Real talk: are most people relationship cheats?

In terms of a fair and objective judgment on both genders. Do the vast majority of people have the tendency to cheat? It seems as though everyone my age (22) has been cheated on at some point. An exaggeration obviously, but it is like there is not even a point to having a relationship anymore.

I think a majority of people (male and female) have at some point been tempted to do so, but most have not actually done it. It's quite normal to be tempted, monogamy isn't an absolutely natural state for many people.

One issue is, at a fairly young age, some people (male and female) have a lot of relationships. A lot of the people who have a lot of relationships do so because they are 'having fun' whilst young and so will flit from one to the next, cheating merrily along the way. Of course, not every partner is of the same mind. So one person might cheat on 5 different people in a relatively short space of time. It's well-known that some men and women attract sufficient numbers of people to be quite promiscuous in their youth, and of course the more temptation you have, and the higher you feel you have been placed on the pedestal of life, the more likely you'll be to act selfishly. The more you value a relationship, the less likely it is that you'll cheat.

I don't think a majority of people have cheated, but it doesn't take a majority of cheaters for a majority to be affected by them. However, I would say that it's quite common to find a happy relationship without this kind of problem.

Can't they just have casual sex relationships then instead of messing people's lives up? I really do not mean to sound conceited but i can easily get sex from many different women but i would not get into a relationship with them if i do not feel i am in love with them (as cheesy as that sounds). I have been placed on the pedestal myself in university especially, but i would never cheat on a girl because i would not get into a committed relationship with her without very good reason to do so.

When you enter the dating scene, and start seeking long-term commitments, you risk heartbreak and hurt, but by closing yourself off you miss out on the great relationships. I'd say that some people will cheat, but there are many more who wouldn't think of it. As for why, I suppose people can stray for a lot of reasons (not that it absolves them of their actions, of course); from feeling unloved, to being deeply attached to another person, to just being immature. Some people might be insecure and long for as much sexual/romantic validation as possible. Other times, people have just made some mistakes and they do come to regret them, it's just a matter then of whether or not they bother to learn anything afterwards.

As said by someone else, there's usually a warning sign or two that comes with a serial cheater; usually they have a dating history which regularly involves unfaithfulness. And yes, it would be wise not to ignore that sign (but when you're infatuated, and they seem so romantic, it's easy to tell yourself they'll be different this time..). And a lot of people also make excuses for their partner's unfaithfulness; I've lost track of the number of girls who actually try to blame it entirely on that "little slut", as though their boyfriend couldn't make his own choices. This really doesn't help things, it just teaches the person that what they've done is OK, and they're probably more likely to try it again. It's common for someone who has been cheated on to blame themselves. Which is a shame, since you have no control over how another person will act, and cheating is born out of an internal issue within them. It would be nice if people who were unsatisfied with the relationship would talk about it, or at least let you go in a graceful way, rather than keeping it going while they venture behind your back, but not everyone has that courage. I'd just say that there's a number of reasons why someone might cheat, and when you're still trying to find the right partner, you'll likely cross ways with a few wrong ones.

Where it gets more infuriating is when you have someone who knowingly strings another person along, like a 'safety net' to fall back on if they can't obtain another partner (whom they deem superior, for whatever reason). I know a few guys like this, actually. They really are insecure (and deeply selfish), usually sullen drunks, and tend not to consider other people's feelings if it's an inconvenience to them. These are the sort of people who take advantage of the naive and sensitive and insecure, and tend to squirm like a leech on a hot pan when called out on their behavior.

I can sadly say most people I meet have cheated in a relationship, I always hear of people getting cheated on, they break up but soon get back together and will eventually cheat again. I've been cheated on once, but I'm not the forgiving type so I never went back, I'm certain I made the right call.

I myself have never cheated, if a relationship isn't working and there's nothing to change that, it's better to just end it. This will hurt, but a whole lot less than getting cheated on. Although I've only been in a few relationships, I'm incredibly picky when it comes to a good personality.

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Guys? Women are just as selfish. Personally, i would rather cheat than be cheated on. Emotional attachment really sucks, i had one bad relationship years ago and that scared me way off, it's just too serious in terms of potential trauma. We're young people, we can do without that.

If I could get away with it, I'll probably be tempted.

Whether I'll carry on with it is a different matter.

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