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Original post by Ronove
So why would you use those threads as evidence that women drink beer?


That was a presumption, which Redferry also went along with therefore Accepted.
Original post by 0zzy94
IMO, a woman/mother will spend every penny on the family/child. Which is great, but therein lies the problem... You have a joint account, come home to find she didnt spend a penny on herself but the kids running around with £60 nike shoes which they'll out grow in 2 months.

At least thats what happens in my house....


That kind of sounds like my mum. She'll go out and buy nice things for everyone and even the dogs and nothing on herself.
Original post by Ronove
He's totally right though. I'd say what I've spent on dresses and shoes in the last five years could easily add up to the price of a '94 Ford Escort on brick stilts with 170000 miles on the clock and no road tax.


:rofl:

Damn you and your materialistic ways :awesome:
Original post by Enoxial
That was a presumption, which Redferry also went along with therefore Accepted.


It was a joke lovely.
Original post by theoferdinand
Ladies How much is a reasonable allowance to be giving to a wife ? Bills , clothes for the kids, food ,will be covered for by me . she will not be working but will be looking after my kids and my house . She Will be doing most of the running around and after school activities bar the sports for the boys . How much

My father lets his wife spend limitless amounts on the Centurion AMEX (just as I'm allowed, only I'm a Plat as I don't earn enough to qualify for Cent just yet) and she has 3.000€ each month freely available for anything required for the houses, food and travel, the 3k rolls over if it's not used in the previous month.

To me, what my father does, seems fair as she technically has limitless spending power and he picks up the tab, she also has her own money from her job too so, she's well looked after. Think about doing something similar otherwise you don't have a wife, you have a nanny.
Original post by Peace&Love
Does this idea of a good education for you children, apply if you have a daughter?


Why educate her when her intellect will be futile when she marries as she will not have independence/be able to have her own career?

I want to attend a good university and get a good job, why would I waste all my time to give this up as soon as a demanding man comes along who 'wants to take care of me'. personally, I don't need a man to take care of me, I can pay my own way and do things for myself!


Yes, it does apply to my daughter. I do not want any of my children to be uneducated, Regardless of their gender.
I have a good education and I am currently in a steady job. which holds a good status and is well paying.
If I have a daughter it is completely her choice, if she wants to be an independant working woman or a stay at home house wife when she is older. I will not percieve or influence her in anyway.
If she asks my opinion I will tell her what I have said here on this thread, but it is her choice.
Just because I would like the idealistic life style does not mean I am uneducated, or stupid.
Anything can be achieved if you work hard enough for it, and me and my partner are both working hard to ensure that when we start a family I can spend my time at home doing all the things I stated before, and he will not have to work all the hours under the sun, so he can actually spend time with his family.
We are well of financially, with or without myself being employed, so why should I neglect my home and children to sit at work all day?

I prepare the house, the dinner and when he gets home we can actually have family time.
And I have no doubt in my mind that I will live the idealistic life style, we are already 3/4 of the way there.

I dont know why all you females get so bitter, towards this kind of lifestyle. I believe the time will come where it will be offered to you, and you will lap it up in a second, if you dont you will spend the next 40 years of your life working and getting no where in the social ladder, whilst regretting your decision.
Also my dad spends far more on "materialistic" things than my mum...he'll just impulse buy a Gucci watch, or a £1,000 gaming computer. Been as we're using anecdotal evidence, that means MEN SPEND SO MUCH MONEY OMG!!11! DEY CANT BE TRUSTD!!!
Original post by Tyrion_Lannister
This thread is really angering me. Why are you all assuming these things? And the common place way you're saying it shows just how deep this goes into your thinking process


Because it's all true! True I tell you!

I once heard about this woman and she spent some money and she didn't even have a job.
Original post by Sherry1993
Yes, it does apply to my daughter. I do not want any of my children to be uneducated, Regardless of their gender.
I have a good education and I am currently in a steady job. which holds a good status and is well paying.
If I have a daughter it is completely her choice, if she wants to be an independant working woman or a stay at home house wife when she is older. I will not percieve or influence her in anyway.
If she asks my opinion I will tell her what I have said here on this thread, but it is her choice.
Just because I would like the idealistic life style does not mean I am uneducated, or stupid.
Anything can be achieved if you work hard enough for it, and me and my partner are both working hard to ensure that when we start a family I can spend my time at home doing all the things I stated before, and he will not have to work all the hours under the sun, so he can actually spend time with his family.
We are well of financially, with or without myself being employed, so why should I neglect my home and children to sit at work all day?

I prepare the house, the dinner and when he gets home we can actually have family time.
And I have no doubt in my mind that I will live the idealistic life style, we are already 3/4 of the way there.

I dont know why all you females get so bitter, towards this kind of lifestyle. I believe the time will come where it will be offered to you, and you will lap it up in a second, if you dont you will spend the next 40 years of your life working and getting no where in the social ladder, whilst regretting your decision.



So why put your good education and good job to the side just for your husband?

