It is clearly her choice too. If she really did not want that life style she would not have got married or had kids with this guy.
When I met my other half, he made it clear to me from the start that I would work up untill we have children. I would then be a stay at home wife.
Yeah he rules the roost, but he never hid the fact that he would.
And this guy probably didnt hide it either, I dont know if all you feminists realise this, but there are still woman out there that actually like tradition and like being looked after by their man. They like to be the married wife, with the perfect house and well behaved children. They are feminin and look to their husbands for the financial support, and to make the decisions this makes them feel looked after, supported, they have no worries. Giving them a pretty easy life.
Thats the sort of life a woman should lead in my personal opinion. She should be the air and grace of her husband, she should be well groomed and look good by his side, its about looking good in society thats what we all want.
I know my other half wants me to look my best when I'm on his arm, he wants other men to be jelous, I as a woman want the cleanest house, I would be embarressed if a guest turned up to our home and it wasnt hoovered or their was dirty dishes on the side, of course its my role to keep up with the house work. I would be embarressed if any of our family or friends showed up and the house wasnt in order, what would they think of me? That I sit around on my butt all day doing nothing, I couldnt deal with that. Further more I wish to have the most beautiful, well behaved children. so putting all these efforts in to keep the house in tip top condition, raise the children and educate them to an acceptable or above average standard and also take care of my own appearance, to ensure myself and my other half are above average in the social ladder, I can't see what is wrong with that life style? & why the 'feminists' are so against it all.
Treat her nicely, Dont worry to much about giving a set allowance. Just let her know you appreciate what she does for you and your family
If she tells you shee is going for coffee with the girls, then give her a 20. more than enough for a coffee, but then will allow her to grab a sandwich just because the other girls are doing so, etc. Dont deprive her of sociallising when the girls are having lunch give her enough to cover the cost plus extra, she wont want the girls to think she is stretching her finances (again its about the social ladder, the social status) She will want to look as if money is no big issue. then she will prbably go a while without needing money, she will have no plans etc, and then all of a sudden she needs her hair done, again give her what she needs plus extra. If you want the change you ask her privately at home for it. You get the point, unless you both feel a set allowance would be in better interest? Although I feel as a woman having an allowance if I was given it on the monday I would probably splash it by midweek then when the girls want to meet on saturday for coffee I'd be asking for more money :P Just because thats what us woman are like (well most i'd say) So yeah just give her it as and when she would like/need it. Of course not excessively otherwise she will become a demanding bratt, but I think you get what I'm saying