Girls on dating sites

Someone needs to inform them that there us a reply button, I write individual and time consuming messages and never here back. I literally have a 0% response rate.

That is all.

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Reply 1

Ruskie3

From my experience women know the reply button, but 99% of them do not how to reply PROPERLY. I used to be on an online dating website and bro I am telling you, no matter how much effort you put in your sentence the reply you will get is going to be be dumb and meaningless most of the time anyway. I really hated talking to girls online, I felt like I am talking to a rock, sandly.

I have met one interesting and open girl once, but it never worked out.

Reply 2

Little Wolf Taima

Forums are where you chat to people and get more of an opportunity to get to know them, both one tot one and in other contexts You can hear about their stance on many topics and how they interact with others. A dating site is jus a photo with a profile, a paragraph with all the buzz-words that are supposed to sound 'attractive and an inbox that person may check now and again. You are just another name on her list. I've never touched dating websites, but I've met some really wonderful people through forums.

She doesn't have to be into you, especially when she probably has 100s of creepers just trying to get in her pants. However, it is commendable that you take the time to actually strike up conversation rather than just go 'Sup bitch. SHOW ME UR TITS.'

Reply 3

mimi112

Original post by Anonymous

Someone needs to inform them that there us a reply button, I write individual and time consuming messages and never here back. I literally have a 0% response rate.

That is all.

girls are extremely picky. the internet has made it even worse. plus, many of them are on dating sites for the ego boost (same reason they go clubbing).

also this:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pareto_principle

you are probably in the 80%. sorry.

Reply 4

Viva Emptiness

The thing with internet dating sites is that people (read: women) can afford to be extremely choosy without the awkward social situation of rejecting someone. With an online profile, you put out information that people can reject from the outset that they wouldn't usually if they had gotten to know you IRL. For example, a girl gets a nice message from a guy, but his profile says that he likes a certain activity/genre of music/film that she doesn't, and although it wouldn't matter in real life, she can discount him immediately, because she has 50 other messages waiting to be read.

Sad, but true I'm afraid.

Reply 5

stargirl63

As a girl using dating sites, it's not about what you say, it's about your pictures and your profile. To be honest, it has made me up my standards in what guys look like, because I will wait for someone who is my type or someone who looks good and tall etc. The reason why we can do this, is essentially online dating is a catalogue of men, you can pick who you want.

When you're sending messages, that will alert the girl to your profile, she will look at it and if she likes what she sees, you will get a reply. If not, then she didn't like what she saw.

My advice would be to brush up your profile with nice pictures as opposed to spending time with a big greeting.

Reply 6

lonelyknight

They're not worth the time, mate. I second the advice that forums are probably a hell of a lot better to meet people on.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

Of course it's natural that people are looking for different things and aren't going to be interested in everything they see but it's just common courtesy to reply.

Reply 8

Dragonfly07

Original post by Anonymous

Of course it's natural that people are looking for different things and aren't going to be interested in everything they see but it's just common courtesy to reply.

If you genuinely want to know why women don't reply to you... make a believable fake female profile and observe the results.

Reply 9

desdemonata

Original post by Anonymous

Of course it's natural that people are looking for different things and aren't going to be interested in everything they see but it's just common courtesy to reply.

That's quite awkward to do though, and online, you can avoid rejecting someone entirely by just not replying.

Reply 10

donutaud15

Original post by Anonymous

Of course it's natural that people are looking for different things and aren't going to be interested in everything they see but it's just common courtesy to reply.

some people haven't been online for a while and may even have forgotten that they have an account.

in general though, girls get like 60 messages a day and let's face it not everyone would get a reply.

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Reply 11

MancBoy

If you have even a shred of respect for yourself, never EVER pursue girls on these sites. The reason why they're on the site is because they cant get guys in real life so they come online and all of a sudden turn into some evil, demi-god who has the power the choose from hundreds of guys even if they themselves are super unattractive. If you don't have a six pack, flashy car or show some sort of wealth in your profile pic then you wont even get a peek.

Do yourself a favour and meet NORMAL girls. You'll have better luck with them.

Reply 12

Studentus-anonymous

On top of what others have said, dating sites are pretty much money-spinning schemes (via membership fees or ad revenue) and have no real interest in actually hooking up the lonely hearts of the world.

Women have been shown to be exceptionally choosier about who they engage with, the imbalance of men to women, the loaded awkward unnatural way communication through these places function.

Not to mention there's a lot of weirdos and just...not desirable types who resort to these sites.

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Reply 13

donutaud15

Original post by MancBoy

actually not all girls on it 'can't get guys in real life'

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Reply 14

FlavaFavourFruit

Online dating is awful for the majority of the guys.

You have to be really good looking or really wealthy...

Inb4 my friends cousin got a gf on a dating site and he's decent looking and not wealthy :blah:

Reply 15

donutaud15

Original post by FlavaFavourFruit

this is partly true. disagree with the good looking and wealthy though. Some girls want a long term relationship and unlikely to reply to anyone who doesn't want the same thing regardless of status or looks

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Reply 16

FlavaFavourFruit

Original post by donutaud15

I imagine a decent number of guys wants a long term relationship too...but I bet they still get turned down due to their looks..
Girls get loads of messages, they can be picky on who they reply, she will deffo reply the good looking guys.

Reply 17

donutaud15

Original post by FlavaFavourFruit

not really. from experience, I've noticed that a lot of guys in dating sites want something casual. of course there are others who want a long term relationship but as you said girls can get picky but most pick similarity over looks.

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Reply 18

FlavaFavourFruit

Original post by donutaud15

Oh ok well I've never been on an online dating site but I can imagine how tough it can be for a guy :redface:

i guess the girls have to also weed out the casual guys...

Reply 19

donutaud15

Original post by FlavaFavourFruit

Oh ok well I've never been on an online dating site but I can imagine how tough it can be for a guy :redface:

i guess the girls have to also weed out the casual guys...

yeah it's tough for guys. my husband had pretty much the same experience as every guy here on tsr who posts stuff on dating sites. but it's not too easy for girls either.

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