& going out to work is hardly 'neglect' haha

& by you being a stay at home mom is influencing her subconsciously because she she will see what you do and learn this as a norm when growing up
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Original post by Sherry1993
Yes, it does apply to my daughter. I do not want any of my children to be uneducated, Regardless of their gender.
I have a good education and I am currently in a steady job. which holds a good status and is well paying.
If I have a daughter it is completely her choice, if she wants to be an independant working woman or a stay at home house wife when she is older. I will not percieve or influence her in anyway.
If she asks my opinion I will tell her what I have said here on this thread, but it is her choice.
Just because I would like the idealistic life style does not mean I am uneducated, or stupid.
Anything can be achieved if you work hard enough for it, and me and my partner are both working hard to ensure that when we start a family I can spend my time at home doing all the things I stated before, and he will not have to work all the hours under the sun, so he can actually spend time with his family.
We are well of financially, with or without myself being employed, so why should I neglect my home and children to sit at work all day?

I prepare the house, the dinner and when he gets home we can actually have family time.
And I have no doubt in my mind that I will live the idealistic life style, we are already 3/4 of the way there.

I dont know why all you females get so bitter, towards this kind of lifestyle. I believe the time will come where it will be offered to you, and you will lap it up in a second, if you dont you will spend the next 40 years of your life working and getting no where in the social ladder, whilst regretting your decision.

Can you elaborate on what you mean by 'the social ladder'? And clarify for me whether or not you actually talk to other people at work? You seem to exclude them as social contacts.
Original post by redferry
Because it's all true! True I tell you!

I once heard about this woman and she spent some money and she didn't even have a job.


**** they're on to us!
Original post by Peace&Love
So why put your good education and good job to the side just for your husband?

& going out to work is hardly 'neglect' haha

& by you being a stay at home mom is influencing her subconsciously because she she will see what you do and learn this as a norm when growing up


I isagree with this. A woman being a stay at home mother does not set a bad example to her daughters. She shows her daughters women have a right to choose what they do
Original post by Tyrion_Lannister
I isagree with this. A woman being a stay at home mother does not set a bad example to her daughters. She shows her daughters women have a right to choose what they do


I didn't say its sets a bad example? Ok so, if your parents do not work and chose not to work so that they get benefits instead, why do children often grow up and do the same? If the parents are only presenting that they can do what they like and working is still good?
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Original post by theoferdinand
Ladies How much is a reasonable allowance to be giving to a wife ? Bills , clothes for the kids, food ,will be covered for by me . she will not be working but will be looking after my kids and my house . She Will be doing most of the running around and after school activities bar the sports for the boys . How much


This sounds so controlling tbh, "my kids, my house" what happened to "our kids, our house"? Fair enough you are the bread winner but this post doesn't come across like you have any respect for your wife. You shouldn't dictate how much she spends she should be independent enough to do so herself. Does she not have any source of income?!
what i've noticed over the years is when you give women more at one time they splash it. if you give it to them in smaller amounts, they think twice about buy more expensive food or cutesy women's stuff they don't really need. both my mom and wife do this so i just give them money every few days or so instead of larger sums at the start of the week or month.
Original post by Peace&Love
So why put your good education and good job to the side just for your husband?

& going out to work is hardly 'neglect' haha

& by you being a stay at home mom is influencing her subconsciously because she she will see what you do and learn this as a norm when growing up


I am not giving it up for my husband, I am giving it up because that is the kind of lifestyle I want, the kind we both want.
If I had met some one who, didnt want a stay at home wife and wanted me to go out and work everyday untill I was 70, I probably wouldnt be so inclined to marry him, because we would have different values, morals and tradditions etc, I would simply not take things any further as there probably would not be a connection in personality.

I'm not talking about hard neglect, where my children or house would be in a state of social services being involved, I am talking in general. Neglect in its lightest form. Of course you knew that, but just wanted to put what I was saying out of context.

I dont believe that. My mother, is a working mother and she wouldnt give that up (well not to my knowledge) but I have the complete opposite values to that, so your statement doesnt stand.
Original post by Sherry1993

We are well of financially, with or without myself being employed, so why should I neglect my home and children to sit at work all day?
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I dont know why all you females get so bitter, towards this kind of lifestyle. I believe the time will come where it will be offered to you, and you will lap it up in a second, if you dont you will spend the next 40 years of your life working and getting no where in the social ladder, whilst regretting your decision.


If you think looking after your home and children is a good and worthy thing to do, then why are you demeaning it by then saying - if that's all you are doing, you don't deserve to have any financial independence, and have to be dependent on the mood and whim of the salary earner? If you are a housewife, you should be treated like a child, and have to beg for sweeties?

You are the one denigrating what staying at home means. Not me.
Original post by Peace&Love
I didn't say its sets a bad example? Ok so, if your parents do not work and chose not to work so that they get benefits instead, why do children often grow up and do the same? If the parents are only presenting that they can do what they like and working is still good?


There's a difference between being uneducated and being educated. If a woman is a stay at home mum because she's forced to be, obviously that's a bad example, if she's an educate woman who chooses to be, and brings her kids up the same, obviously not
Right locking this because it has turned into arguments and gone way off course.