Girlfriend not showing enough affection.

Also, when I send her like a paragraph of text, saying hey, 'how are you, can't wait to see you etc', like today for example she responds saying 'just finished [activity], won 3-1' etc. and doesn't actually f***** read my f***** text or some s***. It's starting to really f*** me off. I mean, is she seriously that retarded?

She sounds like she's playing a sport. Perhaps she's busier than you and doesn't have the time.

Though it does sound like she doesn't care...

Yes she does play a sport - she is very busy which I have learnt to accept... But again, it's not hard to show affection to your other half really, is it? I know that she really does love me, I don't know whether perhaps she is slightly different to me in terms of education/surroundings.

Best thing to do is talk to her about these issues.

How do you know she loves you?

Do you just want to believe this because you love her?

I'm not trying to be mean, but you have to think about this, I reckon.

Also, when I send her like a paragraph of text, saying hey, 'how are you, can't wait to see you etc', like today for example she responds saying 'just finished [activity], won 3-1' etc. and doesn't actually ****** read my ****** text or some ****. It's starting to really **** me off.

Hi people,

I'll try to keep this short.

So basically, I'm with this girl who I met last year, we've been dating for several months now. I only see her once a week due to her being at college in another town. When we text, it just seems that she either doesn't give it much thought or isn't an affectionate person. Like I'm always saying stuff like (Hey babe, hey baby etc.) and she doesn't seem to reciprocate, which, for some reason really bothers me. Another thing that is frustrating is that when I see her liking pictures of other boys on instagram and all that s***. I know, I shouldn't be so bothered by it but I am. If it helps, she's 17 and I'm 18 (almost 19).

Well, it doesn't sound like she's all over you, or "in love". That doesn't mean she doesn't like you, I just think that she's not infatuated with you. The rest depends on what kind of relationship you want I guess.

Well, she's said many times that she loves me, never felt like this with anyone else etc. and that she wants a relationship with me. I did at one point ask her if she actually wanted a relationship or what sort of thing because she wasn't really showing it.

you are in what i like to call............

a pointless relationship

Fair enough.

Could you come up with some days out/in you could do together to bring you closer?

Good luck!

True, I mean, it could be the environment she lives in. I mean, she isn't the 'girlie' type if you sort of know what I mean. If this perhaps indicates anything, she was a bit of a tommy-boy when she was growing up.

I actually had this problem with one of my exes until she properly 'fell' for me. It might be that you just feel more intensely than she does. What you've said mirrors my experience with one girl. However, that doesn't mean to say things won't change, and she won't become more affectionate. All I can say is keep being supportive, and let things develop organically. Don't quiz her on it. If, after say several more months, nothing improves, then maybe consider ending it if she's not reciprocating. The ex I'm talking about didn't feel as strongly as I did till about a year into our relationship - then her feelings really kicked into gear. Give it time and see. As I said: just don't try and prematurely elicit those emotions. It won't end well

Yes, I know exactly what you mean and that could be a reason. On the plus side, if that's the case she's also going to be less needy, clingy, jealous, manipulative and controlling than a girlfriend who may be more infatuated with you / more overt in communicating her affections. I think you two could still have a great relationship based on physical attraction, friendship and respect. That's worth something. Personally I would prefer that to one based on infatuation (but I'm much older than you and probably more like your girlfriend to begin with). On the other hand, it is possible to have both, so if you'd rather look for someone who can give you both, that's fair enough. I don't think you'll be able to change her. I think that people are either demonstrative in their affections or they aren't. Again, it doesn't mean that deep down she doesn't like you very much, just that she's not the kind of person who feels the urge to put it in words or on show.

All that said, it's difficult to keep a relationship going at a distance when one party doesn't communicate that well for whatever reason. I think for you it may be easier to cut your losses now rather than try to make it work. On the other hand, I do think it could work, but it would be difficult, and more difficult for you because actually her personality protects her. You are the one who's going to do all the worrying.