Pregnancy and Parenting Society Mark II

So, do you think he's in denial about the seriousness of his brother's illness?

It's sad that all of this is happening right now, but at least he's positive about having kids at some point down the line. Hopefully you'll be able to convince him satisfactorily that now isn't the right time.

(My boyfriend's aunt has been diagnosed with cancer in the past few months. It's not a great time for all of this to be happening, but it seemed like after a few months of trying giving up would have been too disappointing.)

Yeah definitely in denial - we were shopping before & he was looking at things in the post-Christmas sale and saying "oh I might pick up that now and give it to him next Christmas" that's 12 months away.. but he doesn't get it. Possibly all will be fine and I'm being the most pessimistic person ever, but as I said it's not looking great.

I had managed to convince him it was a good idea before all this happened, as he finally opened up to me about his worries (which were ridiculous and very easy to talk though) so that helped me understand a bit more. Typical that as soon as he agrees something happens.. although I will just deal with it as it would be pretty selfish to put any focus on me right now!

Sorry to hear about your aunt - I hope she pulls through and makes a full recovery. If you've been trying for months then that's understandable, for us it was pretty much a week before we got the news so putting a halt on it wasn't really a big deal!

It's looking like she won't - when they found the cancer it had already spread from her pancreas to her liver, and I think the prognosis for pancreatic cancer is typically not great. We're doing okay, though, and she seems in good enough spirits.

I hope your boyfriend's brother pulls through, or at least that your boyfriend comes to term with the situation sometime. It's not great timing, but I guess you've just got to be patient.

I've had my period this month and it was shorter and lighter than it has been, I had a copper coil fitted a few months ago and I assumed it was my body adjusting to it and thought nothing of it. However the last few days I've been feeling very tired, nauseous (although haven't actually been sick), my boobs have been feeling very strange and Ive been feeling a bit odd in general. Could this be a sign of pregnancy?

This seems updated a lot more than other threads. I think I may be pregnant or perhaps naive. According to my period checker (which is always on time with regards to periods). I ovulated on 25th December, I had sex on 28th. Could I pregnant? Certain things online say 24-48hrs but others say 72hours. Stressed. I have brown mucus discharge which I never have.

Well it's not impossible. I didn't think I was ovulating at all when I conceived Nathan. According to my calculations I was nowhere near ovulation time. Apparently my body thought otherwise.

Try not to panic though.

Best way of knowing is obviously taking a test on the day your period would be next due.

Well it's not impossible. I didn't think I was ovulating at all when I conceived Nathan. According to my calculations I was nowhere near ovulation time. Apparently my body thought otherwise.

Try not to panic though.

Best way of knowing is obviously taking a test on the day your period would be next due.

Hmm, I'm somewhat concerned. When are you supposed to have your first appointment with a midwife? Mine is not booked until the week I will be either 11 weeks or 15 weeks along already, and I would have expected that it would be earlier than that... is this perfectly normal?

It should definitely be done before then... is that your booking in or your initial appointment to arrange your booking-in? My booking in was done at 11 weeks and the midwife commented that the surgery had left it a bit late as they needed to schedule the 12 week scan. If there's a chance you'll be 15 weeks gone before you've even seen the midwife for the first time, you definitely need to get in touch and tell them; there are certain tests they can only do before 15 weeks.

Thanks - I phoned them up again and they sound ridiculously busy at the moment; there are no scan appointments earlier than the 12th Feb and I got the only booking appointment before the 6th Feb - which is now next week. She said I should see what the midwife says and ask if the midwife can test how far along I am by taking blood, which might help a little. At least I'm seeing someone sooner than February!

Symptoms-wise, maybe you guys can tell me whether I sound more like I'm 7 weeks or 11 weeks along; I'm tired, I've been having headaches and sinus pain, I'm stiff all over, my tummy hurts basically ALL THE TIME, and my nipples sting like the devil, particularly when it's cold.

In other moans, my partner is being unsympathetic and it's pissing me off. I think he thought that being pregnant was meant to be fun and - his phrase - would have me 'glowing' with health. HA HA HA.

Honestly I've never used first responses. I only used the ones which work from the first day a period would be due, so I'm not sure how accurate the first responses are (though if the cost is anything to go by, they must be pretty decent tests. They're not cheap!)

If it's giving you a negative, AND you didn't have sex when you think you would have ovulated, then the chances are pretty high that you're not pregnant I'd say.

Sorry to be highly obnoxious but I took a test (admittedly a tesco one) today and got a negative result. Can I effectively be sure this is absolutely correct?