What are the PEOPLE who go to private schools like, versus state schools?

Original post by Red one

Is that meant to prove something? I already acknowledged that my statement didn't apply to every school out there but on the whole you'd be an idiot to disagree with my claims.

The naive thing is a misconception. If anything we know more about the value of money, there are no free school dinners, uniforms/trips or free this or free that. Many of my friends have jobs even. :rolleyes:

You really are naive aren't you? Jeez. As if to prove a point.

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Original post by Chlorophile

The one thing that stands out to me whenever I meet people from private school is their confidence. I attended an award ceremony once where a large majority were privately educated and I was completely surprised when random people approached me, asking to shake my hand and asking me my name and stuff.

I'm pretty much like that, I enjoy meeting new people! :smile:

Original post by itssimplyme

You'll be fine, just be yourself! You don't need to pretend to be something you're not :h:

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Having visited the school, I'm actually so chilled about going there. Everyone seemed pretty generally nice and eager to get on with others. However, people have been saying to me "Private school people are so snobby and they won't like you because you live in a council house." It certainly didn't seem like that when I was there, but then again, maybe they were putting on a front.

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Original post by kidomo

Usually the one that consistently scores the highest marks across all subjects :smile:

Seriously? :tongue:

I thought this was just a stereotype!

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Original post by AspiringMedic8

Really? Even with my sexuality and social background?

1.) Sexuality: Trust me, dude, you'll probably have a better time there. Homophobia and biphobia tend to be less bad at private schools than state schools from my experience (I'm bisexual). The stereotype that everyone at private schools is gay is untrue, but founded on true principles. Because the intelligence of people is higher on average, they're less likely to be homophobic. The only biphobia I've experienced has been from people outside my school, in the nearby state (obviously, most people at state schools aren't homophobic, but it's more rife there).

2.) Social background: People genuinely won't care. And if you're worried, you don't have to tell them. :smile:

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Original post by Obiejess

You really are naive aren't you? Jeez. As if to prove a point.

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Quote me when you've got the slight semblance of a sound argument.

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Original post by paradoxicalme

1.) Sexuality: Trust me, dude, you'll probably have a better time there. Homophobia and biphobia tend to be less bad at private schools than state schools from my experience (I'm bisexual). The stereotype that everyone at private schools is gay is untrue, but founded on true principles. Because the intelligence of people is higher on average, they're less likely to be homophobic. The only biphobia I've experienced has been from people outside my school, in the nearby state (obviously, most people at state schools aren't homophobic, but it's more rife there).

2.) Social background: People genuinely won't care. And if you're worried, you don't have to tell them. :smile:

That's good to know! I know homophobia probably won't be that bad, but would males be friends with someone who is not straight, for example?

Oh no, I will tell them, I want to be open. I was just wondering if they'd think I was a loser because my family's not very wealthy! :smile:

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Private school kids play cricket much better than state school kids in general, they play rugby union rather than league (blasphemous in the League heartland that is Yorkshire). In my experience they shop at Barbour and Reiss and Jack Wills, wear Y-3s or Sperry's on their feet. They know that polo is played in chukkas (a fact many commoners are not privy to). They reminisce usually fondly of school grounds and boarding. Some of them go foxhunting or clay pigeon shooting on their grounds (seriously). They tend to talk posher regardless of origin, I guess its just posho amelioration? Cashmere jumpers are always bang on trend to them and they say daddy past the age of 5. They also tend to look aspirationally at ostentatious watches and shotguns which most people would require a mortgage to purchase.

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Original post by Red one

Quote me when you've got the slight semblance of a sound argument.

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Original post by Red one

Is that meant to prove something? I already acknowledged that my statement didn't apply to every school out there but on the whole you'd be an idiot to disagree with my claims.

The naive thing is a misconception. If anything we know more about the value of money, there are no free school dinners, uniforms/trips or free this or free that. Many of my friends have jobs even. :rolleyes:

That sometimes the tables are turned. That 93% of the popuulation are animals and chavs? I'm an idiot then.

It's not, I have a lot of friends from independents, they generally don't get things like the average wage, that people age 12 have sex or how to handle yourself in a fight, when it vaguely kicked off in a club (rarely anything severe on a student night) they'd get in a right flap and be convinced they were about to get stabbed. Uniform and trips aren't free at state schools. How does having a job prove you're not naive? I am from a similarly middle class background to private school kids, my parents didn't send me as they though the local school was good enough (my dad ran it, couldn't really say anything ese), and without having been to such a school I know I would be naive, regardless of having a job and so on.

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Original post by paradoxicalme

1.) Sexuality: Trust me, dude, you'll probably have a better time there. Homophobia and biphobia tend to be less bad at private schools than state schools from my experience (I'm bisexual). The stereotype that everyone at private schools is gay is untrue, but founded on true principles. Because the intelligence of people is higher on average, they're less likely to be homophobic. The only biphobia I've experienced has been from people outside my school, in the nearby state (obviously, most people at state schools aren't homophobic, but it's more rife there).

2.) Social background: People genuinely won't care. And if you're worried, you don't have to tell them. :smile:

i go to a private school (and straight) and whilst i wouldnt say it's homophobic, i get the impression coming out in a private school seems far more scary than a state school. Private school kids are on the whole far quicker to judge and are slightly less accepting and most have adopted fairly conservative esque views in that sense. i guess in life you fear what you don't know though right

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Original post by Le Nombre

That sometimes the tables are turned. That 93% of the popuulation are animals and chavs? I'm an idiot then.

It's not, I have a lot of friends from independents, they generally don't get things like the average wage, that people age 12 have sex or how to handle yourself in a fight, when it vaguely kicked off in a club (rarely anything severe on a student night) they'd get in a right flap and be convinced they were about to get stabbed. Uniform and trips aren't free at state schools. How does having a job prove you're not naive? I am from a similarly middle class background to private school kids, my parents didn't send me as they though the local school was good enough (my dad ran it, couldn't really say anything ese), and without having been to such a school I know I would be naive, regardless of having a job and so on.

Whilst I agree with your point, I don't think you have to be a private schooler to 'not get' that 12 year olds are doing the frick frack :tongue:

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Original post by paradoxicalme

Whilst I agree with your point, I don't think you have to be a private schooler to 'not get' that 12 year olds are doing the frick frack :tongue:

Yeah, to be fair that was the ones who went to boarding school rather than day boys, though one of them genuinely guessed the average age to lose your virginity was 21!

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Original post by yoitsro

i go to a private school (and straight) and whilst i wouldnt say it's homophobic, i get the impression coming out in a private school seems far more scary than a state school. Private school kids are on the whole far quicker to judge and are slightly less accepting and most have adopted fairly conservative esque views in that sense. i guess in life you fear what you don't know though right

I think it depends on the school. Mine's pretty liberal (maybe to do with it being all girls?) so coming out here felt far less scary than I think it would've in the nearby state. I dated someone from said state school, and the one time the topic came up he would basically be passive-aggressive and try to make me be ashamed of it ('my friends will make fun of me', 'please don't tell anyone, they'll give me **** about it'). I've never gotten anything like that here.

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