Condom or no condom when giving a blow job?
Hello all,
I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months and I am planning on giving him a blow job. I am 16 and he is 17 and whilst I am a virgin and have never done anything like this before, he has had sex with a previous girlfriend but he is in the RAF (which I think means he has had to get checked for STDs but I am not sure about that) . So should I put a condom on him or would that be a bit odd/ unsexy?
I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months and I am planning on giving him a blow job. I am 16 and he is 17 and whilst I am a virgin and have never done anything like this before, he has had sex with a previous girlfriend but he is in the RAF (which I think means he has had to get checked for STDs but I am not sure about that) . So should I put a condom on him or would that be a bit odd/ unsexy?
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It's entirely up to you.
Relatively very few blowjobs are done with condoms (or dental dams when talking about oral on women) but there are STIs you can catch via giving oral sex to someone who has one, especially if they come in your mouth. Most of them are curable - you have to be very, very unlucky to get HIV from giving oral to someone who is HIV+, for example. Whether that's too much of a risk for you is up to you.
If you decide to use one, it is worth trying some condoms, including flavoured ones, for taste beforehand.
Relatively very few blowjobs are done with condoms (or dental dams when talking about oral on women) but there are STIs you can catch via giving oral sex to someone who has one, especially if they come in your mouth. Most of them are curable - you have to be very, very unlucky to get HIV from giving oral to someone who is HIV+, for example. Whether that's too much of a risk for you is up to you.
If you decide to use one, it is worth trying some condoms, including flavoured ones, for taste beforehand.
If you don't know the person well then yes you should due to risk of STIs.
However in a relationship what's the point? It will talk awful, most condoms have lubricant on them so you'd get a great taste of that as well as the latex. And it wouldn't feel good for the guy either.
If you are worried about him getting too 'excited', just tell him to warn you.
However in a relationship what's the point? It will talk awful, most condoms have lubricant on them so you'd get a great taste of that as well as the latex. And it wouldn't feel good for the guy either.
If you are worried about him getting too 'excited', just tell him to warn you.
It's your decision. STD tests can only check for certain viral infections (HIV, Syphilis, and Hepatitis B) and bacterial infections (Chlamydia, and Gonorrhoea). Theoretically, HIV can be transmitted orally but this of course is very rare. The CDC did some research on this matter in fact and found that HIV was transmitted 1 in every 10,000 acts of receptive oral sex without a condom. In real terms, that's about 27 years of oral sex, once a day, before transmission is likely.
OP - do you suffer from Herpes (cold sores a.k.a HSV-1)? If so, please refrain from performing oral sex on your partner (if you have active lesions or can tense an outbreak occurring) as you may transfer the HSV-1 virus to his genital area.
OP - do you suffer from Herpes (cold sores a.k.a HSV-1)? If so, please refrain from performing oral sex on your partner (if you have active lesions or can tense an outbreak occurring) as you may transfer the HSV-1 virus to his genital area.
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The figure usually given for risk of a blow job on an HIV+ man is 0-0.04% (0 to 4 in 10,000). The high end comes from one study that looked at the behaviour of gay and bisexual men in three American cities over an extended period. By seeing who became infected and who didn't, and looking at what behaviour they reported, they came up with the figure... but the 'confidence interval' went a little bit higher and way lower.
What's that mean? When you look at a sample of something, you don't know if you happen to have got the right figure for the whole group. It could
be the sample you looked at was odd, for example. So there exist a variety of mathematical tests that tell you things like 'your answer is 0.04%, and there's a 95% chance that this is about right, and a 5% chance that it's absolute crap'. Less than 95%, and everyone goes 'it could well be crap', much more than 95%, such as 99% or the Holy Grail of 99.9% and above, and you can make a bigger fuss about what you've found.
There are other tests which say, 'ah, but given this data, any figure between 0.001% and 0.05% would still had a 95% chance of being
"about right"'... and this is what happened here. It's quite possible that 0.04%, while low, is still a big overestimate of the risk, particularly as there are other studies reckoning the risk is almost nil. Given the assumptions they had to make - oral is very, very common when men have sex with each other - I personally reckon it is an overestimate. (If it weren't, they'd be a lot more HIV+ gay men!)
If he doesn't come in your mouth, it's nil or so close to nil that you're more at risk of dying through a heart attack while doing it.
What's that mean? When you look at a sample of something, you don't know if you happen to have got the right figure for the whole group. It could
be the sample you looked at was odd, for example. So there exist a variety of mathematical tests that tell you things like 'your answer is 0.04%, and there's a 95% chance that this is about right, and a 5% chance that it's absolute crap'. Less than 95%, and everyone goes 'it could well be crap', much more than 95%, such as 99% or the Holy Grail of 99.9% and above, and you can make a bigger fuss about what you've found.
There are other tests which say, 'ah, but given this data, any figure between 0.001% and 0.05% would still had a 95% chance of being
"about right"'... and this is what happened here. It's quite possible that 0.04%, while low, is still a big overestimate of the risk, particularly as there are other studies reckoning the risk is almost nil. Given the assumptions they had to make - oral is very, very common when men have sex with each other - I personally reckon it is an overestimate. (If it weren't, they'd be a lot more HIV+ gay men!)
If he doesn't come in your mouth, it's nil or so close to nil that you're more at risk of dying through a heart attack while doing it.
it is up to you do what you both want
hey my boyfriend just said he wants sex what do I say to him help he wants it tomorrow
Original post by courteney12
hey my boyfriend just said he wants sex what do I say to him help he wants it tomorrow
I suggest that you read what you wrote in post 9 and take that advice yourself
Original post by TenOfThem
I suggest that you read what you wrote in post 9 and take that advice yourself
OK any other suggestons
Original post by courteney12
OK any other suggestons
How can I or anyone else have suggestions
We have no idea on your views
While it's interesting that he says he wants to have sex with you, as you indeed said, it is up to both of you to decide what you both want to do. Boyfriends worth having understand that, and do not put pressure on people to say yes to stuff they do not really want to do.
One of the words for sex where only one person wants to do it is 'rape'.
What would happen if you said 'no'?
One of the words for sex where only one person wants to do it is 'rape'.
What would happen if you said 'no'?
Don't do it. Condom + Blowjob = waste of time.
One girl insisted I wore one during it, I got a bit worked up and thought I must have smelled like hot tuna or cheese 
No, no, no. If you intend to do this you'd be just as well suggesting a game of monopoly instead
Can imagine a blowie involving johnnies would be about as fun as setting your arse hair on fire for everyone involved.
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Can imagine a blowie involving johnnies would be about as fun as setting your arse hair on fire for everyone involved.
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Exactly. Waste of ****ing time
Interesting to see the comments from guys saying no. Would you still risk it even If it was a casual thing rather than a girlfriend?
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