Ladies help . Wifes monthly allowance

But she doesn't​ earn her own money. That isn't his fault.

But what you are outlining presents you as very much the dictator and is in fact very sexist, do you not agree?

Errrm was this meant for me?

You provide enough money for the costs of running the house and family, and then you work out how much money you're allowing yourself to have available for 'lifestyle' items (ie non-essentials), and you make sure she has the same amount to spend on non-essentials herself. I've been out of a job since 30th December and so we're surviving on my other half's income. Money is tight, but if he deems himself able to still afford, say, a computer game costing £30, he does not expect me to go without anything up to that amount. It's a joint enterprise, we support each other, regardless of who is bringing the money in at any given point in time.

Edit: The post above this has reminded me: looking after 'my house and my kids'... sounds like you should be paying her a salary on top of paying for the expenses, in that case, given that she's providing you with a service. I'm guessing you won't be able to afford that, so you might want to change your approach.

Depends on what you class as sexist . I can live with being seen as some what of a "dictator" if thats what you like to call it

So you wouldn't find it sexist if I said to another girl don't trust a man with a joint account hell just gamble and drink all the money away?

funny how many loud feminists on here are leeching off their husbands/bf's. this is at least the 3rd-4th time i see it in less than a month. and that's just the ones admitting to it.

yes because he is confining to the household to look after the children and do the housework, you know those roles that only females are allowed to do?

But she doesn't​ earn her own money. That isn't his fault.

So you wouldn't find it sexist if I said to another girl don't trust a man with a joint account hell just gamble and drink all the money away?

You provide enough money for the costs of running the house and family, and then you work out how much money you're allowing yourself to have available for 'lifestyle' items (ie non-essentials), and you make sure she has the same amount to spend on non-essentials herself. I've been out of a job since 30th December and so we're surviving on my other half's income. Money is tight, but if he deems himself able to still afford, say, a computer game costing £30, he does not expect me to go without anything up to that amount. It's a joint enterprise, we support each other, regardless of who is bringing the money in at any given point in time.

Edit: The post above this has reminded me: looking after 'my house and my kids'... sounds like you should be paying her a salary on top of paying for the expenses, in that case, given that she's providing you with a service. I'm guessing you won't be able to afford that, so you might want to change your approach.

Yes, it is. He wants her to be the housewife.

No, she's confining herself to the house by not having a job. What should she be doing instead? Having tea parties at her husbands expense? If she wants to be independent she would have to get a job. I am sure that if she were employed and the husband was not, he would stay at home and do housework.

haha ok then! I wish you look in finding someone who will put up with your such sexist and degrading opinions.

Any strong willed, attractive, well educated women would not put up with this bullsh^t soo good luck mate

Not really . But lets be real thats not even true . What is true however is that most women are extremely materialistic and are not as good as men at budgeting .

yes because he is confining to the household to look after the children and do the housework, you know those roles that only females are allowed to do?

he isn't allowing her to have a job? Have you not read it correctly? he wants a housewife who stays at home cooking, cleaning and whatever else?

the children will be 'there' children not just hers so why should he give an allowance to her to pay for herself and the children?

You sure about that lol

he isn't allowing her to have a job? Have you not read it correctly? he wants a housewife who stays at home cooking, cleaning and whatever else?