that damn PS3.

Does anybody have any tips for dealing with this? Any routines?
I am a disabled woman and struggling to stand up to this 15 year old raging teen.
Please don't say " Oh your parents aren't strict enough" or " he's got you wrapped around his little finger". We are really trying. We've enough going on in this family...

Any help would be greatly received.

From a desperate sister...

Hello there,

My name is Phillip and am currently doing a research portfolio on Video Game addiction and was hoping to ask if you would be available for an interview Hypothetically of course as this is for a university project which means it wont be used. I can also send you my research.

Thanks
Phillip

Throw the PS3 out of his bedroom window and onto the concrete below. He'll thank you in 3 years time... probably.

That sounds like the worse thing to do a project on since it's been proven its wrong so many times and been proven that playing games helps with certain things.

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I'm in my first year of uni, and looking back at it, I can say that I had an addiction to gaming at some point. I'd spend an unhealthy amount of hours on my PC, so while I empathise with you, I can also see your brother's perspective.

I think people fail to see that gaming is a social activity, albeit a slightly different one, but from what you've described it doesn't seem like your parents (or you) are 'anti-gaming', and it does sound more like an issue with your brother.

My first piece advice would be to just play with him. If you're playing the games with him then you might be able to see why he spends so much time on it, but also be able to persuade him to log off easier. My dad played video games with me when I was a kid years and years and years ago, and I think that him having played them made him understand that there's nothing more annoying than being dragged away when you say 'one more level'.

My second is to see if you can get him into a different hobby. For me, it was AFL and Magic: the Gathering. I used to live in Australia, and played AFL (Australian Football League) a lot. It stopped me playing video games as much. I used to go fishing as well, which helped. When I moved to England, AFL kind of dropped for obvious reasons, and fishing got swapped for shooting, but some stuff happened and that dropped as well. So I started playing MTG, which is this fantastic card game I still play today. It's social in a face-to-face sense, and it's a bit like chess, which I doubt few people would complain about someone playing. A bit long-winded, but I guess it could be summed up with the first line: get him into a different hobby.

Lastly, even though you said you're trying, is just to be really strict. My dad was a military bloke of 14 years, along with other related experiences, so he was pretty good at being strict, sometimes unnecessarily so. One thing would just be to take away everything and try and get him into something else, before letting him play it for an hour a day or something.

There's also a lot of studies done on gaming addiction, and generally I think a lot of people who play games empathise. It's difficult enough experiencing it, but I imagine it's hard on close family as well, although I don't think I was ever as bad as you're brother.